Real life happy
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Learned what unremitting means today. +1 to vocabulary.
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@Juniper Same
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I am so happy that there was a net positive gain from my suffering and I’m not even being sarcastic
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Our foster daughter has some pretty extreme behaviors, and today she exploded pretty spectacularly. So we had to call off going TO a fireworks show because helping her regulate in a crowd of people is impossible.
We didn’t deprive her though and went outside to see what we could of the big shows. There were A LOT. She was screaming with joy and jumping in and down out of her mind with glee.
A few houses over a family was setting of some legal fireworks and so she asked if we could go watch. I agreed and we walked over to ask permission to watch.
This family just reached out and ENVELOPED my little girl in love. First offered a sparkler, then a whole box (“don’t let the fun end!”) Then s’mores, and finally they broke out extra chairs for all of us. Grandpa of neighbors teased her like mad. Just such amazing kindness I almost cried several times seeing the joy on this little girl’s face.
There are just good people.
(Also the dad was a smoker and little girl has had some bad experiences with smokers in the past, so it was really healthy of her to have a healthy one.)
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@junipersky Sometimes people remind you that they are, mostly, ready to be good to each other.
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Dealing with the courts and her bio family had really put a damper on my faith in humanity.
Between last night and her BFFs’ mom brushing her hair today (she won’t let me near it) my faith is beyond restored.
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executive function is a fucking miracle and superpower
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So today is my first day back in the office after PTO. When I was checking my calendar last night, I saw that my boss put a meeting on the books for first thing this morning with her and with her boss. I figured something went wrong with one of the projects I was working on with the boss’s boss while I was out and they needed to get me up to speed.
Uhh, no.
Turns out that when I found out how underpaid I am compared to my teammates last summer and lodged a complaint about that, initially got an ugly response, then they backpedaled hard and asked how much I wanted, only to get turned down? That request stuck around. My boss’s boss’s boss noted the complaint and when they did mid-year adjustments this year for people on the bottom end of salary bands, he personally lumped my name in with the ones that got sent to HR. Even though I was above the cut-off percentage for consideration.
My boss called a meeting to give me a 5% raise, on top of my end of year adjustment from 2023, because of something I bitched about a year ago.
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I whinged and complained about it in the complainy threads so much that it felt like cheating not to post the resolution:
After a year and a half, I got top bid on a house. And I’m so excited and terrified for the parts that come next, but the hunt is finally over!
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The past few months of my life have felt like years in both the most stressful and wonderful ways possible. I’ve taken on challenges and responsibilities that, even as they were happening, I wasn’t sure I was strong enough to face. All I knew is that quitting wasn’t an option.
During these months I’ve had to sacrifice significant time from MUSH and other online and RL interactions and, while it was difficult to start with, my journey helped me find a healthier balance and outlook towards life in general. It’s amazing how the toughest times in our life can also be the best. How what breaks us down also leaves us stronger than we ever thought we could be.
I’m happier now. I realize that self care isn’t selfish. Kindness doesn’t require tolerating mistreatment. Simply put…life is too damn short to spend it making yourself miserable.
I know realistically I will always struggle with my confidence and worry about letting others down. It’s just part of being a recovering people pleaser. It sure does feel nice to finally be in a place where I can look in the mirror and genuinely love the person I’m looking at though.
TL;DR: Life is short. Love yourself. You’re worth it.
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Foster girl and I had a screaming, yelling, name calling fight.
And she didn’t hit me or break anything.
I’m so freaking proud of her.
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@junipersky I’m proud of her too! I’m also proud of you. It means she’s learning to recognize and communicate her big feelings and you have given her a safe place to figure out the process. It’s hard to feel like you’re making a difference some days, but when you look back and see the difference between day 1 and present behavior it really is an encouraging thing.
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I suspect my boss has been taking on some of my workload, either because he knows I’m stressed out or he doesn’t want to wait for me to get to it. Either way I’m grateful.
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I was put on Ajovy for migraines. I haven’t had one since I took the first dose 9 days ago. I’ve had meds fail me many times before, but even 9 days in a row mostly pain-free will have been more than worth it.
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@Snackness Hey! Migraine-free is awesome.
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@Snackness Yay! Glad you can remember what it’s like to be pain free. That’s super exciting!
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I survived an appendectomy, and Cyrto Reduction Surgery with the HIPEC maneuver to help get rid of stage 1A ovarian cancer. Still sore, but home and surrounded by many purring felines. There’s not a lot a person can ask for in recovery but the purring faces of 5 cats.
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More real life funny than real life happy, but…
Today, one of my coworkers accidentally made the most wildly inappropriate comment at me and I cannot stop laughing.
I went to see Bush over the weekend. Today, I wore the shirt I bought at the concert to work. She was trying to tell me that she really liked the shirt and the outfit that I put together, but instead she said:
“I keep looking at your Bush, Aria. I really like it!”
It is only by the grace of God that I managed not to blurt out “Thanks! I grew it myself.”
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@Aria That is definitely one of those embarrassing moments your brain holds onto until 10 years later when you’re almost asleep so it can say “Hey remember that time you…”
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Celebrated the girl’s 8th birthday.
Also celebrated that we are officially her longest foster family.
She said recently that if she can’t go home to her mommy and daddy that she wouldn’t mind us adopting her.
