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Based on the fact that a caveat that you do not test for <medical condition> was not only included in, but emphasized in bold in the email that I just received from you, I would assume that this is a recurring issue. I would strongly suggest that your office communicate this more clearly to your network of nearby referring offices, as well as to your own employees.

Please note that prior to making this appointment, I was advised that your office does test for <medical condition> by my referring doctor and specifically indicated to your receptionist that I was seeking testing for <medical condition> when I called in December to schedule this appointment and was told that I needed to fill out a battery of forms (which I should note I then didn’t receive for a week) before they would place me on your schedule. I specified it again in January when I called to confirm that I had completed and submitted them, but hadn’t heard back from your office, and was advised that your next available appointment wasn’t for several months.

If your staff had been able to communicate this the first time I spoke to them, it would have saved me multiple phone calls, clearing my schedule for a full day for a battery of testing, rearranging several financial payments to accommodate the nearly $2,000 that I would owe after my insurance coverage, and months of waiting only to find out now, three days before my appointment, that your office would not be able to help me with diagnosis or treatment at all.

It certainly would have saved your team this unkind, though not undeserved message.

Sincerely,
Aria

RightMeow

@Aria
I am so sorry. The upvote is in compassion not that I agree with the doctor or anything. I know it is frustrating to try and get a diagnosis for some disorders. I hope that you find someone soon to treat you with compassion. I’ll put out good thoughts and I’m sorry you have to go through this.

Aria

@RightMeow
I’m honestly – as hyperbolic as this sounds – devastated. This is apparently something that’s been affecting me my whole life but, like my asthma, only became severe enough that someone actually noticed/believed me and went “Ohh, shit, something is actually wrong.” instead of thinking I was just being difficult or dramatic (hysterical woman syndrome!!) well, well into adulthood.

My doctor and I have been trying to find a place that can actually diagnose me for the last year even though I live in one of the largest cities, with some of the best research hospitals, in the United States.

What the fuck am I supposed to do now?

RightMeow

@Aria I wish there was a way to virtual hug. I went through a few doctors who told me to ‘lose weight’ when I would tell them something was wrong. It took me finding the right doctor. I’m going to put all the happy and hopeful vibes for you. I wish there was something I could do. I could internet research for you if it would help, but I’m afraid that’s all I can offer. And long distance support and love.

GF

@Aria It doesn’t sound hyperbolic at all. It sounds utterly enraging.

TNP

@Aria Even pretty rare medical conditions tend to have some kind of association or organization with a website. Assuming it does exist, you could try contacting them and asking them to help you find a doctor that can do the tests you need.

junipersky

No cat NEEDS unsupervised time to free roam outside. Ever.

If you feel strongly about their need for outdoor time find a way to get a catio. There are some hacks for less than $50 if you are thrifty and watch fb marketplace or Craigslist.

junipersky

My anti-anxiety drugs can be shipped a-okay!

BUT HOLY SHIT HOW DARE I WANT BIRTH CONTROL PERSCRIBED TO ME AS A PAIN CONTROL METHOD OMG OMG OMG. I HAD BETTER GO SHOW MY PHOTO ID TO A REAL PERSON BECAUSE I MIGHT BE DOING SOMETHING ILLEGAL.

Seriously.

Birth control.

Pyrephox

@junipersky said in RL Peeves:

My anti-anxiety drugs can be shipped a-okay!

BUT HOLY SHIT HOW DARE I WANT BIRTH CONTROL PERSCRIBED TO ME AS A PAIN CONTROL METHOD OMG OMG OMG. I HAD BETTER GO SHOW MY PHOTO ID TO A REAL PERSON BECAUSE I MIGHT BE DOING SOMETHING ILLEGAL.

Seriously.

Birth control.

The fuck.

Nynrose

@junipersky said in RL Peeves:

My anti-anxiety drugs can be shipped a-okay!

BUT HOLY SHIT HOW DARE I WANT BIRTH CONTROL PERSCRIBED TO ME AS A PAIN CONTROL METHOD OMG OMG OMG. I HAD BETTER GO SHOW MY PHOTO ID TO A REAL PERSON BECAUSE I MIGHT BE DOING SOMETHING ILLEGAL.

Seriously.

Birth control.

It’s getting super crazy stupid out there.

GF

@Pyrephox said in RL Peeves:

The fuck.

I believe it is against forum policy to say why the fuck this is happening, but I’m pretty sure we can all guess.

Pavel

@GF said in RL Peeves:

@Pyrephox said in RL Peeves:

The fuck.

I believe it is against forum policy to say why the fuck this is happening, but I’m pretty sure we can all guess.

Mhm. Try as we might we can find… No Escape from Reality.

Herja

I am getting into my own head about my ADHD. I am finding myself unwilling to invest time or money in new hobbies because I just assume that I will enjoy it for a month and then never pick it up again so what’s the point?

Working out? This motivation is only going to last a couple of months at most so what is the point of putting effort into something that I’m just going to quit?

I rarely watch new TV series or movies because it feels like too much of an investment of time into something I won’t remember in 3 months anyway.

I’ve even gotten to the point where I am letting holds on library books that I really want to read lapse because what is the point if I’m never gonna finish it?

I don’t know if this is a weird form of depression or just a lot of frustration with my condition. I am well medicated for the first time in my life with stuff that doesn’t reduce me to sleeping only 3 hours a night or make me feel so lethargic that I cannot get out of bed. I am mostly functional!

But it feels like there is a ceiling to that functionality and I’m starting to wonder what the point of even trying to reach it is.

Testament

@Herja I struggle with much the same for similar reasons. For me, it is depression, it is a depression that may not be severe, but is constant and chronic And many things you have said falls in line with sometimes how I behave as well.

What I discovered as a way to get over something like this, and this may not work for you, but I want to suggest it anyways, is having these things be dependent on someone else. For example, I work out two to three times a week. I’ve been doing this since June, my partner since Dec 2021. The reason I didn’t just stop going after a month was two-fold but for the same reason. One, my partner kept me honest about. She got me to go. Keeping myself honest is hard because generally…I just don’t care enough. Secondly, my trainer. Because I pay her, and because I feel responsibility to do so.

And that’s really the kicker for me. I found out that if I feel some sense of responsibility to other people to do these things, generally that will be enough reason to kick my own ass into gear and actually do them. Even if it’s the last thing I really want to do. Even if just laying on the floor and doing nothing is preferable to me.

Keeping myself honest usually means that someone else is involved and I loathe the idea of letting someone else down. I hate the idea of letting my partner down. I hate the idea of letting my trainer down. And that is, by and large, the biggest help for me.

Not sure if that’ll help at all, but at the very least, I can totally sympathize with that feeling like what’s even the point if I’m just going to stop doing it anyways?

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