Real Life Struggles/Support/Vent
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@sao No, they won’t be final.
But the general rule of thumb is that VISITS stop as soon as termination goes through, even with appeals to come. (The bio-mom rants on FB about appealing constantly). The pause will give the girls time in therapy and stable homes to keep processing their trauma and building skills. If appeals restart visits then they will just be that much stronger to face them.I’m really proud of oldest sister. Shit went down again Monday with mom. She had decided to come back to the visits upon deciding that staying mad at mom for not believing her about her assault wasn’t helping her heal. Mom decided to be a prat and badger her and kiddo about why they hadn’t done calls with grandmother the previous night. When the girls both told bio-mom they didn’t walk to talk about it she got sarcastic-angry. Sister walked out of visit, had some hysterics, then told the supervisor and her foster mom what upset her. Mom got told to knock it off or visit would end, then sister went back in and finished the visit. She STOOD UP for herself.
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Some stuff happened and I’m staring down the barrel of an eye-wateringly large dental bill. Financing is reasonable so I’m not entirely fucked, but hey America? Can we stop pretending teeth aren’t part of our overall health?
Fuck’s sake.
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@Solstice LUXURY FACE BONES
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Wednesday night at midnight, as I was taking the dogs out, there was a man standing at the end of my driveway. I think he was my creeper neighbor who sometimes watches me as I walk the dogs during the daytime, but I can’t be sure. He’s definitely got stalkery behavior.
Startled, I went back into the house and shut off all the lights so he could not see where I was and hid between some windows. I then saw lights flashing outside and peeking through the window he was standing there with a light shining on his body, masturbating.
I called the police and they came, but of course he was already gone by the time they got here. Response time was 15 minutes. A kind officer stayed on the phone with me until a trooper arrived and checked out the property.
I have never felt so scared as I did that night. I went to my sister’s house after the trooper stopped by.
I’ve since bought blackout curtains, multiple kinds of cameras, and several floodlights. Spent all day shopping to get everything. Now I just need to get it all installed.
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@Nynrose holy shit. I’m so sorry you had to deal with that? I’m glad the cops stayed on the phone with you, but YIKES. Stay safe.
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@Nynrose Have you considered a paintball gun packed with pepper balls? If he goes to the police over being peppercocked, he’ll then have to explain why his cock was out to get peppered.
Stay strong and maybe tell your crazy cousins/aunties/uncles/siblings about this.
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@Nynrose Y I K E S.
First, I’m glad you’re safe. I hate having to ask this as well, but do you have a means of defending yourself? Pepper spray, for example. This is clearly a person who is demonstrating highly suspect behavior.
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Is there any software for the mac that will just bloody well tell me what is making that fucking alert sound?
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@Gashlycrumb said in Real Life Struggles/Support/Vent:
Is there any software for the mac that will just bloody well tell me what is making that fucking alert sound?
The way I deal with that is to go to Notifications from System Preferences, and turn them off one at a time until it stops, and then look at whatever the last thing I turned off before it stopped was.
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Stalker Update - I installed a camera Friday morning off the railing of my deck. At 10:45 that night, on a lark, I decided to look at the live feed. I saw lights coming across the property and knew that guy came back again because he started flashing his light at the house again. He the moved to hide behind the tree. Then came back to flash lights at the house again.
My closest neighbors have been on the warpath since I told them what happened. One of them runs a daycare and has grandchildren living in her house, so they can’t have that crap around here. I called them after a few minutes of watching this guy and they came charging out and chased him back to the RV sitting on the property of where I observed the “creeper neighbor” being creepy.
The daycare neighbor had been researching the owners to see if she could find anything and came up with a picture of a not so great guy on the FB page of one of the listed owners pages. It turns out it was /that/ guy. They called the cops on my behalf. He had an outstanding warrant against him for failure to show to court. They arrested him that night but he got released later that morning.
I stayed with my sister last night. Time get the trail cams up now, which will have a pristine, clear picture. I didn’t get to see his face, so I can’t positively identify him, but the neighbors saw him. I filed for a peace order yesterday, which is our local version of a restraining order. So, if he comes onto my property now, he’s going to be arrested and held. I’m also filing criminal charges for what happened on Wednesday.
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@Nynrose I’m glad you and your neighbors are taking care of each other and keeping one another safe. Take care of yourself. I’m so sorry you’re going through this.
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@Nynrose I’m so fucking sorry you’re having to deal with this.
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@Nynrose Very impressed with your rapid response, research and the community around you helping out. This is awesome and I believe in you. To hell with creeps!
