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Bannings
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Trauma doesn’t have a catchall response. Also, one person can have different responses depending on the trauma.
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@RightMeow and, speaking to the audience because i know you probably know this, RM, but-- gasp you can have different responses to the same trauma. depending on the day and how you are feeling.
i alternately make jokes/sarcasm about my abuse and sometimes get really fucking withdrawn about it, etc. i can make jokes about the MSB shit and be sad about it at different times, too.
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swings feet
I’m getting more and more of a vibe that anyone who posts here must be horrible and terrible.
So I’m just going to go embrace it. Not go and post, because whatever, but like a the terrible Mexican telenovela I watched 3 seasons of (subtitled, because I don’t speak Spanish) in College - I can’t look away. I’m too invested now.
I liked some of the people there. Honestly, even when Derp was put on staff I didn’t have an opinion. I thought there was some validity in the idea (which was never expressed, this is 100% my own view) “This person just served the community by helping us move servers, and so now they’re going to get a say in what happens with their hard work.” I think I even PMed Derp with something like that?
But then all my friends got banned. Am I a bad person because people like @tsar, @Snackness and such are people that I like a lot? I stayed because I didn’t ~know~ there was another option. The second did I came scurrying over because my friends were here. I like my friends.
Y’all might be shitty sarcastic assholes sometimes, but I also know that you’re an amazing set of people. @Herja asked for help and within 24 hours had everything she needed. I know I can post a struggle and will have support instantly. When I fuck up I also know I’ll get my shit called out because that is what good people do. It is going to be 100% polite “hey I don’t like what you did?” nah. People have triggers and they’re allowed to react according to their trauma. The point is that we need room after to clear the air and bring things back to an even keel.
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I’ve never been called horrible and terrible. I’ve also never been accused of being part of a clique. I need to try harder.
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i feel like trying to language police a hobby full of erotic writers and social outcasts is, uh, a choice.
I’m genuinely baffled that sarcasm keeps getting tossed into those lists, but to each their own.
(I am definitely worth being culled from the community on that metric though, my blood sarcasm level is at least 0.23 percent, I’m dying of sarcasm poisoning, it’s very sad)
There’s a reminder here that a lot of people have thinner skin than I do. It’s definitely a good thing to be reminded of, right? It doesn’t make them a terrible person or anything – my own mother can’t really handle foul language because it triggers a trauma response from experiences with my father, I get that.
Still, I’m not sure trying to force that change on a whole community of the sorts of people who gladly flaunt social norms is the right play.
I do my best not to swear in front of my mother, and if I did log back into MSB, I would follow their rules regardless of how I feel about them (frankly, I don’t feel much either way about them, they’re fine, they’re just not being enforced evenly or well). One of the reasons I won’t log back into MSB is because I know whether or not I follow the rules is not the prime factor in how people respond over there. I watched MSB absolutely shit all over you , @Solstice , @Meg , etc, who were all following the rules, from the moment you started posting. Instant hostility to any pushback (or, for that matter, confusion). They are not following their own rules. If my mom started swearing like a sailor, I’d probably take it as granted that she’s not as upset about cussing as she says she is.
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I definitely respond to bad things with sarcastic humor, it’s armor. If I can find some sort of way to laugh at something, then maybe it isn’t that bad or scary or shitty. I think that’s fairly true for a number of people. So I’m a little baffled that one of the complaints is about anyone being sarcastic. Yeah, some of that’s going to happen.
What I like about this board is I don’t feel like I’m in a pool of same-same people. There was a nice back and forth in the peeve thread about the nature of apologies. And in that, I learned I was doing something that was apparently off-putting behavior in my day-to-day life. Not horrible, just socially awkward and uncomfortable for other people.
And I took steps IRL to not do that anymore. So I think there’s a lot of value to people disagreeing and pulling arguments apart and seeing what they’re made up of. I haven’t found any of the conversations here with the members to be particularly vitriolic.
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I should be fair and said that I have absolutely been mean, and said mean things, about the people over there who are saying things just profoundly not true about people I like over here when those people can’t defend themselves.
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So since this is the second time in extremely recent MSB history that I’ve been either @tted at (despite being banned) or had my quote from here used as an example for how awful BMD is, I’d like to ask:
Derp, how did I hurt you? Is it because I am a woman with opinions, or is it because I called you a misogynist, or is it because of something else? I’d love to know! Pls respond on MSB, xoxoxoxo love me
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@bear_necessities yours wasn’t even the worst he could have used. yours was mild. it was barely even an attack, never mind a personal attack. it was a light tease.
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@Meg It’s clearly something personal at this point. Even though personal attacks aren’t allowed on the nice MSB anymore.
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@bear_necessities said in Bannings:
@Meg It’s clearly something personal at this point. Even though personal attacks aren’t allowed on the nice MSB anymore.
As my amigo @Third-Eye likes to say
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But //you// aren’t a person any more. You’re a dirty banned BMD internet troll who just wants MSB to burn. You’re just a rule breaking jerkface mean pants.
So personal attacks are okay! As long as you are characterized as ‘other’ then it’s all good in the neighborhood.
(This is sarcasm okay.)
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Also kind of fucked up to deny some people the use of their love language. Like.
Pretty rude for anyone to say all things that have mean words in them are malicious.
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When people can’t refute your argument, they bitch about the cussing. Just a sign that they have no good defense.
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@tsar
It would be hilarious if MSB installed some sort of mod to turn profanity into ‘fork’ and such but this is maybe too self-aware.I want something else to get me through this
Semi-charmed kinda life, baby, baby
I want something else, I'm not listening when you say good-byeShe/Her or They/Them
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@Third-Eye said in Bannings:
@tsar
It would be hilarious it MSB installed some sort of mod to turn profanity into ‘fork’ and such but this is maybe too self-aware.Something Awful has a language filter for people without an account and honestly it’s way, way, way funnier than any actual swearing.
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Randomly - I hate that your sig has that song stuck in my head now. THANKS A LOT. >:|
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I wanna be like ‘I’m not mad, I’m just disappointed’ but I’m mad AND disappointed, because I’m a COMPLEX HUMAN BEING.
she/they
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@junipersky
It started as a joke and now I’m listening to them on Spotify a ton unironically. So that’s what I’ve gotten from this.
