Why I didn’t RP tonight:
My foster fail Calypso is a HUGE cuddle bug. She loves to cuddle up with other cats.
My senior baby Kiva is not a cuddler, but she doesn’t mind Calypso much, and basically raised her.
So they’ve come to a compromise. Calypso is allowed to lay NEAR Kiva and Kiva will not complain. Calypso tests this sometimes to see how much cuddling she can get away with. Today it was being curled into Kiva’s tail with one Calypso aw on Kiva’s butt. It makes my heart melt.
Yeah - Until the very end they had me CONVINCED I was the bad person in the interactions. I fell over myself apologizing for hurting them and making them uncomfortable. It wasn’t until I found myself sobbing with my laptop on my lap at the top of a staircase that I finally realized - this wasn’t okay. It WASN’T ooc personal my female alt didn’t like their PC. It WASN’T my fault I didn’t want to RP some things. All of those were perfectly good boundaries and I was being emotionally manipulated by someone who knew exactly what to say and when to say it.
Now, do I think the person behind the screen is some kind of cartoon villain twirling their mustache, petting a white cat, and itching to press the destroy button? Nah. I think they found a way of behaving that typically results in them getting attention (often it doesn’t matter if it is positive or negative) and so they repeat the behavior because it fills a need.
If they are reading this, I hope they know that it is possible to get attention for doing the right things. This doesn’t have to be your entire internet legacy.
Tiny asshole kitten Benjamin Sisko was wrapped around my leg chewing and clawing.
I got tired of it, and now only 60 seconds later, he is asleep with his head supported by my palm.
My revenge will be letting one of the insane other six pounce him once they realize he zzzzed out.
It is ABSOLUTELY OKAY to realize a mistake, apologize, but then
NOT FUCKING DO THAT THING AGAIN.
Ghost particularly has shown HE HAS NOT CHANGED. Reading his posts is making me flash back to arguments about CRT and making sure we teach “both sides” of historic events. Guess what!! There isn’t always two sides. If one was pure evil, I am not going to teach that as a reasonable path to follow. I’m going to tell kids (in religion removed language) “This is the paved path to hell, watch out for people doing this because all THIS OTHER SHIT will happen as a result.”
How do we heal the community? Maybe we start by not trying to apologize for the well established bad actors.
Also… weird how the only person to mention BMD is Derp. I would say a majority of us here are now NOT THERE and if we had some organized conspiracy we would just all go make fake accounts to fuck up MSB. We wouldn’t sit in our little thread here and complain.
I would love if it was something I could trigger after a yucky, and then choose later to keep or discard. Eg: have my session automatically backed up - everything I did since logging in - and then when I come back later choose to keep or toss that record. Then I have spaxe and time to consider what happened. If I choose to move forward with a report I have my game-saved reference.
It isn’t fool proof, but the number of times I wished I could save an ick to review later was wow.
Yes, I know many clients come with loggers. However, mobile and chromebook clients that I’ve found most reliable do not, or do not have a file type that can be opened later.
The shelter I work at is a Vegan place. Which, totally fine.
But this extends to not being willing to kill ants that get into the cat’s bowls. And then today to not killing WASPS that have settled into the lights above our front doors.
I mean, come on. The second they start posing a threat to the cats or our visitors we gotta draw the line. >.>
I changed my volunteer hours at the shelter to avoid some of the frustrations I had over the summer. It has been great.
One of the best is that since everyone knew we were understaffed today for a full clean, the volunteers who were able to come all showed up an hour early. There was no coordination at all. The cats needed their area clean so gdi, they were going to get it done.