@Birdie Something you said here kind of triggered me in a way.

It’s ok to be monogamous. It doesn’t have to have anything to do with self-esteem. Some people are just not built for polygamy and that is perfectly ok. Don’t feel like you’ve done /anything/ wrong by not wanting to be in a polygamous relationship.

Don’t ask, don’t tell, I don’t know if I could even go that far with some characters, and I know I couldn’t RL so please, don’t feel like you’ve done anything wrong.

You set up a line, a boundary, and /they/ pushed it, broke it, and hop scotched right across it. That is not your fault, they disrespected your boundaries and your choices.

Very not cool of them.

How much energy would a goldfish release if it were to explode via nuclear fission.

I am sorry that you feel that way…

is NOT a fucking apology.

Please, it’s ok if you have to go AFK, but if it’s going to be like, an hour… let me know before hand if you could? That’d be swell.

@kalakh Lack of consolidation.

A healthy community is one that has a wide variety of people and opinions with a few common ones that bring them together so that this thing in the community can be enjoyed.

It is impossible for everyone to agree on everything all the time. Human nature and opinions being what they are there are going to be differences. What makes them healthy differences though is when people can speak about those differences in a non-toxic way that doesn’t deride someone for not sharing an opinion.

It is ok to have different opinions on things within the community, to respect that my opinion might be different from someone else’s, but that’s a hard thing to do these days. Everything is divisive.

Everything.

Of course when someone’s opinion is factually untrue, or is painfully detrimental to others, and promotes hostility and violence towards others… then a line needs to be drawn and something done.

I would not claim to know how to do that, but as has happened, obviously people reacted to those lines differently, and find those lines in other places.

So what do we do? Try and speak with like-minded individuals I guess, so that everyone’s pretendy fun times isn’t messed up.

@GF

I’ve lurked and lurked off and on for a long while on WORA and MSB as my interest in MU*'s has waxed and waned, never posting to either really.

When I recently came back to MU*'s and saw what was going on on MSB I was surprised and shocked. There’s been opinions said by a lot of people that I disagreed with on both sides but I didn’t see the point in banning anyone. The whole point of WORA and I thought MSB was to just let the air out, educate, make your own decisions about anonymous people on the interwebs (which we all know what usually descends from that).

I am glad Derp put up the post about this place, cuz I would have never known otherwise as I don’t do discord.

My personal take is that shit takes care of itself in a public forum. Those who know about this place will come post, or lurk, or otherwise follow and it’s not like MSB ever had as much ‘power’ as it thought it did to begin with.

@Roz said in Bannings:

Even if I want to yell at someone about how they’re being a total shitty asshole, I want to yell at them with the right pronouns.

Cuz that just makes it /better/, they absolutely /know/ that you’re yelling and being angry with /them/ and not just some nebulous pronouns

@tsar said in Bannings:

@shit-piss-love said in Bannings:

but you don’t seem like you have malice.

[blah blah blah] or posing in past tense yet.

I hate you so much right now.

So much.

For even reminding me this is a thing people do/did.

I’ve had Covid twice.

The first time was when we weren’t sure it had hit the country yet (it had) and I worked delivery. The whole hub got it but we didn’t know what it was. Had a fever so high I was hallucinating for 3 days straight before it broke.

Second time was in January of this year, just in time so that I couldn’t go to the Las Vegas Open for WH40K that I’d spent literally thousands of dollars on.

Not happy.

That time I’d had my shots so it was like, some mild coughing. Not bad at all…

But I missed biggest pro WH40K event near me

I’ve seen a few Ares games that has discord linked in, and it’s essentially public channels cross-played to discord.

As an anti-discord type who prefers to keep games and things tied to work separate, I don’t use it myself but it can and does happen with Ares a fair bit.

@lionking I think you have me confused with someone else. The only thing I asked on the channel was this: ‘Are all non-Lupus getting the gnosis bump?’ And to which they answered: ‘Nope it is arbitrary as fuck’ and I GTFO without another word.

So no. You’re still trying to paint me in a light that is completely unfavorable. So the only bullet that was dodged was by me, because if /this/ is how someone reacts to one person making a simple small comment on a forum, and saying a single line on a game while they are in chargen?

Damn.

All I got to say from my perspective, is /this/ is showing me /exactly/ why I am glad I GTFO and the game was /definitely/ not for me.

ETA: Pretty disingenuous to say that game somehow dodged a bullet by my not playing there. I am A) Not disruptive. B) Active in generating RP for others. C) I run plots for people. D) I’m a pretty good RP’er judging by others compliments and desires to RP with me on the game I do play right now so…

Piss off whoever you are who makes huge assumptions. Not going to be bullied by you.

@eye8urcake I tried to be very respectful as the scene was heading in an intimate direction but everyone’s clothes were still on. So I asked OOCly just to make sure and clarify things and I got chewed out for breaking RP, which is… ok, sure I can get that but to /me/, better safe than sorry.

I’d rather not assume my boundaries are the same as anyone else’s at all.

I don’t want to get into the fine details, but all the clothes were still on but the flirting was pretty heavy and direct and we’d progressed to private location.

It was precisely because people can have such negative reactions to things in RP or out of it, that I think it is important to ask. Any offense is not intentional, quite the opposite.

I appreciate all the advice. I might take a shot but I worry that is what is on the roster is all there is… I’m one of those people who do excessive reading on a new game. I dug through all the youngish male characters (As I definitely do not want to play an old person who should be way more knowledgeable than I will be) on the roster.

I will give it a shot when I am feeling more willing to accept disappointment.

One of the things I love about our last series of scopes is that we’ve been all: Ok we think it’ll be this good, which is awesome and then the telescope is all…

Hold my drink.

On the civility front, I call bullshit.

We’re not Vulcans. We have unlocked emotions. They run free sometimes and they should especially in the face of outrage.

The idea that everyone needs to be ‘civil’ needs to go diaf because someone can and should be upset about certain events, and guess what, that is a necessary thing. It could be necessary for their healing process, if they can heal to begin with but the biggest thing to remember for all the people crying for civility 100% of the time?

It.

Is.

Not.

About.

You.

@mietze Everyone fucks up frequently as a parent. Children are all different little people, we all do what we think is right, but you just never know how they’re going to take it. It isn’t easy!

@Solstice said in MU Peeves Thread:

@Testament said in MU Peeves Thread:

That said, the last two IC romances I’ve had in last two years have gone well, but likely because I followed my own advice above, someone I know, and having a discussion before anything happened.

Agree!

Talking things out and checking in is a very crucial part of any sort of relationship, even one in pretendy fun times. Heck, especially in pretendy fun times, as you’re both generally just trying to have fun, and you’ll likely play with one another again at some point down the road.

Communication! It’s important.

Like actually.

(But also so are spontaneous just-because hook-ups.)

Hmm. Yes.

I once had someone jump my shit for asking, OOCly, if there was any squicks or language or things best left avoided before things progressed to far as I didn’t want the naughty bits to be triggering or just take someone out of the RP…

And then they cut all contact with me, for asking and making sure everything was ok to continue.

Win some, lose some.

This is by no means complete. I’ve been playing a long time with some significant gaps here and there. Between that, computer deaths, lack of proper backups, /and/ my brain being almost literal swiss cheese compared to the steel vice it was when I was younger, there will be omissions. It is not intentional.

AmberMUSH (1992-): Mephistopheles (Chaos Lord), Rakshir (One of Dalt’s Brood), Mystique (Shadow Sorceress)
CrackMUX: Ash (Highlander), also some Lasombra I can’t remember the name of but wrote like 150K bg for.
Cajun Nights: Matteo (Ananasi), Taima (Pumonca), Nao (Khan), and a couple others I can’t remember names.
ShadowRun Denver: Arclight (Mage), Spectre (Samurai)

There was a long stretch where I played quite a few games, but none of them really stuck or lasted for long so I don’t recall their names or my characters names. Then I took a break, but more recently I’ve been trying out Ares and I am not sold on it, but I get it. It’s still weird to me.

Crystal Springs: Tyson, Levi, and Bastian
Thundergulch: Christoff and Taima
Keys: Miles

Currently (and only)
Elseverse: Piotr Rasputin/Colossus

@eye8urcake There was no intimacy going on yet, in my case. I wasn’t trying to vilify anyone, I was just surprised when it happened because I was trying to make sure nothing bad happened, to be respectful of people’s boundaries, and whatnot.

That’s all I wanted to say, the timing was very different than what you were presenting.