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    • PavelP
      Pavel @Testament
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      @Testament Unfortunately, confusion and not getting expected answers is part and parcel of dealing with mental health stuff. Without knowing the full layout of your particular situation I obviously can’t judge, but I’d definitely require a bunch of information gathering over a few sessions before I felt comfortable saying that someone 99.9999% has X, Y, or Z.

      He/Him. Opinions and views are solely my own unless specifically stated otherwise.
      BE AN ADULT

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      • PavelP
        Pavel
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        Also important to note: It’s not your fault that you’re confused. It’s fucking confusing for all of us (client/patient and practitioner alike) and I’ve got the DSM-V open on my desk right now. The brain’s weird, and when it goes wrong (by certain definitions…) it gets weirder.

        If you weren’t confused, it’d just mean you weren’t really paying attention.

        He/Him. Opinions and views are solely my own unless specifically stated otherwise.
        BE AN ADULT

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        • RinelR
          Rinel @Testament
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          @Testament said in Real Life Struggles/Support/Vent:

          I don’t know if ADHD falls into some kind of spectrum or not.

          It is part of an extremely broad category of executive dysfunction. I don’t want to say spectrum in particular, because that sort of indicates that things like ADHD are on one side and things like OCD on the other. Some people have both.

          Ask me how I know. 🙁

          Though our understanding of psychiatry is not really advanced enough for us to do much more than diagnose people based on syndromes–we can’t point exactly to where something is going on in the brain and say “ah, well, that’s why your executive function is wonky.”

          bird's still the word

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          • FaradayF
            Faraday @Testament
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            @Testament said in Real Life Struggles/Support/Vent:

            I don’t know if ADHD falls into some kind of spectrum or not. She was willing to say that there was something to read into it. Or at least enough to prescribe me medication for it?

            ADHD is not a “spectrum” per se, but it does have three distinct subtypes with subtly different presentations. How to ADHD has a good explainer on the differences (also a great channel overall for understanding ADHD and how to work with it). I’m not suggesting you try to diagnose yourself from it, but learning more about it may help give you vocabulary to understand what your provider is saying and ask the right questions.

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            • juniperskyJ
              junipersky Administrators
              last edited by junipersky

              I feel bad that I’m super grateful little foster child is in school today while I’m home on my spring break. (She is in a different district than I teach in.) But I am grateful. I needed a solid rest from the constant stimulation. I hope it helps me be better for her.

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                mietze @junipersky
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                @junipersky it’s important to have those breaks! i did therapeutic emergency placements/respite for awhile (and i’m sure the number of respite folks has not increased since the time that i did!) and just having a break can really be helpful, so i’m glad you have some time without having to tap in to that!

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                • PavelP
                  Pavel @junipersky
                  last edited by

                  @junipersky said in Real Life Struggles/Support/Vent:

                  I feel bad that I’m super grateful little foster child is in school today while I’m home on my spring break.

                  All parents feel this. Most parents feel guilty about feeling this. But it’s absolutely normal. Parenting is work - rewarding, no doubt, but work nonetheless. And we all need breaks from work.

                  He/Him. Opinions and views are solely my own unless specifically stated otherwise.
                  BE AN ADULT

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                  • tenT
                    ten
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                    insurance approved TMS therapy. here goes nuthin.’

                    magnets

                    they | them

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                    • TributaryT
                      Tributary
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                      I am so exhausted I want to cry.

                      My spouse has insomnia regularly. And since paramedics shattered his shoulder 10 months ago, he is in constant sporadic pain. It is so so hard to sleep next to someone who keeps twitching and murmuring, especially when you know they’re taking comfort from your presence.

                      But I woke up an hour before my alarm and I have a headache already from the stress and I have to go to work and I’m so tired from his restlessness. I want a hug. 😞

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                      • DeviantD
                        Deviant @Tributary
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                        @Tributary

                        As someone who also sleeps next to someone with chronic insomnia, I feel for you. It’s so exhausting.

                        Not everyone likes me, but not everyone matters.

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                        • SockMonkeyS
                          SockMonkey
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                          County offices and everything takes so damn long on their end, but when they need something and you don’t jump through every hoop you are called uncooperative. Even when it’s hoops they have only told you about and not set up yet. Meanwhile watching your child wait on important help they need because of it.

                          Words. Cannot. Express. My. Rage.

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                          • juniperskyJ
                            junipersky Administrators
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                            You don’t have a fever nor are you throwing up.
                            Sorry sweetheart, OFF TO SCHOOL.

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                            • R
                              RightMeow
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                              I know this is just a meh sort of thing and it effects everyone, but still. I’m tired. All the time. Like mentally and emotionally tired. I am really good at masking (which I suppose also makes me mentally and emotionally tired), but dang.

                              I don’t know if this is older getting to me. I remember those people sitting around the table talking about being tired. Now I’m those people. Or if it’s depression. Or just you know how it is.

                              It’s not ending my life, but it is killing my motivation to do anything.

                              That’s it. I’m just tired.

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                              • PavelP
                                Pavel @RightMeow
                                last edited by

                                @RightMeow said in Real Life Struggles/Support/Vent:

                                That’s it. I’m just tired.

                                The biggest thing impacting people, both (diagnosed) mentally ill and not, who see me professionally (am therapist, much counselling, wow) is just…

                                vague gesture

                                The world be the way it is, and it’s shit for a lot of us. You’re definitely not alone in feeling the way you do. I’ve got all these tools and all this training, and it still just sucks.

                                He/Him. Opinions and views are solely my own unless specifically stated otherwise.
                                BE AN ADULT

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                                • TwinkleT
                                  Twinkle @RightMeow
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                                  @RightMeow I have felt this the past two months, my motivation is gone lately and all I want to do is sleep. I keep putting one foot in front of the other, but sometimes I just don’t want to.

                                  I hope things look up for you, and motivation returns sooner rather than later.

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                                  • tsarT
                                    tsar
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                                    I do not enjoy my schedule forcing me to cram the RP in but such is life. 😠

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                                    • saoS
                                      sao
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                                      Oh my God.

                                      Okay.

                                      So, the whole country is I guess in a public defender shortage right now but I am only really aware of it in so far as it impacts me personally, which is a lot. I work indigent defense as a contractor in a rural county. There are only two of us left because everyone else either quit or retired. I work a lot! I work more than I used to. I never think I work enough, but all my colleagues say I work too much.

                                      I won’t go into the details too much here, but basically, I’m at capacity. They can’t give me any more work. Somehow every time I close a case, I agree to take on another one which somehow becomes 2 or 3. Anytime a client that I have an active case with commits another crime (excuse me, is alleged to have committed another crime) I get their new one too. They recently added a third attorney so there will be 3 of us instead of 2, and they’ve hired some “overflow” contractors to help get us out of this mess to take on a limited number of clients (at a substantially higher rate of pay than I am contracted for, which… is … going to come up when we renegotiate these contracts later this year but never mind).

                                      This post is not about how broken this is.

                                      This post is because a thing just happened to me that I was so mad about that one discord rant about it was not enough.

                                      This lady contacted me via 3 text messages and a voicemail over the past two days, asking me to represent her son who is incarcerated. She explained that he was really upset by something that the overflow attorney working his case said to him, so could I represent him instead. I explained that I am at capacity right now so it would be pretty unfair for me to take on paid cases. She basically explained that she hadn’t intended to pay me, she just wanted her precious baby to get to pick his public defender off the fucking department store rack.

                                      If I ever meet this lady in person, I am going to punch her in the throat.

                                      let it be a challenge to you

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                                      • K
                                        Kassien @sao
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                                        @sao said in Real Life Struggles/Support/Vent:

                                        If I ever meet this lady in person, I am going to punch her in the throat.

                                        You do that and you may require a public defender…and with a shortage, wouldn’t that be your competitors? 😀😀

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                                        • saoS
                                          sao @Kassien
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                                          @Kassien I’m afraid I wouldn’t qualify for a public defender!

                                          let it be a challenge to you

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                                          • juniperskyJ
                                            junipersky Administrators
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                                            Another school year (year 14) has passed. I’m feeling really meh about it. My position this year was half of two different teams, and that made it hard to really integrate anywhere. My relationships with kids were way more shallow then I would like.

                                            Just leaving me flat.

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