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    • RozR
      Roz
      last edited by

      Even if I want to yell at someone about how they’re being a total shitty asshole, I want to yell at them with the right pronouns.

      she/her | playlist

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      • MourneM
        Mourne @Roz
        last edited by Mourne

        @Roz said in Bannings:

        Even if I want to yell at someone about how they’re being a total shitty asshole, I want to yell at them with the right pronouns.

        Cuz that just makes it /better/, they absolutely /know/ that you’re yelling and being angry with /them/ and not just some nebulous pronouns 😉

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        • AriaA
          Aria @Roz
          last edited by

          @Roz said in Bannings:

          Even if I want to yell at someone about how they’re being a total shitty asshole, I want to yell at them with the right pronouns.

          I laughed way harder at this than I should have.

          See, everyone? @Roz has it.

          “They’re being a totally shitty asshole.”
          “I want to yell at them.”
          “Ugh, Aria. They’re the fucking wooooorst.”

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          • RenR
            Ren
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            There isn’t some sort of nodebb plugin that’d let people add pronouns somewhere handy, is there? Maybe to the little hover tooltip over avatars, or at least an entry in the profile form? Could be nice.

            They/Them

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            • PavelP
              Pavel @Ren
              last edited by Pavel

              @Ren said in Bannings:

              There isn’t some sort of nodebb plugin that’d let people add pronouns somewhere handy, is there? Maybe to the little hover tooltip over avatars, or at least an entry in the profile form? Could be nice.

              You can put it in your signature. (Because no, there isn’t any that I can find. There were a few, and they haven’t been updated in eons.)

              He/Him. Opinions and views are solely my own unless specifically stated otherwise.
              BE AN ADULT

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              • JennkrystJ
                Jennkryst @Pavel
                last edited by

                @Pavel Gotta add to mine, and everyone should also maybe link to the top of their ‘where to find me/join in my crimes against MUSHdom’ thread, if they have one.

                Or don’t I’m not your mom. At least, not yet.

                Mummy Pun? MUMMY PUN!
                She/her

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                • juniperskyJ
                  junipersky Administrators @Jennkryst
                  last edited by

                  @Jennkryst

                  You're not my mom

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                  • JennkrystJ
                    Jennkryst @junipersky
                    last edited by

                    @junipersky I might be

                    Mummy Pun? MUMMY PUN!
                    She/her

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                      GF
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                      alt text

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                      • AriaA
                        Aria @GF
                        last edited by

                        @GF Yes. That’s pretty much it. Though being plus-sized, which also comes with BREASTS*, I’m also keenly aware that I will never quite be able to figure out if I’m not entirely comfortable identifying as female because I’m not female or because I’m just bad at performing it “properly”.

                        Regardless of the changes I make to my appearance, people will continue to perceive me as distinctly female, just either with the additional labels of “butch”, “dyke”, “unprofessional”, “lazy”, or “physically ill today”, all of which I’ve received at varying times when having short hair, wearing men’s clothes, or not wearing makeup.

                        I don’t know the answer to my own question, and won’t ever be able to find out, because I’m also not the right size or shape to do “ambiguously queer” properly, either.

                        *Watch the video. It’s hilarious.

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                        • PavelP
                          Pavel @Aria
                          last edited by

                          @Aria said in Bannings:

                          *Watch the video. It’s hilarious.

                          This video is not available for my orientation.

                          Or location, I kinda stopped reading a few words in.

                          He/Him. Opinions and views are solely my own unless specifically stated otherwise.
                          BE AN ADULT

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                          • AriaA
                            Aria @Pavel
                            last edited by

                            @Pavel It’s an SNL sketch called “Lingerie Store” and is a wildly accurate and wildly entertaining portrayal of what trying to buy a bra is like when you practically need industrial equipment to carry 'em around.

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                            • TezT
                              Tez Administrators @Ren
                              last edited by

                              @Ren said in Bannings:

                              There isn’t some sort of nodebb plugin that’d let people add pronouns somewhere handy, is there? Maybe to the little hover tooltip over avatars, or at least an entry in the profile form? Could be nice.

                              It WOULD have been nice.

                              iron man i think i did

                              I tried.

                              she/they

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                              • NarsonN
                                Narson
                                last edited by Narson

                                As the old ‘Those who are not welcome were those engaging in personal attacks’ line has been trotted out again, let’s actually look at what happened.

                                So. The bannings started after Gany’s post of 7:31pm on the 5th of May.

                                The first people to post was Karmabum stating they were not breaking any rules, and Gany should go back to pretending this isn’t happening. Result? Ban

                                Second is Snackness saying Karmabum was accurate and that she isn’t sorry for posting, as she isn’t in secondary school. Result? Ban

                                Tsar says it is obvious Gany doesn’t want convo, so why not lock the thread rather than ban people, critiqued Gany’s tone and suggested she step. away. Result? Ban

                                Arkandel posts mild criticism of Derp’s ability to admit he is wrong, and asked for clarification on points. Result? Not banned.

                                Meg posts that people didn’t deserve this, and begs Gany to unban and lock thread. Result? Ban. Later reversed.

                                Third-Eyed Crow suggests Anglo Saxon fornication to Gany. Result? Banned (Note: The first real “personal attack”)

                                Narson, the evil dipshit, states they are confused on why Arkandel isn’t banned for the fourth post after no talking. Result? Banned.

                                Sahin asks ‘Why?’ and posts a cat GIF. Result? Warning to ‘Don’t. Just Don’t’.

                                Arkandel posts asking what did he do in response to Narson. Result? Gany offers to PM with him.

                                Gany posts to Sahin and Arkandel.

                                Ifrit posts critiques Gany’s ‘Emotionless Cat Lawyer Boy’ persona, and suggests she has destroyed 10 years of community by not just stepping back, he then says goodbye. Result? Banned

                                Bear_Necessities repeats Third-Eyed Crow’s offer. Result? Nothing at this point (Note: Arguably the second real “Personal attack”)

                                Flyrannosaurus posts a gif of an M60 firing out of a helicopter. Resault? Nothing

                                Bear states they weren’t silenced and for Gany to stop and reverse bans. Result? Banned

                                Sahin says they won’t stop and asks for ban. Result? Banned.

                                DeletedUser posts gif of mass slapping. Result? Nothing

                                Herja points out the hypocrisy in this action compared to Derp situation, and states Gany looks like a clown. Result? Ban

                                Prism states that they’d rather be banned than hang around with who is left. Result? Banned

                                Scar states Gany is unhinged. Result? Banned but then reversed.

                                Coin states ‘message received’. Result? Banned but reversed without comment and removed from even original banned list.

                                Groth asks if this is how it ends. Result? Nothing

                                Hellfrog posts a GIF asking what in tarnation. Result? Nothing

                                Selira says Gany has killed the board. Result? Nothing

                                Ghost posts a question mark, then says the baord is getting better from bannings in a second post. After a while he posts two more times, after another Gany ask to stop posting. Result? Finally banned. Then reversed.

                                3543thrh67 posts that Gany is surprised. Result? Nothing

                                Cobalt posts asking Gany to take a cool off. Result? Gany states she won’t ban Cobalt for it.

                                ILuvGrumpyCat posts pointing out Ghost’s problematic history, and also addresses their disappointment in Gany’s choices. States she can go ahead and ban them. Result? Banned

                                OldFrightful says just lock the thread. Result? Nothing

                                Roz posts that Gany has degraded her authority, and cross links to the Macha/Farfalla logs. Result? Banned

                                Now. When it comes to personal attacks, the more clear are Scar, Third-Eyed and Bear-Necessities. Of those, Scar’s ban is reversed and Bear has to post a second time in order to get banned. The challenge to authority, the questioning of it, rather than the personal attack is what gets the ban. And I’d argue that is the more obvious common denominator there. And in terms of whether bans got reversed, several of those who were banned (Like Coin), Gany stated her own feelings that these were the hard ones. So friendship matters more in not being excluded (kinda…well…what’s the term? Clique behaviour?).

                                So no, those that are unwelcome on MSB aren’t those who engaged in personal attacks. It is those that asked questions of an admin who admits their behaviour could be reasonably described as unhinged (hence the reversal of Scar’s ban for the unhinged personal attack). Several of those who did engage in personal attacks or expressed glee at the bannings etc didn’t even get a warning. Again, suggesting that standards were relaxed for those supporting the admin position even if their behaviour mirrored or was worse than those being banned.

                                When someone shows you who they are, over and over again? Believe them.

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                                • PavelP
                                  Pavel
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                                  How I, a man famous for being willing to throwdown with anyone regardless of how much evidence my opinion has behind it, managed to not post in that shitstorm at all is beyond me.

                                  He/Him. Opinions and views are solely my own unless specifically stated otherwise.
                                  BE AN ADULT

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                                  • AposA
                                    Apos
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                                    I do not believe that those left involved at MSB are capable of running a successful online forum about text based role playing games. Whether you think that bar is high or hilariously low, they don’t cross it.

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                                    • PavelP
                                      Pavel @Apos
                                      last edited by

                                      @Apos As with MUs, success is dependent on those judging. Even if nobody posts ever again, they will claim it is successful.

                                      He/Him. Opinions and views are solely my own unless specifically stated otherwise.
                                      BE AN ADULT

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                                      • AposA
                                        Apos @Pavel
                                        last edited by

                                        @Pavel yeah but they’ll know better themselves, they just won’t admit it out loud

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                                        • KestrelK
                                          Kestrel
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                                          simplications if you’re reading this:

                                          I’m sorry, I fucked up. The way you showed up on MSB, the timing, and the group of posters whose statements were being mutually borrowed as fuel for each others fires, made me assume the worst about your intentions.

                                          There are actually a fuckton of literal fascists in this hobby; Cullen for example had an iron cross as his forum avatar on HavenRPG for a while, and I’ve posted receipts elsewhere of someone going on a very explicit antisemitic & misogynistic tirade about me. On the recent thread, I also linked an example of what was basically an attack thread against me for wanting to start a pro-intersectional community for other MU*ers. So yes I am very prickly about this subject, and I like to think I’m generally good at spotting the talking points of people trying to manipulate the discourse in that direction, but in this case I misfired. Because yeah: I was there to address misogyny and victim-blaming, and in that context, the discussion about privileged groups while seemingly siding with the people doing it, looked to me like a very common tactic.

                                          I now understand this was a misunderstanding.

                                          Sorry I went for the throat; I was in attack mode, and attacked the wrong person.

                                          I’d DM but lol, banned. (Which is for the best, because that was not healthy for me.)

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                                            GF @Kestrel
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                                            @Kestrel said in Bannings:

                                            There are actually a fuckton of literal fascists in this hobby; Cullen for example had an iron cross as his forum avatar on HavenRPG for a while, and I’ve posted receipts elsewhere of someone going on a very explicit antisemitic & misogynistic tirade about me. On the recent thread, I also linked an example of what was basically an attack thread against me for wanting to start a pro-intersectional community for other MU*ers.

                                            Whoa. I honestly thought I was being too reactionary when the “healing” thread made me start thinking of Umberto Eco’s list, but it sounds like I’m not the only one who kinda got that vibe?

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