Our first foster child is arriving any minute.

13 hours in. No one has died and/or cried yet. So this is good. She is safe at school and all is fine.

Why I didn’t RP tonight:

If some internet person changes and doesn’t do the problematic shit so well that I can’t tell they are the same person, then congrats, I’ll never know.

I have so many positive feels about Norwood’s end. I’m really happy now it wasn’t RPed out, because I’m not sure it could have been done as gracefully as the action result came out.

Norwood was such a big part of my soul that even after I came to admit I didn’t have room to actively RP any more, I couldn’t let him go. I would sign on every few days to check on him.

Everyone who was involved gets .

May I share my foster kittens with y’all here? Even if I can never find here because it doesn’t show up on Google Results. (I have it bookmarked finally.)

We got a verdict.

Termination of parental rights.

We tell the child Friday, and goodbye visit is the 24th.

I’m slowly trying to build the girl up to it by dropping hints like “Caseworker doesn’t want to see us at home.”

“Caseworker wants me to come home for the visit this time so both of us are there.” (Often just one of us is home for them because the other is at work.)

“It feels like this visit is going to be different.”

“I can’t wait for you to come to my middle school!!”

My foster fail Calypso is a HUGE cuddle bug. She loves to cuddle up with other cats.

My senior baby Kiva is not a cuddler, but she doesn’t mind Calypso much, and basically raised her.

So they’ve come to a compromise. Calypso is allowed to lay NEAR Kiva and Kiva will not complain. Calypso tests this sometimes to see how much cuddling she can get away with. Today it was being curled into Kiva’s tail with one Calypso aw on Kiva’s butt. It makes my heart melt.

He sees more ghosts.

Yeah - Until the very end they had me CONVINCED I was the bad person in the interactions. I fell over myself apologizing for hurting them and making them uncomfortable. It wasn’t until I found myself sobbing with my laptop on my lap at the top of a staircase that I finally realized - this wasn’t okay. It WASN’T ooc personal my female alt didn’t like their PC. It WASN’T my fault I didn’t want to RP some things. All of those were perfectly good boundaries and I was being emotionally manipulated by someone who knew exactly what to say and when to say it.

Now, do I think the person behind the screen is some kind of cartoon villain twirling their mustache, petting a white cat, and itching to press the destroy button? Nah. I think they found a way of behaving that typically results in them getting attention (often it doesn’t matter if it is positive or negative) and so they repeat the behavior because it fills a need.

If they are reading this, I hope they know that it is possible to get attention for doing the right things. This doesn’t have to be your entire internet legacy.

@Trashcan said in Long or Short? Application Process!:

@Babs said in Long or Short? Application Process!:

Just reuse the same description. Chances are no one will notice.

Chances are no one will say anything to you.

THIS IS WHY. I KNOW I WILL BE SILENTLY JUDGED BY ALL YOU ASSHOLES*.

(*I say affectionately.)

I don’t like having to make stats. I like writing a bit of backstrory.

Descriptions can kiss my ass.

I REALLY struggled not to my guy a lot. Two of my heart characters were older men (late 40s, 50s) who were generally conservative af and not generally open to new anything. To a lot of things my first thought was literally " X would NEVER…" Then I had to sit myself down and go, “But is the never fun for anyone?” Sometimes it was, but most of the time it wasn’t. Sometimes the conflict of new ideas vs old ideas was great. I had some excellent scenes with their children where they wanted to be wild and out there with a father behind them going “This isn’t right!!!” Other times that conflict was going to kill the vibe.

Over time both mellowed a lot. I would like to think they didn’t lose their core conservative root, but they saw a ton more gray when I stepped away. That was fun too.

Sometimes I feel bad having the Administrator title here when I haven’t RPed in 2+ years.

But then again ya’ll aren’t a very hard group.

Um, um, UM?!

I was generally a shorter poster. 1-6 lines. If I could get by with less, I did, because I wanted to keep things snappy.

As I drew closer to the end of my Mu* career the less I could cope with people who took a half-hour + to pose their three massive paragraphs I ended up only responding to a little of.

I think that was more me just having more on my plate than before though.

@sao

I’m literally obsessed.

Thred Necro!!

I’m reading Dungeon Crawler Carl and it is like a mash up of the most upsurd scenes where the GM is basically of the mindset, “Fuck it. Roll and let’s see what shit can happen.”

@Wuff

We still don’t fully understand why she said racist multiple times, but we were able to meet and talk about her kid and his progress so I’m going to call it a win?

One of my student’s parents called me racist multiple times last night in the conference.

It wasn’t even one of the crazy parents. It was a perfectly nice one. So it came out of left field.

We’re meeting tomorrow with the principal as interpreter, not a district one, or worse with apps because the translator didn’t show up, and I’m hoping we can figure things out, but I also just have this pit of dread in my stomach.