I haven’t RP’d in awhile and I forgot all about the ‘there can be only one girl’ player. You know the one that will immediately perceive nearly all other female PCs as threats and ignore them when a male PC is present and otherwise be weirdly passive aggressive about everything because you might take their man.

Lady, I just want to kill zombies. You can have all the dicks. I don’t want them.

@Whisky said in MU Peeves Thread:

Woke up in the morning to find the password changed and my mostly-done character was now a roster character, mostly edited to suit what they wanted.

I would be super pissed if a PC I made (even if I didn’t finish it!) was made a roster without my consent or approval. That’s so rude.

There are things I really like about Ares, but if you’ve got ‘is everyone hanging out without me’ brain weasels it sure does love to show you scrolling pages of private scenes that say yes, yes they are.

You all know this is a troll, right? There are no minds to be changed here.

She’s the person I was complaining about who wanted all the dicks on the zombie game. It was so blatant and ridiculous that she’d go out of her way to exclude other female PCs on a summary writeup for a posted scene.

And like just to be clear the sexiest thing my PC did in that scene was lift up someone’s shirt to see if they were wounded there (they were)! So it’s not like I was romantic rivaling her or whatever.

@KarmaBum said in Neitherlands:

(to KarmaBum) Irene says, “I didn’t do submissive things about female PCs.”

Please tell me that’s not just a transcription typo because LOL.

@Serafine said in Neitherlands:

but given the hasty rush in and out of the hospital for (I forget exactly what, it’s still posted on the bboards) exhaustion/stress/burnout/whatever, which was then blamed on said player…

@Serafine you are the one that brought this up. All @Cobalt was asking was if this particular thing, which you said, was really true.

It’s okay to say “That was just what I thought” or “Sorry, I’m making shit up to keep the conversation going” or “lol i dont even Rp” if you don’t actually know that she blamed her hospitalization on @Jenn

All my PCs do end up dying in a pool with no ladder.

@shit-piss-love Yeah, it hit me like that too. Like, it’s great that there are so many people RPing, but when there’s 30+ private scenes and not one open scene that’s telling me there’s a lot of RP happening on this game that I just…don’t have access to as a new person.

I’d much rather see a list of OPEN scenes and maybe a little line saying something like ‘there’s 34 active scenes!’

@Serafine said in Neitherlands:

@Cobalt Sure but you’re going to have to wait a few. Work and all that.

I fucking hate this Wednesday shit.

I like that you could post all that but not a simple ‘yeah she did’ or ‘no you misread’

A+ drama stretching.

@Faraday The scene once I close it, is private. But unlike on a grid where I can sit by my lonesome for hours at a time and when I disconnect it’s gone like it never happened on Ares even if I don’t pose a set (and I’ve never seen this happen, if someone starts a scene generally it seems like they always pose and wait) it will sit there on the active scenes list for days at a time just showing me sitting there until I give up and close it. So instead of a few hours of no one coming to RP with me, it can be some very public days.

I think that’s what’s trying to be expressed here (though I could be wrong and am just speaking for myself).

It’s one of the reasons I will always try to join an open scene if I see it because boy do I know how that person must feel hoping someone else comes in.

@Faraday Both things are definitely discouraging! I guess the difference for me, in Ares, is that I’ve posed and a scene has started so there’s now a record of it and people just don’t like my set or don’t notice or hate me or whatever and don’t join so that’s more discouraging to me than if I sat in a room where I hadn’t posed and all that showed is I was there and if I wanted I could just leave and no one would know it ever happened.

I was definitely very glad when being able to delete scenes that had one pose in it came around because the game would be like HEY REMEMBER THIS!! And I was like please no. Just delete. And it’d keep doing that until it deleted.

There are other things I definitely prefer about Ares but boy does it seem like you’re putting yourself out there more, to me.

@Faraday As someone who has opened my fair share of scenes and thrown out a pose and had it sit unjoined for days it IS very discouraging. Sure in a grid room you can be sad you’re in pub zero and everyone joined pub two, but in that case you just leave the room and that’s that.

Some games don’t seem to allow you to delete scenes so not only do you then close out your lonely scene, the game will remind you it happened as it encourages you to share that disappointment for awhile until it finally deletes.

All my PCs do end up dying in a pool with no ladder.

Sometimes I feel like the only person who doesn’t pose exactly what I’m wearing in every single scene, down to my socks and shoe laces. Please just assume I have clothes on. I am almost never going to think to pose them.

Someone should’ve told her her caps lock was on.

I have to say the meltdown really delivered, but my favorite part was the Haven invite so I am delighted to see this branched off with this title.

What bothers me is almost all therapists I can find are out of network. Like, they take no insurance at all. WHY?!

$200 for an initial consultation, $150 for every follow up appointment, probably just paying straight out of pocket with no hope of insurance covering anything because they’d like me to use someone “in network” who doesn’t do in-office hours and isn’t a good fit. Sigh.

I think it could be interesting to seed story points. Like if you have an NPC that can be like “the dwarves really seem to need help!” Or “Lots of people talking about the tooth fairy today.” And then you could be like “tell me about the tooth fairy” and it tells you something that either sends you to an NPC or (better) other PCs. So it doesn’t replace someone running a plot for you but it can get you involved in some without a staff member having to run a scene to be like oh gee the tooth fairy is up to no good!

Let’s not overlook the fact that much of the media that we roleplay about and take in at very young ages makes this process a lot easier for those people that want to exploit others. If he’s* troubled, you just need to love him enough. If he’s treating you badly just stick it out and in the end it will all be worth it. If he’s being possessive and jealous that just means he LOVES you SO MUCH and you mean SO MUCH TO HIM.

We’re pretty careful with what my oldest takes in. She’s still in single digits and expressed shyly to me the other day that she really likes the villain we’re watching in a cartoon series. And I was immediately like IF ANYONE EVER MAKES YOU FEEL LESS THAN OR INSULTS YOU YOU SHOULD NOT LIKE THEM OMG NO! It’s not okay for someone to tease you because they like you! Or pull your hair or punch you or pinch you ANYONE THAT DOES THAT IS NOT WORTH YOUR TIME.

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*just using ‘he’ since that fits with my experience. Could be she or them!