Had this linked to me on Discord, made me lol:

I don’t have a horse in the Star Wars MU* race, but I do have a very vested interest in not hearing after the fact about how underage porn happened on a MU*.

(And yes, I do consider it EXTREMELY LIKELY TO OCCUR when underage characters and players are permitted on a MU* with an R-rating.)

You are setting yourself up for potentially serious consequences. So let me make it clear:

DO NOT ALLOW UNDERAGE ANYTHING

@HannahBananna said in Silent Heaven: Small-town Horror RPG:

@Pavel Thankfully if you had any of the four you’d be smart enough not to start shit with someone who’s obviously always been above you. This ain’t my way of asking. My way of asking was going onto the discord server and politely asking, like an ADULT, something you are STILL proving you’re incapable of being. This is my way of continuing to be an adult and taking away the toys of people who want to be spoiled brats. Like you. Daed.

If this is your way of being an adult, you have a very misguided definition in your mental database.

@Roz said in People Doing Things:

i don’t know if most arx folks have noticed the number of code contributions @dvoraen has made to arx, but i have

@Ashen-Shugar So let’s see if I can explain why I disagree with a metaphor. This is how your point comes across, to me:

I own a building. A crime happens in my building. I’m culpable for the crime because I own the building.

So I suddenly am expected to a) track what goes on in the building; b) had any control whatsoever about what happens inside the building.

That’s ridiculous, and most certainly not how it works in today’s society, otherwise companies and schools would be liable for the mass shootings that happen inside their areas. It’s an absolutely absurd take.

I reject the idea that I need to tacitly monitor everything that happens on a MU* I run because someone might do something illegal. That’s like saying I should wiretap my neighbors because they talked about where to hide a corpse, because I live in the same apartment complex. Oh no, they did something bad, clearly I need to have been more responsible to make sure it didn’t happen so I could tell the cops, to the point of being unethical and invasive in my methods!

No.

Preface: This is not a request for sympathy, forgiveness, or even understanding, because I have no right to ask for any of that.

To start off, I’m posting this because my brain will not shut the fuck up about it even over a week later. I’ve tried to distract myself from it, but the issue will not stop harassing me. It keeps resurfacing. I do wonder if it’s a byproduct of being on the autism spectrum and/or ADHD (and the fact I really take rejection hard), but I don’t know. All I know is that I have to get this off my chest.

I’m not going to answer questions about the details. I’m deliberately leaving out the who and where and focusing solely on the what. Some of you already know about this, because you were involved and/or can guess from my username, which I use in multiple locations (Discord and more), but I don’t want to sweep what happened under the rug and assume everything will be fine. Because it’s not, in the abstract.

Anyway, to make a long story short, I had my first experience with being disinvited from a game. I still can’t really identify what it was I said or did that led to me being approached and told I should go because of my conduct that made other people uncomfortable. There were no sexual propositions or anything of the sort, but the discussion was that my conduct on channels as a guest and during chargen had been noted, and the sum of it led to me being effectively asked to leave.

I was absolutely shocked and anxious over it, sitting in my chair reading that, because no one had voiced any explicit concerns to me saying there’s an issue until that moment, but at the end of the day what mattered was that I did something that bothered other people to the point that staff had to get involved and say this isn’t the place for you. My response was “Alright.” and that I’d take my leave, and I logged off right after.

I can only remember talking on public channels and paging three people, two of which I’ve spoken to multiple times on other games and/or Discord. One of those two explicitly asked me when I was getting my butt approved. I’ve come to the conclusion that matters have silently changed with the second of the two, and as such I needed to keep my distance from them, including Discord. So I chose to silently break contact, left DM groups, and have tried to not interact with them.

Anyway, I peeked at the game site, got the message my site was blocked from the portal, and wondered why I went there in the first place, even if it was just to hit the logout button. It was a stupid thing to do, but I still did it.

So yeah. I did something, the aftermath is bothering me still, and the worst part is I still can’t identify to myself what behavior of mine is the problem.

That’s all.

I don’t feel like copy-pasting from MSB, so I’m just going to go into recent history as I can remember it, with a few special mentions.

UPDATED - Feb 11, 2024

Current

• Concordia - Alistair (& Ser Silvertail)

Inactive

• Luminiferous Aether - Anthony

Past

• Various Wheel of Time MU*s - Svoran*
• The Fifth World - Jor
• Crossroads - Svoran*, Jaeden
• Flight of the Golden Crane - Jaram
• Kushiel’s Debut - Piers
• Arx 1.0 - Bhandn

* Everywhere I transplanted Svoran (most of them WoT games), it was for character research. “How does he think and react to X situation?” In my personal writing, Svoran is the one character where I could not get into his headspace without character research. Plus, I could not figure out how grumpy he was on average, and to whom, why the fuss, etc. I think I’ve finally figured him out, but this was a 20+ year endeavor to iron him out into his current form in my writing.

MU*ing has been a godsend with figuring out character mindsets, to the point I stopped doing character research because my writing felt more mature as far as figuring out how to write people as people, if that makes sense? But for a while, I was playing some characters from my personal fiction of Aldera to try and figure them out. The irony of this is: THEY ALL CHANGED DRASTICALLY DESPITE THE RESEARCH. (Now, they’re nothing like the “researched” versions were.) Go figure.

@crawfish I think I speak for a lot of people when I say this:

EEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE

I LOVE THEM

I just want a tl;dr of what dragon colors and styles mean, since I haven’t read any Pern books.

@Pyrephox I would advise you not to force it, as someone who’s been in this position for a number things (although my depression tends to help a bit here). Point being, I was trying to force my enjoyment of games (not just MU*s, any games), and I ended up becoming increasingly dissatisfied. Months passed of this and I eventually got tired of that feeling and took the plunge to step away.

About two weeks ago I suddenly had the urge to restart one and it’s enjoyable again. Because I’m not forcing myself to sit down and do it; that’s for schoolwork.

On a MU* note, I’d all but quit from lack of drive. I wasn’t planning to start any new characters or anything, but one day virtually out of nowhere a character concept dropped into my head, latched on like a barnacle, and I find myself excited to take him for a spin when the time comes.

But again, it wasn’t because “Oh I HAVE to do this”; it’s because I let it come to me. Did I want to play games and other MU*'s while feeling in a slump? Yes. But forcing myself into something to try and enjoy it felt like work, and that’s completely counter to the idea that it’s for fun.

So yeah. Give yourself permission to take those steps away and if it comes back to you and excites you again, yay!

@Faraday This is my initial, immediate reaction, so I have not really sat down and thoroughly thought this through.

• tour lets you create a (temporary) character flagged as a guest, with a hardcoded -Guest — or equivalent, maybe (Guest)? — tacked on to the name for communications purposes. The flag and moniker/suffix indicating a guest character would poof if that player applies and is approved.
• Players “could” have the option to specify a name when touring (admin setting?) or use a predetermined one chosen from a list (also admin setting?). This is one point I haven’t thought all the way through, because of the potential abuse factors (such as harassing and/or impersonating players with similar names, even with the clear “GUEST” designation that would be appended).
• Should guest/temporary characters have their own database table? That would largely deal with the need to track them as far as data goes (e.g., preserving communications), but I did not dig into the database part of the Ares codebase to see how you handled characters in general, or if this would be an absurd refactor. It would be a much easier process to purge (all of) them when they’re in their own table, though, if the need arises. Name collisions would have to be a special check, though, not to preach to the choir.

On a less technical side:

• I’ve wondered why I’ve seen some games have their Guest characters get into the teens for numbering, because I had thought Guest chars were recycled on disconnect, so I always wondered how this was happening.
• I was never really a fan of the “anonymous” guest nomenclature, tbh. Thank the creepers and other memorable folks (hi Jill!) for that.
• Being able to preserve guest communications would be useful insofar as potential players is concerned. This is partly why I mention the possibility of conditionally allowing “real” character names for guest characters. Certainly, they should be able to rename (once?) during chargen when they want to be serious about playing. (The rename would be part of the actual application. This does put an onus on staff for name vetting.)

@Prototart said in I need an adult:

@Pavel said in I need an adult:

@dvoraen said in I need an adult:

FEMININE, BUT DEADLY

Ideal for the kiss of death. Looks can kill, but seal it with a kiss. Tho-Radia: A special job a day keeps the children at bay.

The ads write themselves.

we are so smart and the nuclear regulatory commission is so, so stupid

I mean, that kind of makeup is almost literally a glow up.

@Prototart said in I need an adult:

anyway this is now a beauty thread and Erin Parsons found radium lipstick and i am making it everybody’s problem

THO-RADIA

So it’s femme fatale makeup? FEMININE, BUT DEADLY.

10/10 adults needed if those really contain radium.

@Pavel said in I need an adult:

@dvoraen Perfect for my Aural Sex fantasies.

Oh is that the “crunchy feeling” experience so advertised? Is that part of the BE AN ADULT thing? (This is specific to you @Pavel, and yes I remember the source of those caps words.)

@Pavel There are actual (retail) products with a light and a camera that will transmit over wifi (the device itself has a no-internet wifi signal) to a phone app you install from the app store, so you can see exactly what you’re doing. I’m still a little leery about the device itself having wifi capability, even if it presumably doesn’t connect to the internet.

Yes, but what is the crunchy part of this equation?

Saw this while shopping for replacement stuff because my curette of choice broke.

My initial reaction: “lol what type of experience is that supposed to be?”

@Jennkryst said in MU Peeves Thread:

@lordbelh Pick a pic, describe the pic, wheee

I still don’t even know where to start for describing hair styles, facial features — what constitutes “angular” that I’ve seen in writing? — let alone clothing intricacies. It’s not for lack of trying; I just have nfc how people know this stuff.

@Third-Eye said in AI Megathread:

@MisterBoring said in AI Megathread:

Science AI model releases an open source schematic for a water powered drive system for cars that gets 450 miles to a gallon of water and can drive at freeway speeds. crickets

That’s not driving advertising dollars and making anyone’s money. ChatGPT does…somehow…

Honestly, I see a lot of promise in narrowly-tailored AI designed to wade through data and do pattern-recognition, but that’s not atm a money-maker for anyone.

And to say this (bolded part) is beyond ironic is a colossal understatement. How much money would be saved having a properly trained AI do the work of what would otherwise be thousands of data analysts? Part of the point of an AI is to be able to do the things a human cannot do, because a computer’s speed is significantly higher.

AI has potential, but oh boy are “we” more determined to churn out slop than quality with it, right now.

@Hobbie You mean you don’t want me to tell you your post was PoWeReD bY AI like has been thrown at us for every. single. fucking. thing. that’s on a computer these days?

But on the serious, I’m 100% with you. Tired of seeing Gemini, Copilot, and all the others flung at me as if they’re trying to honeypot me with the latest tech buzzwords*. I don’t need AI to do my job for me; I do need AI to do things for me that are far beyond my capacity. Like massive quantities of data analysis and collation.

AI is way oversold and way underdelivered, and I dare say that the “AI” products being thrown out are not, strictly speaking and technically (pun!) actual AI, but more a heuristic algorithm like pathfinding algorithms such as A*.

* ETA - It’s so bad I just had this comparison come to mind: “They’re acting like MU* sex pests pretending not to be sex pests.”