Павел Семёнович Куликовский

Pavel

Obviously, receipts are handy but they’re not a requirement. And I’d (speaking only for myself, though with a polite nod in the direction of that Admin tag) rather not make posting every shred of evidence possible the expectation here.

Pavel

Client: Well, I’m gay.
Me: Mhm…
Client: And… that’s okay?
Me: slow swivel in chair to look at giant Progress Pride Flag on my wall
Me: slow swivel in chair to look back at client
Client: happy tears

Being a client’s safe space to come out is a gift that keeps on giving.

Pavel

I love that. More gamerunning folk should feel… allowed, for lack of a better term, to do this sort of thing.

Pavel

@Jumpscare said in Star Wars Age of Alliances: Hadrix and Cujo:

That means that since the birth of BMD, no other game has negatively affected MU* players as broadly or as painfully as Star Wars: Age of Alliances.

A board of women, queers, and allies reacting strongly against sexual misconduct and anti-reporting prejudice… Isn’t that how we started in the first place?

Pavel

For posterity, I present thus:

Tracy is a man and he is a very hansome and manly man.He likes women a lot and women like him too but men think he is compitishion.He has very long brown shiny hair everywhere and a little blue eyes that are mostly green but very hansome anywya.You can tell a lot of things from his eyes.He has a very big bulge in his jeans where the dick would be and it is not a sock because it makes all women almost orgasm with desire.Behind him is a very firm muscled ass that makes you want to slap it and play with it in lots of ways but only if your a women.If you are a man you will die if you touch it because Tracy is strong and very not Gay.If you are a women he winks and smiles at you and thinks you have a nice personality.If you are a man again he frowns at you and it makes you not hit on him or on any women when hes here.He likes lots of women very much and likes very few men but not as boyfriends.And he has a shitr which is nice and blue.I mean shirt sorry.

Pavel

@hobos said in Bannings:

From what I’ve seen, you are a people with boundless empathy, but you choose who to direct that towards.

Not to really engage in the debate, here, but that’s literally the same as everyone else.

Pavel

So obviously it’s a very dark time, horrid things incoming and so forth…

But did anyone actually have The Onion buying Infowars on their 2024 bingo cards?

Pavel

Me. I’m a good thing about mushing.

And this isn’t a throw away joke, or an ego thing, or whatever. But I’ve finally been able to arrive at the conclusion that yes, my RP is good. My events are good. My being present on a game is good. And I’m finally free to feel that I am good enough.

So there. Me. I’m a good thing about mushing.

Pavel

@Warma-Sheen said in Los Angeles 2043: A Blade Runner MUSH - Discussion:

Just because you can open a game on your own doesn’t mean you should.

You should. It might last, it might not, but at least stuff’s being made even for a moment.

Pavel

@GF We’re for taco Tuesdays, no-pants Fridays, and the violent and utter overthrow of the capitalistic, white-supremacist patriarchy. And tea.

Pavel

@Kestrel That’s not at all what I said.

ETA: But, of course, also important to remember.

Pavel

It feels even worse, for me, when someone oversteps something that I didn’t know was a boundary until after they stepped over. So you feel, in a way, violated but you also know that you can’t really be angry at them—you didn’t know, they didn’t know.

Pavel

@Aria said:

Am I even real, you guys?

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Pavel

It’s complicated; every client is different, etc, etc., caveat, caveat…

Therapy, at its core, is helping someone to make a change.

Often, what a client thinks they need or want to change isn’t at all what they need to change, and it’s part of a therapist’s job to help a client explore those unseen avenues.

Admittedly, my scope is typically working with survivors of domestic abuse—there’s something delightfully fulfilling about being a Safe Male Figure in someone’s life for, perhaps, the first time. But the intention is the same: Help a client uncover maladaptive or dangerous behaviours, thought patterns, etc, and then with time help them overcome the need for such strategies, untangle the core of their particular problems while also helping them mitigate the impact of their, for lack of a better term, symptoms.

If all a therapist does is validate and ego-boost, they’ve failed both the client and themselves. That’s an emotional fluffer, not a therapeutic partner.

Pavel

@Gashlycrumb said:

Also because you are probably at least somewhat aware that therapy generally does not teach abusers not to be abusive. It teaches them to use concepts and terminology from therapy to be better at abuse and victim-blaming. The therapist’s job is to improve their client’s, in this case the abuser’s, well-being. The therapist isn’t working for you or everybody else around this guy. So “I will reach out to my therapist about this” is pretty much the opposite of addressing the problem. Really it goes, “I will talk to my therapist, who will almost certainly give me reasons I am not really in the wrong here and help me more effectively reverse our roles so you’re wrong and what I did is no big deal.”

Yeah, that’s fuckin horrible, incompetent, and unethical therapy. Sadly common, but that’s not how it’s meant to be.

Pavel

@hellfrog It’s like dating. Show an interest in the other person/people, have a sense of humour, and be open to trying new things at least once.

Pavel

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Giphy works.

Pavel

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Tenor links may not work, so you might have to have or build your own gif collection. Mebbe.

Pavel

@MisterBoring But one can still add gifs with the image link button. Less handy dandy more clunky monkey, but it’s an option!

Pavel

@MisterBoring Either that or the game just produces the generic “Huh?” ‘I don’t understand’ message until you type it out.

Павел Семёнович Куликовский

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