@Lurrr I’m not saying anything about Jackaltrade because they freely offered to out themselves by providing their information, but I would like to normalize not showing receipts. It’s occasionally traumatizing to relive that kind of thing, it’s almost always humiliating to show yourself getting degraded, and it’s very likely to result in retaliation from the accused who want to show receipts of how actually she totally asked for it. Let people give the amount of information they feel safe giving, and let the people who receive these kinds of freely-offered warnings either take the warning or not. I don’t think it’s fair to take the experience these people have gone through and add to it a burden of accepting responsibility for meeting the standards strangers need to be convinced.

When you have to take a mental health break from a game because your life is in a bad enough place you don’t know if you have the fortitude to deal with the game’s atmosphere and then you’re in the shower the next morning asking yourself, Isn’t the fact that you need fortitude to deal with the game kind of a red flag?

@eddie said in Star Wars Age of Alliances: Hadrix and Cujo:

Prove me wrong.

No. You don’t get to come in here today, from nowhere, hiding behind a veil of anonymity that hides the personal stake you clearly have in all this, and appoint yourself the sole arbiter of what are and are not the facts. If you want people to take you seriously, then behave like a serious person. If you want to bark commands like an imperious toddler, then carry on as you are, and I hope you enjoy getting treated like the infant you present yourself as.

I really need to stop going back there to find out what y’all are talking about in these conversations.

Most of those two threads came off to me like people who complain about how America needs more civility in its discourse, where “civility” is code for “never protesting when someone hurts you because that might make people who support hurting you (or just lack the spine to stand up against people who hurt you) feel uncomfortable.”

“How can we heal the community,” moans man who refuses to listen to the complaints of anyone he disagrees with and immediately dismisses them as being part of a clique of people he can’t identify but whose villainous intentions he knows without question. He offers this question in an echo chamber where the people he needs to address literally cannot respond to him, because he has no interest in an answer to the question, just in appearing to be a put-upon peacemaker who is rejected by those unreasonable whisper-campaigning bitches in The Clique.

It’s enough to put my off my dinner. Fuck.

Staff who take action when action is called for.

@hobos said in Bannings:

Yes, nobody has to accept an apology. But forgiveness is still more freeing than holding ten-year-old grudges in a small community.

Please don’t do that. Don’t act like forgiveness is an act of enlightenment. It’s not: it’s a choice that a person makes after considering whether the act would reap greater benefits than it costs to withhold. I feel the only way anyone can present forgiveness as a categorical good is if they have never had to calculate whether forgiveness would put them into unsafe positions.

It’d be nice to be able to be friends and forgive each other and direct our empathy to each other.

Friends respect boundaries. If Vulgar Kitten wants to be anyone’s friend (as opposed to you wanting everyone else to be Vulgar Kitten’s friend, for what reason I can’t even guess), then she is welcome to attempt to earn it by respecting people’s boundaries and offering the acts of contrition they would find convincing. If she’s not willing to do that, then that sucks, but two to tango and all that.

@Kestrel was genetically engineered in a laboratory to be the world’s greatest warrior, but was raised in England as part of a social experiment to see if the nation’s “what would the neighbors think” culture could override her genetic programming. It has not occurred yet to the scientists that neither is the case; that Kestrel might have chosen a life of peace of her own free will and morality.

Kestrel once saved four babies from a burning orphanage. She didn’t rush into the fire or anything silly like that. Rather, she rebuked the fire sharply to stop being such a little attention-seeker, and the flame, humiliated, slinked off into a river to think about what it had done.

Kestrel posts so rarely on this board because she spends most of her time in outer space, visiting the sun. She has discovered the sun is actual a titanic labyrinth made of plasma, which she has been mapping off and on for the last three years. Many alien species are assisting her efforts in exchange for access to her data and to her music recommendations, which they seem to consider a form of currency.

Once per year, Kestrel may summon an army of gerbils to do her bidding. She does not know where, when, or how she acquired this power, but the gerbils know, and they refuse to speak of it.

Kestrel refuses to watch “white savior” movies because it reminds her of the time she personally unified China thousands of years ago. In retrospect, she wishes she’d let them unify themselves, but it’s too late to fix that now. All she can do is try to avoid the embarrassment.

@Pavel said in Bannings:

@Narson said in Bannings:

The idea that both sides don’t recognise the split is harmful? Of /course it is/.

See, I’m not sure it is ultimately.

The reasons behind the split, and the metaphorical violence behind the split? Absolutely harmful and I’m not going to deny it.

For me, the inciting incident was me making a post saying, “This piece of news hurt me very much.”

Derp replied with, “I refuse to engage you on that level, because it is more important to me to show that I am detached and intelligent and saw it coming than it is to acknowledge that this hurts you or affects anyone’s live.”

I replied, "You’ll never stop this, will you?

He replied, “No, and you’re wrong to ask me to.”

That is the violence I personally suffered in this split, the hurt I’ve tried to veil behind my online persona of detached irony.

So, as you say, I do not consider the split itself harmful. Even though I don’t think I’ve played on a MU* in at least eighteen months, what I feel most about the split is relief and a sense of safety, knowing he and his fanboys are out of my life as far as my forum career goes and maybe for the rest of my life. I am well shed of them. I know it won’t stop them from trying to hurt me (and I look forward to learning that someone has screengrabbed this post to bolster their argument that I am stirring the drama), but they are welcome to do what they want. In this moment, I feel peaceful, and wish them all the joy they can find in trying exact revenge on my ghost.

Hey, you. Yeah, you, the one reading this. No, I don’t know who you are. Doesn’t matter for what I’m about to say, and if you think it does, you are incorrect.

You’re cool and the people who deserve you like you for who you are. Got it? You better, because if I catch you saying otherwise, you will be in trouble.

Good. Now go on, get outta here. Go conquer the world. You got this.

@Warlander said in Star Wars Age of Alliances: Hadrix and Cujo:

The new Slingshot comes with 200 tons of cargo space. Max Speeds of 50 MGLT in space, and 80 MGLT in atmosphere. It is still a 1 crew ship, with a bunk behind the pilot’s station, with interior room for 2 passengers to at least sit fiairly[sic] comfortably while traveling the space lanes.

Maybe this is a me problem, but I cannot imagine joining a Star Wars game to play a trucker who has to micromanage cargo capacity and standing room for other people to roleplay with but seemingly has no capacity to engage in the whoosh whoosh pew pew laser fights the movies are full of.

@junipersky I wish I’d paid attention last week when someone told me about an Etsy alternative that actually supports small creators and doesn’t rip off the people who form its business model. I’d recommend it if I could remember.

Sandra Day O’Connor.

@junipersky said in General Video Game Thread:

Metroids

Ori and the Blind Forest, and Ori and the Will of the Wisps. Both available on Switch. The sequel is pretty much standalone and has much better gameplay but the story will hit harder if he plays them both.

Also, it’s the week of American Thanksgiving. I’m sure that has a noticeable effect on activity.

@crawfish said in Predators and Roleplaying Communities:

Just because you think you know better doesn’t mean you’ll always listen to the red flags.

If I make a little light fun of the idea of listening to a flag, it’s only because your post made me feel things that I needed to find a way to laugh at. Thank you for these reminders, though, seriously.

@Popes said in Discussion - Excelsior:

The open roster is, well, lackluster.

All fairness, that’s every roster comics game. Pretty much all of them have all the popular characters claimed and doing only as many scenes as absolutely necessary to not lose claim to the character.

I get wanting to allow padawans or whatever, but this hobby really can’t be trusted with the responsibility to treat children as children rather than sex objects.

@OnceWas I really don’t know how the Dark Tower can be translated out of the medium it was created for without completely disregarding the metanarrative that is the entire point of the series, but I’d nevertheless be very interested to see.

Heartstopper is so stinking cute it makes me squee in ways that I thought only playful puppies could do. I want to rub Charlie and Nick’s bellies and tell them what good boys they are.