If you’ve been turned away from a game, or know that you’re probably not welcome on a game-- DON’T SNEAK ONTO THEM.

When people don’t understand basic thematic elements, can’t handle any kind of pushback, and spend all their time bitching about a person putting up so much as a shred of ‘no, thanks’.

I left my job of many years for a much better job but holy shit am I tired all of the time now. I just want to not be tired. I want to feel like I’m not scraping the bottom of the barrel for my creativity. I want to feel like I’m not falling into the FOMO pit.

I know it’s temporary and that by September I’ll probably be in a good groove and things won’t be as draining, but GD. I have so few hobbies and this is one of them, lol.

All I could do was laugh at seeing that my ban was permenant. I’ve never been banned anywhere in 20 years of MUing. I never even had a “serious” conversation about my behavior. No warnings. I’m as interesting or scandalous as toasted white bread with nothing on it.

But I’m banned for asking why Gany didn’t just lock some threads or step away. Makes sense.

Now and again just slammed full force with how deeply you just can’t and it’s not anything specific. Just. A. Big. Mental. Nope.

@Gashlycrumb said in MU Peeves Thread:

ie, having a life.

not just specific to this but lol can we stop using this as something to bludgeon one another with

everyone has a life

unless you are not alive

even then you have an afterlife!!

I had surgery about a month ago now that has really just jacked my whole life up as I recover. But this weekend I met up with a pair of MU friends and it was a really nice reminder that things are OKAY and fun and enjoyable.

Shoutouts to:

@Tat For being consistently impressive with worldbuilding. I watch the way you put pieces together and then tear them out and then put them back in and it’s something that I wish I could do with anything nearing your quality level. Being able to work with, alongside, partial adjacent to you has really helped fuel a lot of my own growth, especially when it comes to constructively receiving feedback.

@Herja For being a terrific GM that comes up with excellent plot hooks and twists. For being a person constantly on the look out for new ways to catherd RPers and forward direction. For being a person willing to say “the line is here” which is frighteningly hard to do.

@Apos Someday we will let you out of the char gen mines.

But seriously thank you for all the jumping into the deep end on code you’re doing. It sounds terrifying.

@KarmaBum and also @bear_necessities For creating a series of fun games and being plain and straight forward about the type of weirdness they won’t tolerate on them (but for some reason continuing to let me in the door despite endless threats to RP watching Lord of the Rings ICly btw is that available to stream on Glitch asking for a friend).

I’m a working person with a full time job that just took on a side gig so I can get ahead, a parent, a spouse. Idk who has time to worry about other people’s friendships.

My internet friends are my friends. If I stopped being friends with them, I’d have a whole hell of a lot less friends and that just seems silly when you’re an adult and making friends is hard as hell???

I didn’t get a promotion at work despite being more prepared for the role because a man existed who was older than me.

Who had applied for a lower position? Not even the one I was applying for.

An external candidate.

@bear_necessities said in Staff Bits Linking Handles:

ETA: I would also play anything @tsar made so long as it’s Janitor: the MUSH. I’m still waiting @tsar

We were janitors once!! And you threw it all away!!!

@Trashcan said in Grid vs Web Scenes:

@KarmaBum said in Grid vs Web Scenes:

The only flaw I’ve found is that, if you then change the location using the portal, it keeps the original room desc in the scene info.

I thought this for a long time before discovering that instead of going to ‘Edit Scene’ and changing the value for Location, there is an honest-to-god ‘Change Location’ BUTTON under the ‘Play’ menu.

EXCUSE ME WHAT

For my personal RP, I’m honestly good with whatever at this point. If I’m in a scene that takes a few days, sure. If it takes a day, great. Whatever works for me and the person I’m playing with and how our energy lines up. I try gauge who I’m with too, and adjust if I know I’m RPing with someone who enjoys a shorter and more to the point scene.

I will not GM async scenes if I can ever help it. If I’m GMing, I need to be in the zone and I want to get in there, tell a story with you and get you back out into the world. It’s like a MISSION.

@Pacha said in MU Peeves Thread:

Yes, they are volunteers, but if they were volunteering at the dog shelter, I would still expect them to at least show up, keep the lights on and at least put some food down, even if they can’t manage to take them all on a walk.

The different is, the dogs can’t leave at a dog shelter. That’s an accepted responsibility that you agree to when you agree to volunteer at a dog shelter.

The players can leave my game if they’re unhappy or if they don’t feel they’re receiving the attention they deserve. I think everyone should go and play on games that give them joy and relief from the absolute horrors of everyday life.

But you can’t convince me that running plots on a game is the same responsibility as caring for living, breathing beings in a real caretaking sense.

I think the biggest pull for a game, more than theme, is how excited the game runner is to be there. If you’re connected, if you’re putting in the energy-- you’ll get someone. You might not get dozens and dozens of people, that’s rare these days anyway. But frankly you can run a very successful game with a core group of players who are excited with you.

Don’t plan out every single detail of the scene. Go in with a vague idea of where you want to go, players are insanely good at filling in the details for you.

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I can’t really get behind this concern that all the people will leave if their friend is banned. Maybe they will, but maybe that’s just the price you pay to save yourself months of headache.

Maybe their friends are also kind of problematic too.

Sometimes games are small. That’s okay. I have a similar banning policy on CC as Ada does. I am one GM. I work more than full time. I parent. Unfortunately, this means I’m not in the position to uplift people who aren’t able to play nicely with others.

But I want to tell stories, so I will.

RIOT

@Pacha said in MU Peeves Thread:

Honestly, I have not spent the intervening time stressing about it or plotting heinous acts of revenge,

lol oh thank god, what a relief.

TBH me finding out at all was a total fluke of someone mentioning it in my presence and I was like what?

And yeah, you’re totally okay using this forum for its purposes. I can completely understand logging onto places and feeling like the other players don’t really notice that I’m there or I’m just existing around the outskirts. I think it happens to pretty much everyone at some point, and it almost always sucks.

If you see me out in the wild sometime, drop me a page! Maybe we can get a scene in!