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      hobos
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      I miss p of Rinel.

      Anyway, hoping that eventually all this will settle down and you can all be pals again.

      1. What the heck did Macha do that you all hate her so much? I have no idea who she is but it seems like some kind of seriously historic grudge.
      2. If it’s anything like what happened to VulgarKitten, who you are all still apparently ripping to shreds while not caring at all about the game runner exploitation that was perpetrated against her, then I think you need to get over it.
      3. Hopefully if p of Rinel sees this someday, she will know that I still care about her. :')
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      • MegM
        Meg @hobos
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        @hobos honestly, I hadn’t thought of Macha in ten years since this??? So I can’t speak for everyone, but I can speak for myself.

        I don’t hate her. But she did personally gaslight me and treat me pretty horribly, player to player, on the game we played together for a year (??? I think, don’t count on that time).

        This mostly was: we would have a scene, her character would say something mean to mine, my character would react to said meanness, and then in all other RP with people or even RP with me, she would insist the thing she said/did didn’t happen and it was just my character being crazy/mean out of nowhere.

        Mostly at the time, it made me feel shitty. Before this recent stuff, I just figured we were young and dumb and she didn’t feel comfortable enough to stop and ask for a retcon or communicate misunderstandings.

        ETA: I mean, VulgarKitten also lied and gaslighted people. She violated NCOs that other people asked for. I think that is the definition of a bad actor.

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        • KarmaBumK
          KarmaBum @hobos
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          @hobos said in Bannings:

          What the heck did Macha do that you all hate her so much? I have no idea who she is but it seems like some kind of seriously historic grudge.

          Hate is a strong word. Many of us may not like her or want to play with her, but please don’t lump us “all” in under terms like hate. We are not a collective, regardless of what Derp would like people to believe.

          She annoys me personally because she overshares personal stuff on public channels - really weird stuff, like her uncles making her get drunk when she was five or something. While the rest of us are in the middle of a conversation about ANYTHING ELSE. It was very off-putting.

          Couple it to her crybaby routine on Derp’s Forum, and I just don’t want to play with or deal with her.

          But HATE is a strong word.

          On Dragon Wings · https://pern.gaslightswitch.com · pern.gaslightswitch.com port 4201

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          • RozR
            Roz @hobos
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            @hobos said in Bannings:

            I miss p of Rinel.

            Anyway, hoping that eventually all this will settle down and you can all be pals again.

            1. What the heck did Macha do that you all hate her so much? I have no idea who she is but it seems like some kind of seriously historic grudge.

            Macha played on a game that several of us staffed about a decade ago. She was a player who was a recurring problem on the game. However, I don’t think any of us gave her much thought over the years as they passed. She only became notable at present because she went into someone’s DMs to extensively try to persuade someone of how awful I am based on her experience on this game ten years ago. And then she reported the person she DMed as “continuing to send messages to her after being asked to stop” because the other person send one message at the end that culminated in “message received, bye” and blocking her. And got that person banned.

            So if there is an ancient grudge here, it is on the part of Macha. I have not bothered her or even spoken about her in years. I knew who she was on MSB and simply didn’t engage with her. She is the one who felt the need to try and bring up stuff from ten years ago.

            I believe that there are some other folks who have been on games with her more recently. I have not, to my knowledge. I don’t think I’ve had any direct contact with her in nearly a decade.

            1. If it’s anything like what happened to VulgarKitten, who you are all still apparently ripping to shreds while not caring at all about the game runner exploitation that was perpetrated against her, then I think you need to get over it.

            Why don’t you care about the fact that she lied to people and specifically pursued romantic and sexual RP with people she knew wanted no contact with her?

            She clearly feels safe to rise on MSB again now that the people who will actually remember her long history of manipulation are gone. I think that sort of thing is actually one of the worst parts that’s come out of all of this.

            she/her | playlist

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            • saoS
              sao @hobos
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              @hobos the log of what Macha did is still linked on the Hog Pit on MSB. Ultimately, all she did to us that I knew of was be consistently nasty, manipulative, and unpleasant, on a game we ran more than ten years ago, such that she made up pages and pages of staff discussion as we tried not to give her her third behavior strike and ban her because we were so desperate to appear fair to the playerbase that we forgot that staffers are part of the playerbase & we should have been fair to us too. In the end, I’m glad of the experience because I now know some lessons I didn’t about how much bullshit is too much to tolerate.

              But per what she told Farf on that logged conversation she’s been lying to people about Roz since it happened and she lied to my face in that thread, so. She has shown herself to me and I shall be content to avoid her in future.

              let it be a challenge to you

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              • IoleRaeI
                IoleRae @hobos
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                @hobos

                Why do you consistently feel the need to defend people that actively hurt and intentionally abuse other people?

                the entity previously known as Sunny

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                • saoS
                  sao
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                  Ps: this is how the “dogpile” rep always happened – 9 people posting at once lol

                  let it be a challenge to you

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                  • MegM
                    Meg @sao
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                    @sao said in Bannings:

                    Ps: this is how the “dogpile” rep always happened – 9 people posting at once lol

                    I don’t think it is fair to call it a dogpile if the user asked for the answers, definitely!

                    But yeah, lots of people start typing and you don’t see any notification that someone else is posting.

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                    • saoS
                      sao @Meg
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                      @Meg oh yeah I don’t think it’s fair, I just think it happen

                      let it be a challenge to you

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                      • TezT
                        Tez Administrators @Meg
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                        @Meg said in Bannings:

                        @sao said in Bannings:

                        Ps: this is how the “dogpile” rep always happened – 9 people posting at once lol

                        I don’t think it is fair to call it a dogpile if the user asked for the answers, definitely!

                        Oh, I agree. It’s totally not fair. But the perception exists regardless. I HOPE NO ONE ELSE SAYS THIS AT THE SAME TIME SO WE AREN’T DOGPILING YOU.

                        ETA: oh NO SAO SAID IT TOO. sorry for dogpiling. 😞

                        she/they

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                        • NarsonN
                          Narson @Pavel
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                          @Pavel said in Bannings:

                          @Rucket said in Bannings:

                          obligatory fuck ghost and yes let us shun him.

                          While I appreciate the sentiment, if he does turn up here he’ll be as welcome as the rest of us, unless and until he does something against our rules. The same with anyone else.

                          Just for the record, I do actually disagree with this. It used to be my stance. ‘oh they haven’t done anything /here/’ and that I thought was totally fair. But it also enables access for abusive people into spaces. Which isn’t to say I think people should be instabanned, much as that might make us feel momentarily better, but I think past behaviour should absolutely be taken into consideration. If someone with hugely problematic behaviour elsewhere turns up, and is given a chance, and shows that same behaviour I don’t think we should pretend that this is their first offense etc.

                          When someone shows you who they are, over and over again? Believe them.

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                            Snackness
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                            dogpile

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                            • TezT
                              Tez Administrators @Narson
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                              @Narson said in Bannings:

                              @Pavel said in Bannings:

                              @Rucket said in Bannings:

                              obligatory fuck ghost and yes let us shun him.

                              While I appreciate the sentiment, if he does turn up here he’ll be as welcome as the rest of us, unless and until he does something against our rules. The same with anyone else.

                              Just for the record, I do actually disagree with this. It used to be my stance. ‘oh they haven’t done anything /here/’ and that I thought was totally fair. But it also enables access for abusive people into spaces. Which isn’t to say I think people should be instabanned, much as that might make us feel momentarily better, but I think past behaviour should absolutely be taken into consideration. If someone with hugely problematic behaviour elsewhere turns up, and is given a chance, and shows that same behaviour I don’t think we should pretend that this is their first offense etc.

                              I appreciate that you disagree, but it’s the decision we made. Past behavior will be taken into account for all forum members because we are all humans who do things like that. But for now, all are welcome.

                              she/they

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                              • hellfrogH
                                hellfrog @IoleRae
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                                @IoleRae said in Bannings:

                                @hobos

                                Why do you consistently feel the need to defend people that actively hurt and intentionally abuse other people?

                                I think this is actually very understandable, because they themselves were accused of intentionally breaking rules/lying about it. It’s natural to feel defensive and to extend that to other people.

                                Even if misguided when it comes to some individuals.

                                fr fr
                                (she/her)

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                                • NarsonN
                                  Narson @Tez
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                                  @Tez said in Bannings:

                                  @Narson said in Bannings:

                                  @Pavel said in Bannings:

                                  @Rucket said in Bannings:

                                  obligatory fuck ghost and yes let us shun him.

                                  While I appreciate the sentiment, if he does turn up here he’ll be as welcome as the rest of us, unless and until he does something against our rules. The same with anyone else.

                                  Just for the record, I do actually disagree with this. It used to be my stance. ‘oh they haven’t done anything /here/’ and that I thought was totally fair. But it also enables access for abusive people into spaces. Which isn’t to say I think people should be instabanned, much as that might make us feel momentarily better, but I think past behaviour should absolutely be taken into consideration. If someone with hugely problematic behaviour elsewhere turns up, and is given a chance, and shows that same behaviour I don’t think we should pretend that this is their first offense etc.

                                  I appreciate that you disagree, but it’s the decision we made. Past behavior will be taken into account for all forum members because we are all humans who do things like that. But for now, all are welcome.

                                  Oh, I’m not saying change the policy. Or throwing rocks until you do like a howler monkey kicking a 20 year smoking habit. Just saying that I disagree and why, and that I hope I’ll be wrong and people will behave responsibly.

                                  When someone shows you who they are, over and over again? Believe them.

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                                  • tsarT
                                    tsar @hobos
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                                    @hobos said in Bannings:

                                    I miss p of Rinel.

                                    Anyway, hoping that eventually all this will settle down and you can all be pals again.

                                    1. What the heck did Macha do that you all hate her so much? I have no idea who she is but it seems like some kind of seriously historic grudge.
                                    2. If it’s anything like what happened to VulgarKitten, who you are all still apparently ripping to shreds while not caring at all about the game runner exploitation that was perpetrated against her, then I think you need to get over it.
                                    3. Hopefully if p of Rinel sees this someday, she will know that I still care about her. :')

                                    Hobos is an avid reader of MSB. He knows exactly what went down. He’s now come over here to ask some questions that he already knows the answer to that are likely to kick at people’s emotions again when they’re raw.

                                    Don’t give that to him.

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                                    • HerjaH
                                      Herja @tsar
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                                      @tsar Right? I read that post immediately and was like

                                      Bait

                                      lol lmao

                                      It's me, hi, I'm the problem it's me

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                                      • tsarT
                                        tsar @Herja
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                                        @Herja said in Bannings:

                                        @tsar Right? I read that post immediately and was like

                                        Bait

                                        Yep. Obvious troll is obvious.

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                                        • TezT
                                          Tez Administrators
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                                          @Rathenhope I need the picture. I NEED THE PICTURE. YOU KNOW THE ONE.

                                          she/they

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                                          • MegM
                                            Meg @tsar
                                            last edited by

                                            @tsar said in Bannings:

                                            @hobos said in Bannings:

                                            I miss p of Rinel.

                                            Anyway, hoping that eventually all this will settle down and you can all be pals again.

                                            1. What the heck did Macha do that you all hate her so much? I have no idea who she is but it seems like some kind of seriously historic grudge.
                                            2. If it’s anything like what happened to VulgarKitten, who you are all still apparently ripping to shreds while not caring at all about the game runner exploitation that was perpetrated against her, then I think you need to get over it.
                                            3. Hopefully if p of Rinel sees this someday, she will know that I still care about her. :')

                                            Hobos is an avid reader of MSB. He knows exactly what went down. He’s now come over here to ask some questions that he already knows the answer to that are likely to kick at people’s emotions again when they’re raw.

                                            Don’t give that to him.

                                            Eh, I’m gonna give him the benefit of the doubt. I also hope that the community can all be pals eventually and that Rinel comes back.

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