Real life happy
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@Snackness But there’s no use crying over it.
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@Pyrephox I confess that I did cry over spilled milk (well, froyo, in the back of my car) a couple of weeks ago and I stand by my decision.
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Anyone who doesn’t cry over spilled milk hasn’t spent 45 minutes pumping it.
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My coworker’s partner is liquidating a lot of their inventory from their Etsy shop. So today they showed up with a bag full of block printed t-shirts for me and tried to foist them off on me for free, until I insisted on paying something for it.
(Pay artists. It’s a rule, not a guideline.)
My clothes are extra queer now and I am very happy.
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This is the content I needed today. Maybe someone else will enjoy it too.
DO NOT CLICK if you don’t like fake spiders (there are no real spiders)
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Semester 1 finished, great grades all round. At age 38, on my 4th attempt in 2 decades, I’ve finally successfully completed my first semester of a bachelor’s degree.
That’s definitely a big happy.
Although, I was hoping that big success on the first semester would make me feel more confident about, you know, the rest of the three years I’ll be doing this for. Apparently not!
Still, it’s a start and it’s proof that I absolutely can do this. My brain no longer gets to point at my past failures as if they’re evidence that I’ll fail again
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Learned what unremitting means today. +1 to vocabulary.
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@Juniper Same
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I am so happy that there was a net positive gain from my suffering and I’m not even being sarcastic
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Our foster daughter has some pretty extreme behaviors, and today she exploded pretty spectacularly. So we had to call off going TO a fireworks show because helping her regulate in a crowd of people is impossible.
We didn’t deprive her though and went outside to see what we could of the big shows. There were A LOT. She was screaming with joy and jumping in and down out of her mind with glee.
A few houses over a family was setting of some legal fireworks and so she asked if we could go watch. I agreed and we walked over to ask permission to watch.
This family just reached out and ENVELOPED my little girl in love. First offered a sparkler, then a whole box (“don’t let the fun end!”) Then s’mores, and finally they broke out extra chairs for all of us. Grandpa of neighbors teased her like mad. Just such amazing kindness I almost cried several times seeing the joy on this little girl’s face.
There are just good people.
(Also the dad was a smoker and little girl has had some bad experiences with smokers in the past, so it was really healthy of her to have a healthy one.)
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@junipersky Sometimes people remind you that they are, mostly, ready to be good to each other.
I’m so glad she had a good holiday, and you got to see it -
Dealing with the courts and her bio family had really put a damper on my faith in humanity.
Between last night and her BFFs’ mom brushing her hair today (she won’t let me near it) my faith is beyond restored.
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executive function is a fucking miracle and superpower
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So today is my first day back in the office after PTO. When I was checking my calendar last night, I saw that my boss put a meeting on the books for first thing this morning with her and with her boss. I figured something went wrong with one of the projects I was working on with the boss’s boss while I was out and they needed to get me up to speed.
Uhh, no.
Turns out that when I found out how underpaid I am compared to my teammates last summer and lodged a complaint about that, initially got an ugly response, then they backpedaled hard and asked how much I wanted, only to get turned down? That request stuck around. My boss’s boss’s boss noted the complaint and when they did mid-year adjustments this year for people on the bottom end of salary bands, he personally lumped my name in with the ones that got sent to HR. Even though I was above the cut-off percentage for consideration.
My boss called a meeting to give me a 5% raise, on top of my end of year adjustment from 2023, because of something I bitched about a year ago.
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I whinged and complained about it in the complainy threads so much that it felt like cheating not to post the resolution:
After a year and a half, I got top bid on a house. And I’m so excited and terrified for the parts that come next, but the hunt is finally over!
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The past few months of my life have felt like years in both the most stressful and wonderful ways possible. I’ve taken on challenges and responsibilities that, even as they were happening, I wasn’t sure I was strong enough to face. All I knew is that quitting wasn’t an option.
During these months I’ve had to sacrifice significant time from MUSH and other online and RL interactions and, while it was difficult to start with, my journey helped me find a healthier balance and outlook towards life in general. It’s amazing how the toughest times in our life can also be the best. How what breaks us down also leaves us stronger than we ever thought we could be.
I’m happier now. I realize that self care isn’t selfish. Kindness doesn’t require tolerating mistreatment. Simply put…life is too damn short to spend it making yourself miserable.
I know realistically I will always struggle with my confidence and worry about letting others down. It’s just part of being a recovering people pleaser. It sure does feel nice to finally be in a place where I can look in the mirror and genuinely love the person I’m looking at though.
TL;DR: Life is short. Love yourself. You’re worth it.
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Foster girl and I had a screaming, yelling, name calling fight.
And she didn’t hit me or break anything.
I’m so freaking proud of her.
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@junipersky I’m proud of her too! I’m also proud of you. It means she’s learning to recognize and communicate her big feelings and you have given her a safe place to figure out the process. It’s hard to feel like you’re making a difference some days, but when you look back and see the difference between day 1 and present behavior it really is an encouraging thing.
