Only banned once or twice. That said, always had a very clear policy following Wheaton’s Law (“Don’t be a dick”). People know when they’re being assholes. If they’re being assholes, they need to be somewhere else. This is a private party and if you piss on the carpet, you will be escorted off the premises. The clearer that is, the fewer people seem to feel a need to test limits.

There are a few people whom I’d ban on sight. Those are the known predators who have a history of causing game meltdowns or driving away vulnerable players. I wouldn’t invite a known predator into my house in real life, either.

On the other hand, a few people who have been problematic elsewhere, have turned new leaves on Keys and never caused trouble. Sometimes, people do learn from their mistakes and just need a fresh start.

The most arguments I’ve watched around banning and behaviour were on games where game policy was three pages long and waffling. The shorter and more concise it is, the less attempts to rules lawyer out of trouble. Because people do indeed know when they’re being assholes.

The odd thing is that I didn’t read any hostility in Warma Sheen’s messages. And if I did, is there anything wrong with responding with something like this?

“I appreciate you pointing out the inaccuracy. But I don’t appreciate the negativity it was phrased with. Please keep this in mind for the future. Thanks.”

It’s also good advice for Blood on the Clocktower.

@Pavel

I reFUSE. it’s made from nuts!!! come on

@Aria said in MU Peeves Thread:

At that point it’s not harassment, it’s just the other person being annoying by not taking the hint. And my dudes, dropping a hint is not clear communication. It’s deliberately vague communication,

Yep. My own experience with that was finding out that someone felt harassed by my asking for RP and chatting. Thinking, “Yeah, they never actually want to play and they never seem enthusiastic, but they always say they’re stressed/sick RL, and they always say ‘another time’ and they engage with the chat.” Everything about the interaction but the ‘hint’ in their tone said I should continue to reach out, and I thought that ‘hint’ was just them not feeling chipper because illness.

@Jennkryst a man in a brown jacket is pointing in front of a sign that says that 's true

Forked a whole lot over here:

https://brandmu.day/topic/624/banning-bad-actually/61

@dvoraen said in General Video Game Thread:

@MisterBoring said in General Video Game Thread:

@Meg & @dvoraen If you both like PEAK, I would also recommend RV There Yet?, which is basically PEAK + chainsmoking + getting an RV to the top of the mountain.

I have watched a few people play it, but it seemed like the kind of game that would make me rage quit. lol

It’s the ideal game for therapists to play instead of doing our notes. Lots of clinically inadvisable langage, do recommend.

@Roo said in Star Wars Age of Alliances: Hadrix and Cujo:

Why can’t we have a nice SW MUSH that is run by stable personalities, has a nice large-ish grid (As much as I think AoA’s grid is pretty expansive and nice, it’s a bit too much at times…), isn’t run by people cough Disc cough who are death on anything other than G rated stuff, while making sure that the place isn’t overrun by the Shang crowd.

Because everyone who isn’t me hates space code.

… okay, most people who aren’t me hate it, there are some folks who enjoy space trucking.

Udo Kier, legendary German actor from hundreds of movies and TV shows.

Life got hard and complicated, so I didn’t sell over half of my Arx Cat Tarot Decks. I didn’t mind, that wasn’t the point of their creation, and I’ve never been good at selling my stuff.

As of last week, however, in a small town in Kentucky, a witchy metaphysical shop has opened up, and thanks to my biological father being himself and showing off my work to strangers, I have sold twelve to the store’s proprietor and she’s just put in an order for at least ten more.

She’s commending me for the imagery and symbolism and she’s using my cards to teach her weekly tarot classes.

Whew.

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She made a display and everything!

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This is her favorite card.

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@Pavel Agreed. Self care and boundaries are important for game runners and staff too. In my experience this doesn’t get supported enough.

@Cobalt I’ve asked. I’ll message you privately if I get a bite. 😉

@junipersky I am glad you’re finally through. Appeals very rarely do anything in these cases.

@Superbia I don’t recognize the username, and basic attempts to check their post history did not work, so shrug

I’m a person who often joins and becomes invested in a game on a whim - I can’t tell what the formula is, but if a game is hoping to attract people like me who just hop in without knowing someone, at least some percentage of the playerbase needs to feel open to interacting with, chatting with, getting excited about new characters and new people. Not every game has to be that - I don’t mind the existence of games that are built with a network-only approach and are meant for people who already have connections to have a good time together.

But as a new player approaching an open game, seeing people only rping with one or two others a lot sets off yellow flags that a game isn’t a place where people have the time or energy to open their circles to me. I don’t mind reaching out a lot when I’m in the shiny new excitement phase, but in order to feel welcome, it helps to see signs that it’ll be reciprocated.

I don’t think activity checks or a quota on interactions with people outside of your circle are meaningful solutions, because activity requirements can’t generate enthusiasm.I’ve roleplayed in forums like Dreamwidth where gamerunners often have monthly activity rules. The rules don’t actually stop a game from slowing down, or dying, or becoming a playground for one group. But I think the urge to implement them comes from the wish to have a particular game environment. Two people playing alone in a corner aren’t hurting anybody - but the more people who are doing that, the harder it is for new people to jump in and have a good time, and a lot of games want, at least in theory, new people to have an easy time joining, to buff up the population as people need to slow down or leave for various reasons.

And on a personal level, I find its important to my RP enjoyment to be open to new connections, because sometimes my old connections can’t RP any more! And it’s so much easier not to be bitter and discouraged if I’m not rebuilding my character’s network from scratch.

@Tez was pointed out to me that you probably meant you need their email. Anyways, i asked and theyre all set but good to know!

@Superbia 🥳

As I said elsewhere – if I had a single spoon to spare from Keys, I’d be over here, rolling up an arrogant Alphatian nobleman. Prince Haldemar, move over, there’d be a new explorer in town.