Real Life Struggles/Support/Vent

RightMeow

@mietze sometimes we have to do minute by minute and breath by breath. Just remember you have people to reach out for if you need it.

I don’t know if we’ve interacted (I’m bad with alts, etc), but I’m here in my cool little private chat if you need. I’m busy, but I’ll try to check in at least once a day.

GF

@mietze Would it help if I invited you to talk about it, or do you prefer to keep it private?

ratatat

I’m an Uber Eats driver + carer for my grandma who has early dementia. It’s been a struggle, but I’ve been dealing. Yay me. Then yesterday, I got the dreaded covid diagnosis. Can’t work. Can’t risk being around my grandma and bills that were teetering on being paid a day or two late are now going to be a week+ in arrears. And the bank account currently has less than 1 dollar in it. Life is ‘wonderful’.

Selira

After about a year and a half of pain, about two and a half weeks ago, the front half of one of my teeth suddenly fell off. Had it extracted a few days later, getting the sutures out tomorrow, but I’m sitting here worried I messed them up already. Starting up a long process to get an implant, which, well. As someone who made it twenty years without dental issues, this is kind of a lot. Also finally getting a real look at what dental work I’ll need.

Take care of your teeth.

Meg

@ratatat hey, I know people are often very cringe at asking for support, but we can and have offered support to other users in the past. If you are up for it, I’d be willing to offer something to help.

Testament

@Selira I just went to the dentist yesterday for two fillings. Last month was a crown. Next week is to repair a broken filling. I’m getting all this dental work done now because I want it all in order before my wedding.

But a dry socket is no laughing matter, when you get one extracted. I’ve only ever had one tooth removed, which was a wisdom tooth, but I keep being told it is one of the most painful things you can experience. Ever. Treat straws like they are your mortal enemies for a week afterwards.

I went fifteen years without dental insurance. I’m actually pretty lucky I don’t have more problems. If you ever need to talk about this, let me know.

Pavel

@Testament said in Real Life Struggles/Support/Vent:

but I keep being told it is one of the most painful things you can experience.

It is. I’ve passed stones, had post-surgical infections, and watched The Bachelor. Dry socket is THE. WORST. PAIN.

Testament

@Pavel Yeah. When I had my crown put on, they had to dry the area completely to put the crown over the exposed root. And just that blowing of air was some incredible pain. So I can only imagine.

Pavel

@Testament Yeah, I mean when you read up on what dry socket actually is (I had no clue before having teeth pulled out of my head) it makes a tonne of sense. Like “oh, I’m exposing raw nerves and actual bone to the air, saliva and bacteria and shit are getting into very vulnerable parts of my face, and I also get to feel my soft tissues actually growing?” Yeah… it’s a nasty combo of pain-fuckery that the body doesn’t know how to process.

Testament

@Pavel The threat of a dry socket had been one of the larger reasons I’m so fastidious about my teeth these days. Like I said, I didn’t have dental insurance for a very long time. And I think I’ve gotten lucky. Because that kind of pain is terrifying.

Herja

So, I don’t like to ask for help, especially financial help, but got some bad news today regarding my ex’s ability to continue to contribute to the support of his kids, money that I was counting on to help get them what they need to start back to school. I make enough money to handle the basics and, until inflation started making everything more expensive, I could even save money and get the kids stuff they wanted. Thanks to life being life, my savings are gone and my kids are going back to school with me having no extra money in the budget to be able to get them what they need for it.

I put together a GoFundMe. I know times are hard for everyone and it is incredibly painful to even have to ask for help with this, but my kids come even above my stupid pride.

https://gofund.me/114a7244

Meg

@Herja i was just saying this earlier today, that we have and will help people in this community. done, donated, ilu.

IoleRae

Gosh I love you people so much.

hellfrog

asking for help is the fuckin worst.

GIVING help, if you can? is the best.

junipersky

People really are amazing.

Herja

Holy shit, you guys. I don’t know what to say other than thank you. You do not understand how much anxiety you just removed from my life. I am sure I will stop being utterly mortified in like 67 years.

But still, thank you so much.

tsar

@Herja Cat hug

Floof

The mutual aid in our little community, which has helped me in some pretty difficult times, always warms my cold, little heart.

Roz

@Herja hug

hellfrog

@Roz wtf how dare you show me something so heartbreakingly cute