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    • RE: Neitherlands

      I also come from a WoD background and know that non-consent doesn’t invalidate fade to black, and especially doesn’t allow forcing someone to play through potentially traumatic stuff. So, with regards to “I come from WoD where you’re lucky to have staff even acknowledge you before doing what they want,” I feel like this was a pretty old perspective even 15 years ago. IMO, one thing most successful/decent staff took from places where staff acted with impunity about your character’s consent was to at least check in on certain things. Even just a heads up of, “hey this is likely a combat scene, are you cool with that?” was pretty standard on several games which were non-consent MU*s. Player side, most games had a +warn system. All you’re doing is taking the worst elements of past WoD staffing habits and bringing them into a new generation and setting.

      Edit: Also this wasn’t intended to be a reply to helvetica, but the log output from inuki lol.

      posted in Rough and Rowdy
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    • RE: Celebrities We Lost 2023

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      posted in No Escape from Reality
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    • RE: MU Peeves Thread

      @Pacha said in MU Peeves Thread:

      I always find it a bit creepy when it is clear someone has someone else on watch and they start gushing over them on the channel when they log in, but haven’t even ; waved or said ‘hi’ yet.

      It also kind of bums me out if I end up logging in day after day and get tumbleweeds, but there is very clearly a group that are friends and treat each other logging on like the second coming of Jesus or something.

      Obviously there is nothing objectively wrong with these behaviours and people can say hi to who they want. But, it is a peeves thread and I am allowed to find the behaviour personally irritating, also!

      Seconding this. Sometimes I just need a minute to get my bearings, especially if I’m coming from work, dealing with the kids, trying to settle down myself. We’re no longer in the glomps era. The age of glomp is over, the time of “hey” has come.

      posted in Rough and Rowdy
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    • RE: MU Peeves Thread

      I hate my first week of trying to engage people on a new character. It brings me straight back to that feeling like when you switch schools, and on top of that I’ve learned that it takes me more than a handful of poses to find my character’s voice, with the end result that my ancient reptile brain tells me how awful I am while I’m trying to roleplay a social scene.

      Edit: Also, I am deeply anxious about asking for RP on a channel. Intellectually I know that if no one responds it’s not a big deal, but ancient reptile brain says that all of them secretly despise me and wish I would go away.

      posted in Rough and Rowdy
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    • RE: HannahBananna Ban Thread

      So truly they become HannahBANanna.

      posted in Comments & Feedback
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    • RE: Real Life Struggles/Support/Vent

      I just fully finished a really tough clinical rotation today. I’m not exactly sure why I expected I wouldn’t, but I had a pretty rough time of this whole exit process. For context I worked as a clinical psychology extern at a VA residential facility for homeless veterans who often had substance abuse issues loaded on top of PTSD, depression, anxiety (typically) and serious mental illness (more rarely). Since my emphasis is in trauma, I worked with people who were highly traumatized using primarily cognitive processing therapy, but occasionally prolonged exposure in addition to substance abuse treatment. During my final staff meeting, they did this thing called Thanks & Goodbyes (T’s & G’s) which is usually done with residents graduating from the program.

      The thing that got me the most was that I kind of assumed I was a background player, largely unnoticed and just nose-to-the-grindstone working with my patients. I had a large-ish case load and only taught a couple classes (dialectical behavior therapy, and CBT for Substance Use Disorder). It hit me that I kind of internalized this idea that I was separate from the team, so when people started expressing gratitude or talking about how they appreciated this or that about me I had no idea how to hold it and felt extremely awkward in the moment. I also have a history of substance use, and was very grateful to be able to help people who were currently in a material position that was similar to how I’ve lived in the past. A couple of my patients this year relapsed upon release from the program, and at least one of them died as a result of overdose following relapse, so I won’t say I did a perfect A+++ job, but I always did the best I could and advocated hard for everyone. Having been in that world, I know what it’s like to go through the sobriety/relapse cycle, and fall into an old habit that might be beyond your old tolerance.

      Anyway, due to a lot of other things in my life (child, spouse, research, work), I generally feel like I don’t have space to hold the kinds of emotions that I need to have about this experience, and I need to get it out somewhere else I fall into bad negative patterns (see above). So, here I am writing about it, I guess.

      posted in No Escape from Reality
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    • RE: Numetal/Retromux

      @thrax said in Numetal/Retromux:

      To the playerbase of Newbetal/Retromux

      An Apology to the fullest.
      It is true The player behind Kahula overstepped a non contact request.

      This is really all you have to say. It doesn’t really matter what you do or say to someone, if you’re explicitly hiding your identity to trick someone into interacting with you, it is (imo) bannable. There are some people out there who have completely destroyed their reputation in the hobby and often that infamy is not the kind of thing that people would just straight up forgive. I’m sure anyone reading this can come up with a handful of names of people that would immediately ruin the experience of a game if they were found to be there.

      I have no idea who Kahula is or was so I’m not going to speculate on whatever their reputation might be, but befriending someone on a separate platform without mentioning that you know each other – especially when they’ve invited you to a game which usually prompts a “oh, what MUSHes have you been on? Have we played together?” conversation – is such a red flag that it’s a specter haunting Europe.

      posted in Rough and Rowdy
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    • RE: Good things in Mushing

      People who actually act like a welcome wagon when you’re new and don’t know anybody and ask “do you want to meet so-and-so? They match your concept in such-and-such way.” It makes me feel like I joined a more natural community.

      posted in Game Gab
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    • RE: Predators and Roleplaying Communities

      @Aria said in Predators and Roleplaying Communities:

      @Wizz said in Predators and Roleplaying Communities:

      @Rinel said in Predators and Roleplaying Communities:

      Very few people who did not grow up as girls are fully aware of this problem.

      I am not going to go into a lot of detail as I find it honestly upsetting to remember, but I did want to say that both my own experiences with older players who knew sexually explicit discussion/roleplaying with me was not appropriate given my age – which I openly admitted to anyone I regularly RPed with – were with women, or at least players that presented as women.

      I am not trying to dispute ratios or anything like that, but I did feel like I should represent the fact that men typically vastly underreport sexual abuse in RL and it’s likely the case in the hobby as well.

      I shouldn’t need to say this, but…

      Yes, I can vouch that this is 100% true. On more than one occassion, teenage me offered to play the role of “weirdly territorial girlfriend” for guys I knew. It wasn’t a good way to handle it, but teenagers. We didn’t exactly have much in the way of appropriate skillsets for addressing the real problem.

      I was thinking about this yesterday, and I imagine that a lot of why my own experience was able to advance so dramatically (flying across state lines, and part of the ocean besides) was due to my being male. My dad did a decent job in protecting my sisters from abuse but there was that gender-enforced blind spot, I think. It makes sense, given that for a long time the prevailing attitude – which is thankfully on the decline – is that men/male-bodied people can’t be sexually assaulted, or it was often played for laughs in media. Gets a litle rough behind the tag.

      There are still men who say they wished that an older woman gave them sexual attention when they were teenagers/underage, including men who have recently said this to me in person after a recent sexual misconduct thing with female teachers to male students. I don’t typically disclose, but I use the “I’ve heard someone say to me…” and then list one of my experiences. To that end, I also had pictures taken of me. I was told that the polaroids would be scanned and uploaded if I were to stop talking to this person, and then later, if I told anyone about the relationship. Also that no one would believe me because “men” (I was a boy, but I distinctly remember this term being used) don’t get assaulted by women. I used to make so many excuses for her, and even during this whole thing I found myself writing things like “she was deeply misunderstood by her family and very isolated” or “she was only 21, so barely out of her teens herself,” “she told me that she had really bad self-esteem and couldn’t approach people, but I was different,” and more. We met in person once for a long weekend. She got mad at me on day 2 because I expressed some concerns about sex. She said my hesitation actually was because I wasn’t attracted to her, which is a bonkers thing to tell a child.

      Anyway, I think the big thing for me was that she said I was “mature for my age.” I really wanted to be taken seriously by adults back then and I was absolutely very precocious. She also complimented my writing and I desperately wanted to be a writer. It felt really good to be validated and to have someone tell me they loved me, I didn’t get much of that after my mom died. Not intended to be a piled on part of the story, just stating the facts.

      A lot of competency was assumed for me by my dad. He still is very proud that I got myself up, dressed, fed myself, and took myself to school and got myself back home starting age 11. My guess is he thought I had things under control/knew what I was doing. He obviously would not think that about my sisters at age 13-14. In fact, he tells a story about the lengths he went to to prevent my oldest sister from going to a concert when she was 14 because he was worried she would get assaulted.

      A kind of further note here is that I used my early MU* experiences to experiment with my sexuality since I was afraid of the bullying some of my out friends experienced. Maui is basically a giant small town and everyone finds out everything about everyone else. My dad was far more protective of me with older men when we moved to Oregon, but that was probably due to homophobia and the social expectations of what an abuser looks like. I did tell some of the men I roleplayed with my age.

      By the time I was 17 and an androgene goth kid, my age became more of an enticement for the men with whom I interacted. Nothing progressed past explicit roleplay at that point, but not out of lack of trying. Things became deeply unpleasant for me at home and I left around then, someone convinced me to move to Seattle. It was a bad decision. I won’t go into detail, but I think I’ve mentioned my difficulties with substance use in the past.

      I wanted to say: I’ve talked about these things in therapy before but for some reason I feel a stronger sense of catharsis from this group discussion/topic. I guess I always felt alone in my experience, even though I knew I wasn’t, so thanks to everyone for being as vulnerable as you’re comfortable with here.

      posted in Rough and Rowdy
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    • RE: Pets!

      Our cat has been limping for a few days (we recently had to move some furniture around and I think he might have knocked something over onto himself) so we finally took him to the ER. He’s a big indoor/outdoor boy and usually if he limps for a bit he gets better in a day or so if we move his stuff into a place where he doesn’t have to leap around. They had to have us do a drop-off and he was not having it. 😞

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      posted in No Escape from Reality
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    Latest posts made by somasatori

    • RE: RPing with Nobody

      @Faraday said in RPing with Nobody:

      @somasatori said in RPing with Nobody:

      I forgot that this was a thing on Ares MUSHes

      It’s not really Ares-specific. I first encountered this with people posting solo vignettes on LiveJournal way way way before Ares. More recently it was a thing on various games with MediaWiki/Wikidot wikis. I think it just gets a little more formalized/visible on Ares games because of the scene type tagging.

      Maybe not Ares specific. I meant more that other platforms typically don’t have a built-in journaling function.

      posted in No Escape from Reality
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    • RE: RPing with Nobody

      @Muscle-Car said in RPing with Nobody:

      There was this one very sad sack on a game I used to hang who would join group scenes then post themselves doing stuff solo, not involving or inviting anyone. Even to ignoring invitation. They’d get real miserable and start adding editorial in their own posts like “because she is not needed.” They had very bad traits in addition to that, but I’ll never forget how performatively alone they loved to be.

      I guarantee that this person deeply wanted someone to be like “oh, no, you’re a critical part of our group!!! you have to stay!!!”

      Ugh, haha.

      posted in No Escape from Reality
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    • RE: RPing with Nobody

      (Thanks @watno)

      I forgot that this was a thing on Ares MUSHes. Most of my experience with solo roleplay has been with solo TTRPG games. Speaking of which, there’s a new sourcebook for Cyberpunk RED called Single Player Mode, which has solo rules for play.

      I think there are some useful things with journaling in games, but it’s one of those things where you have to consider the point, perspective, and tone of what you’re writing.

      1. Is the actual point of the writing to be a journal for you? If so, it’s probably not going to be any more useful to have it on a website or wiki or something so that other people can read it. Having that is essentially a way to say “Hey, check out the depths of my character, wouldn’t it be cool to RP with me” rather than free creative writing.
      2. Is your perspective from your character’s internal thoughts related to something they’re witnessing, or are you mentalizing another character’s perspective? Even if you are taking a relatively positive view of someone else’s character’s perspective, it’s likely best to have a scene with that person.
      3. Is this journal going to make you feel worse about a situation that you’re in with your character? Is it going to cause an amount of bleed that would be unexpected beyond a standard scene? If so, for your own mental health’s sake, do not write it. That’s not to say “don’t write sad things,” but more “don’t get yourself further stuck in a rut if you feel your character is having problems that are causing you to relate too heavily to their struggle.” (i.e., consider the tone of what you’re writing)
      posted in No Escape from Reality
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    • RE: Strike Systems

      @L-B-Heuschkel said in Strike Systems:

      It’s fine to discuss politics. It’s not fine to propagandize –

      At this point in our digital society, any discussion of politics in a mixed space is vociferous propaganda. No one is changing their ideological opinions based on an Internet conversation. Discussions about politics are only civil when a) everyone agrees with what someone is saying; b) everyone is silent or ignores the topic in the general hope that it goes away; or c) everyone has been friends for many years and knows each other’s politics, which largely predate their friendship. Option c is becoming a rarity these days.

      RIP Max Horkheimer, you would have loved to hate the Web 2.0 era internet.

      Edit: the above applies to discussions about United States politics and may not apply to other countries.

      posted in Game Gab
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    • RE: RPing with Everybody (or not)

      Given my current schedule, I’m waiting for the “RPing with Nobody” thread

      (all good points from Gashly and LB)

      posted in Game Gab
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    • RE: Strike Systems

      @Jumpscare said in Strike Systems:

      Some people can change. Others can’t.

      Man, at this point I’m willing to believe that we’re all pretty firmly set in our behavioral ways when it comes to MUSHing and would argue that most, if not all, people in the hobby will resist changing. This might be due to my WoD-brain. It seems like the vast majority of the WoD MUSH sphere of influence has operated with deeply flawed and bad actors for such a long time that there’s this assumption that having the worst possible personality traits manifest and cause problems are just part of the hobby.

      Look at any recent shitty MUSH drama and you’ll see ghosts of the past in there. Recently I saw a game give a lot of chances to a player that multiple people insisted was different, had changed, etc., when they were up the same old shit in private. From overstepping boundaries to people on weird narcissistic power trips to people attempting to manipulate others for their own personal gain, it’s this long series of intergenerational MUSH trauma that’s persisted. And not to be a doomer, but it will likely persist until the end of the hobby because there’s this psychological ecosystem that provides a kind of parasocial and quasi-social connection where very emotionally abused people think this kind of behavior is normal from your text-based friends.

      posted in Game Gab
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    • RE: AI In Poses

      @Ashkuri
      a man with a mustache is pouring a bottle of whiskey into a glass

      posted in Rough and Rowdy
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    • RE: AI In Poses

      I have a question. What do you get out of MUSHing, a hobby wherein you write paragraphs at people in a turn-based format, when you’re not actually doing the writing? What’s the end goal there?

      posted in Rough and Rowdy
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    • RE: General Video Game Thread

      Unrelated to Grounded 2 (though I’m very excited about that!) is The Demons Told Me to Make This Game. It’s early access and only the first chapter is available, but it’s a Disco-like wherein you’re a demon(?) who possesses a couple different people to advance a storyline. Here are some screeners!

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      And (spoiler for plot stuff)

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      It’s so funny and very well written.

      posted in Other Games
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    • RE: MU Peeves Thread

      @Hobbie said in MU Peeves Thread:

      @Pavel said in MU Peeves Thread:

      @Gashlycrumb said in MU Peeves Thread:

      the reality of housing shortages

      I’ll have to make a note to include that when I launch my Vampire the Masquerade: Sydney by Night game.

      Oi just be daring and set it in somewhere like Campbelltown. People can still afford to buy there.

      Not that they want to.

      Not that they should.

      Would love to sit here and have a whinge about this very topic but that’s a whole other… topic lol.

      Well, it’s not California or Texas so that in itself would be a draw.

      posted in Rough and Rowdy
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