@Birdie Something you said here kind of triggered me in a way.
It’s ok to be monogamous. It doesn’t have to have anything to do with self-esteem. Some people are just not built for polygamy and that is perfectly ok. Don’t feel like you’ve done /anything/ wrong by not wanting to be in a polygamous relationship.
Don’t ask, don’t tell, I don’t know if I could even go that far with some characters, and I know I couldn’t RL so please, don’t feel like you’ve done anything wrong.
You set up a line, a boundary, and /they/ pushed it, broke it, and hop scotched right across it. That is not your fault, they disrespected your boundaries and your choices.
Very not cool of them.