@Warma-Sheen said in Star Wars Age of Alliances: Hadrix and Cujo:

How much worse would it be to have to experience harassment and also be swiftly booted from the game because the harasser false reported you first and was believed without question so that you got banned and couldn’t report him? No thanks.

oh my god, what a horrible hypothetical situation to imagine, surely it must happen all the time since we hear about it so often

Like. Dude. Even in just the ten years I’ve been on the various incarnations of this board, I could only count on one fucking hand the number of times we saw someone report a false report that wasn’t almost immediately dismissed with ridiculous ease because it was just the dumbass abuser themselves trying to cover their tracks.

This is such a non-problem versus the enormous issue of harassment in the community that it makes me actually angry people push so hard like this to make reporting and being believed so difficult. This is not a court of law and collecting this irrefutable body of evidence y’all always seem to want is literally the last thing on the mind of someone being stalked, abused, harassed, etc. It’s an enormously stressful and honestly embarrassing experience that can leave you too scattered, not to mention staffers like Cujo and the flying monkeys the abusers surround themselves with magically always seem to decide that it’s never enough anyway.

My son’s teacher reached out to me on a conference call with his principal today very concerned. There were some legitimate reasons, but one of their items of evidence of inappropriate behavior was a “drawing of Satan.”

His class was tasked with drawing Nutcrackers after seeing the play, and…

This is the picture, loooooooool.

It’s a goddamn Super Saiyan from Dragon Ball.

Never change, Utah. I am honestly annoyed that they escalated this in particular BUT ALSO I have been cackling like a swamp witch for a good fifteen minutes since she sent it to me. I needed that laugh so bad.

When I was a teenager playing a Final Fantasy game, instead of simply OOC fading to black during romantic scenes where sex was heavily implied, I would write these elaborate little…intermission paragraphs (???) where a “chibi” version of my character would drag a protective curtain/screen/etc across the fourth wall, and then take a little smoke break or whatever before pushing it back off stage for the post-coital pillow talk. Every time.

I HAVE NO IDEA WHY I DID THIS, I AM SO SORRY

@kalakh said in Bannings:

derp, this thread’s anger summed up in two words:

we are not a community.

We were.

Not to dismiss that anger at all, but just to speak for myself, I always considered complete and utter dipshits like Derp and Ghost to be the narcissistic and annoying outliers in an otherwise pretty decent and engaging group of people that they just happened to desperately seek to belong to. To be frank everyone who kept me coming back to the boards for five years or whatever are more or less here now.

Y’all didn’t lose the community, you lost a website and a few bad apples. Personally that’s just one big ¯_(ツ)_/¯ to me, even if it was one of the shittier ways it could have happened.

I am bummed Gany made the decisions she made, that’s certainly disappointing from someone I have had a lot of respect for, but hopefully she sees the light someday. As for the other pigs wallowing in the mud back there…I mean, nothing of value was lost imho and I always figured they were bound to drop off under the weight of their own toxicity eventually.

Hope you all can find some healing in getting away from all that.

Alucard is very camera shy and always tries to scoot off when I’m taking pictures, but I finally managed to capture this beautiful portrait featuring his magnificent whiskers, lol:

@hellfrog

The “oh I gotta do some MANLY LIFTING from my TRUCK for my WIFE” is really what makes it for me. It wasn’t enough to lie, it had to be some macho shit too.

They all just randomly came and piled on top of me.

Guess I just…live here forever now.

@KarmaBum

Seriously, though. I don’t think I have seen a more fucking weaselly response in…ever?

@RedShoes said in Star Wars Age of Alliances: Hadrix and Cujo:

All sexual harassment claims are taken seriously though, and if deemed valid, and actively a serious burden, then expect that player to get banned.

Oh, it’s not enough that it is “valid,” a claim also has the mountain to climb of proving that is actively a serious burden.

I just…what. Actively a “serious” burden. So, what, people who aren’t harassing…enough(???) just skate on by, according to that standard.

It can’t be said often enough, fuck that dude.

@Rinel said in Predators and Roleplaying Communities:

Very few people who did not grow up as girls are fully aware of this problem.

I am not going to go into a lot of detail as I find it honestly upsetting to remember, but I did want to say that both my own experiences with older players who knew sexually explicit discussion/roleplaying with me was not appropriate given my age – which I openly admitted to anyone I regularly RPed with – were with women, or at least players that presented as women.

I am not trying to dispute ratios or anything like that, but I did feel like I should represent the fact that men typically vastly underreport sexual abuse in RL and it’s likely the case in the hobby as well.

my big guy loves to just come flop back and nap like this on my tum, it’s such a bright spot in my life

@Evilgrayson

that last part read like something Liam Neeson should have been growling into a phone and now I feel like I missed something, lol.

@Testament said in MU Peeves Thread:

another mush-related forum website

@hellfrog

how many people? sure.

@Faraday said in Bad Stuff Happening IC:

I don’t know if it was just so alien to them that someone would willingly set their own character up for humiliation, or if they just genuinely thought I was dumb because my character did something stupid or what.

I don’t have any like professional psychology background or anything outside of personal experience to reinforce this opinion but I honestly think it’s projection. I think a lot of players have a very strong image of their own characters in their minds as someone who is strong/unflappable/cool, someone who can maybe suffer setbacks but not actual outright embarrassment, because it’s part of the power fantasy they play for. so having something happen to embarrass a character in their minds just doesn’t fit with that narrative and makes them upset.

also, separate but related, it’s kind of an unspoken problem how many players really do just suffer like insanely uncomfortable amounts of bleed.

@Roz

if the embarrassment feels like the other player’s intentions were to embarrass me as well on like an OOC level, I am 100% with them. but one of my fondest memories of the hobby was having my character unexpectedly embarrassed in front of others in a way that revealed something to me about him and their character, that we kept playing into and had so much fun with later.

it absolutely comes back to trust, though. I knew that player was trying to make a compelling twist in the story, not be cruel or petty to me.

yeah, I think the common denominator in all our opinions regardless of how we voted is going to be: we want a fun story, and a hugely important factor in what makes it fun is that it feels fair even if it’s a loss.

yesssss…ruin my character’s lives

bring all their dreams to naught

FILL THEIR MOUTHS WITH ASHES

@somasatori said in Celebrities We've Lost 2025:

Edit: Evidently, they were murdered by their son.

People Mag willing to just jump on that conclusion within hours seems pretty irresponsible unless their sources are like…the son himself, so. still taking that with a small grain of salt. enormously tragic either way, those two were absolute legends and it makes me heartsick.

@Lemon-Fox said in Star Wars Age of Alliances: Hadrix and Cujo:

@dvoraen You could app a character in? 2000 bonus xp right now.

it does line up with my own anecdotal experience to a degree, though I do need to qualify that with, it’s pretty split along political lines in my family and their homeschooling communities. because of course it is.