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MU Peeves Thread
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@sao said in MU Peeves Thread:
I really love depthful platonic relationships too. I keep thinking abt some really deep friendship connections I’ve played and how it doesn’t all have to be romance to be epic.
I really enjoy the types of characters that rub a lot of people the wrong way (for ideological or personal reasons, not for creep/squick reasons). One of the most rewarding parts of playing those characters is developing the few deep friendships with people who invested time in looking deeper at the character to see the virtues that I’ve buried beneath the surface.
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I think I’m envious of a lot of folks. Because I can say that this is something I really enjoy in RP, but so many times it’s been soured by OOC communications, or in often times, lack thereof. Boundaries were not set, discussions were not had, and then there’s hurt feelings all around. And I think, because of those interactions, I’ve become extremely gunshy about participating in that aspect of RP.
It’s also why I no longer do that kind of RP with players I don’t know or don’t have already an established communication or friendship with. There’s just too many unknown or variables and it almost gives me stress to even consider. I don’t like that, I wish I wasn’t like that, and I wish I could really enjoy that kind of RP more. But more often than not, I find myself avoiding it simply as means of self-preservation.
That said, the last two IC romances I’ve had in last two years have gone well, but likely because I followed my own advice above, someone I know, and having a discussion before anything happened.
ETA: That said, I do miss the spontaneity of some romances, how they just evolve organically and end up being great. That, I think, is the one thing I miss the most.
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@sao said in MU Peeves Thread:
I really love depthful platonic relationships too.
Amen. Bromances I’ve had with @tsar and @bear_necessities are top of my “best RP relationships ever” list.
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@Pyrephox My friend and I are still looking for a place where we can play a married Victorian couple who absolutely loathe each other in polite, passive aggressive ways.
It’d be so good.
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@DrQuinn said in MU Peeves Thread:
@Pyrephox My friend and I are still looking for a place where we can play a married Victorian couple who absolutely loathe each other in polite, passive aggressive ways.
It’d be so good.
So, in one of Jim Butcher’s series, two of the side characters are a villainous couple who hate each other but are working towards the same goals…until they’re not. And one of them serves divorce papers on the other during an epic fight-to-the-death.
They are my dream couple.
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@DrQuinn said in MU Peeves Thread:
@Pyrephox My friend and I are still looking for a place where we can play a married Victorian couple who absolutely loathe each other in polite, passive aggressive ways.
It’d be so good.
I’ve always wanted to play that dynamic and if you find that place, I will ship the hell out of that angry couple.
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@KarmaBum said in MU Peeves Thread:
@sao said in MU Peeves Thread:
I really love depthful platonic relationships too.
Amen. Bromances I’ve had with @tsar and @bear_necessities are top of my “best RP relationships ever” list.
I’ve enjoyed our one enemyship too. RIP those two guys who literally burned alive fighting each other.
Edit: And the part where I wrote the roster and picked a PB I knew you’d be like “yep” for. I regret nothing.
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@Pyrephox said in MU Peeves Thread:
Give me bitter but conflicted exes.
This was something I never imagined would be fun to RP until I had a chance to. Kind of hilarious that something that can be so fucking miserable IRL just leaves you cackling in delight to play pretend about.
As for the rest of the romantic spectrum, I have also firmly settled in the camp that needs something else going on to find it worth the time invested and the risk of potential OOC wackiness. There’s certainly nothing wrong with people who just want to essentially play house, but that ain’t my cuppa. Lovers in a time of war? One of them is secretly an assassin robot? Their own children time traveled back to ensure they met? YUSPLS
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@Wizz said in MU Peeves Thread:
@Pyrephox said in MU Peeves Thread:
Give me bitter but conflicted exes.
This was something I never imagined would be fun to RP until I had a chance to. Kind of hilarious that something that can be so fucking miserable IRL just leaves you cackling in delight to play pretend about.
was it ME
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@Roz UM WOW OK ROZ JEEZ NOT EVERYTHING IS ABOUT U
but yes it totally was
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@Testament said in MU Peeves Thread:
That said, the last two IC romances I’ve had in last two years have gone well, but likely because I followed my own advice above, someone I know, and having a discussion before anything happened.
Agree!
Talking things out and checking in is a very crucial part of any sort of relationship, even one in pretendy fun times. Heck, especially in pretendy fun times, as you’re both generally just trying to have fun, and you’ll likely play with one another again at some point down the road.
Communication! It’s important.
Like actually.
(But also so are spontaneous just-because hook-ups.)
Hmm. Yes.
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@Solstice said in MU Peeves Thread:
@Testament said in MU Peeves Thread:
That said, the last two IC romances I’ve had in last two years have gone well, but likely because I followed my own advice above, someone I know, and having a discussion before anything happened.
Agree!
Talking things out and checking in is a very crucial part of any sort of relationship, even one in pretendy fun times. Heck, especially in pretendy fun times, as you’re both generally just trying to have fun, and you’ll likely play with one another again at some point down the road.
Communication! It’s important.
Like actually.
(But also so are spontaneous just-because hook-ups.)
Hmm. Yes.
I once had someone jump my shit for asking, OOCly, if there was any squicks or language or things best left avoided before things progressed to far as I didn’t want the naughty bits to be triggering or just take someone out of the RP…
And then they cut all contact with me, for asking and making sure everything was ok to continue.
Win some, lose some.
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@Mourne said in MU Peeves Thread:
I once had someone jump my shit for asking, OOCly, if there was any squicks or language or things best left avoided before things progressed to far as I didn’t want the naughty bits to be triggering or just take someone out of the RP…
And then they cut all contact with me, for asking and making sure everything was ok to continue.
Win some, lose some.
SEE I DO THIS. I ASK. But the worst that’s ever happened is I get giggled at. And I’m fine with that.
But I need to know if ramming the [censored] with [censored] [censored] and [censored] until [censored], as an example, is acceptable language or if I need to amp it up, or tone it down, or maybe be super vague as preferable. I’m adaptable, I want my writing partner to enjoy themselves and definitely not trigger them.
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Yus! Feeling things out is great and all (really great), but it’s so easy to accidentally step on someone’s comfort levels that asking is totally appreciated.
@Mourne said in MU Peeves Thread:
I once had someone jump my shit for asking, OOCly, if there was any squicks or language or things best left avoided before things progressed to far as I didn’t want the naughty bits to be triggering or just take someone out of the RP…
What.
Not sure why that would be a dealbreaker. I, too, hate when people try to ask me how to have a good scene. /big sarcasms
Oh well is right. Suppose at the end of the day, people are different people.
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@Mourne said in MU Peeves Thread:
And then they cut all contact with me, for asking and making sure everything was ok to continue.
Win some, lose some.
Sounds like you won that one.
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@Solstice I thought ‘different strokes for different folks’ was the live and let live of the hobby. It used to be understood and accepted and discussed that some people are so anxiety-ridden about OOC contact for various reasons that they have unexpected reactions to being paged in the middle of a fuck scene with a ‘how’s the service’ questionnaire, instead of considered worthy of mockery and/or sarcasm.
I’m not the person that did this to @Mourne, but I’m not going to lie and say I haven’t ended up avoiding people who decided mid-intimate scene was the Right Time
to initiate OOC contact. I was yanked out of the mindset of the RP, I was embarrassed, likely because of the sudden reality and perspective shift, and for some reason, that very action, the action of contacting me during said RP just made me so uncomfortable that moving forward with the same type of RP would be awkward for me.I’m sorry that’s a reaction you feel worth mocking, although it’s fair to be perturbed if someone has that kind of reaction then bolts, then never explains that’s where they’re coming from but assuming they’re just blacklisting players for ‘asking how to have a good scene’ is kind of a shitty take.
How about hashing that shit out before the intimate scene? How about, if the intimacy was unexpected and therefore harder to do that with, contacting the player after the scene in a less in-your-face medium than paging between thrusts to offer that support or dial in the things that would make future interactions more enjoyable?
TL;DR How about just not vilifying people who may just be reacting poorly for reasons that aren’t dickitry?
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@eye8urcake There was no intimacy going on yet, in my case. I wasn’t trying to vilify anyone, I was just surprised when it happened because I was trying to make sure nothing bad happened, to be respectful of people’s boundaries, and whatnot.
That’s all I wanted to say, the timing was very different than what you were presenting.
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I’m not sure why this is directed at me in particular, when I spent the better part of my posts saying that communication is important, but I ultimately am the one who responded with a GIF and incredulity, so I’ll take the hit.
In an ideal world, all of this would have been discussed prior to the scene, but I still think there’s something to be said about bringing it up at the first available opportunity.
In this hypothetical situation that I know none of the details about, I admit a bias to favor the person who is trying to feel out and establish boundaries, but I don’t think someone’s somehow being a jerk by disconnecting if they feel uncomfortable for any reason.
Very much not an all or nothing game, here. The entire point of communicating these things beforehand is to avoid the very circumstances that were being discussed.
I really don’t see the broad vilification there, and I apologize if that came across in my post - I’m a proponent of informed consent and frequent check-ins. That doesn’t mean that there aren’t people who can do it other ways.
