Someone sent me an unsolicited message saying they liked my RP and
it’s nice
Someone sent me an unsolicited message saying they liked my RP and
it’s nice
Firstly, huge hugs/good vibes/prayers/whatever you like best sent your way. I’ve been in the ER for anxiety… a lot. Probably over ten times at this point.
Secondly, it sounds like this isn’t your first rodeo with anxiety, but if it is, here’s what you do. First, do everything in your power to curb avoidance of what is making you anxious. Avoidant behavior makes anxiety really, really bad (source: in recovery for severe agoraphobia). Second, see a psychatrist asap. If you can’t see a psychiatrist, see your primary care doctor. Be open to them about what’s happening and ask for medicine. If you have an addictive personality or a history of substance abuse, make sure they’re aware of that before they prescribe you any benzodiazepenes. Having anti-anxiety meds will help you stabilize so you can move on to the third and most important step–therapy.
You’re probably gonna have to do therapy. It sounds like you may need to do some intensive therapy. Find a specialist in cognitive behavioral therapy. Cognitive behavioral therapy, along with exposure therapy, is an extremely effective method of treating anxiety and depression, which it sounds like you also have.
None of this is easy. If it were, I wouldn’t be a half-employed lawyer who struggles to bill 15 hours a week and who needs her parents to drive her places at 33 years of age. It frequently REALLY SUCKS. But it’s doable. I’m making huge strides in my recovery.
You’ve got this. If you need to DM someone who has been through this shit, whether to ask for advice, chat about it, or just scream directly into a sympathetic ear, I’m here.
I’m rooting for you.
I kind of feel bad for her insofar as it really felt like she was totally out of her depth both rhetorically and emotionally, but being out of one’s depth emotionally doesn’t mean other people should have to put up with your relentless diatribes.
I always lean towards “forgive and let back in when possible,” but in this case I think “when possible” would be “after some hard evidence indicating serious work on emotional regulation.”
@Wizz said in Stupid Memes:
how am I both completely blown away and yet not surprised at all by this information
I’m gonna need Brits to harden the fuck up when it comes to rats (seriously?) and geese (understandable, but you’d still WIN).
Everything after goose is just maniac shit.
ETA: having dealt with geese and cats both, I’d like to say that people are wildly overconfident re: housecats if they’re that concerned about geese
Very few people who did not grow up as girls are fully aware of this problem. These stories are heartbreaking, upsetting, and horrifyingly frequent. Threads like this help inform people largely unaffected by the issue and help inform people in these kinds of situations that they aren’t alone and that help is available.
My only comment on here is that Concordia is about seven cities from seven worlds that got dropkicked into an alien planet 60ish years ago, at which point giant holes in the sky opened up and started barfing out Serious Issues.
This does not conform to the Standard Model, is all I’m saying
I’m being very vague on purpose here, and I’m not going to elaborate.
I play on a game where someone is playing a minority character. The way they are playing that character strikes me as not quite right. It feels stereotyped and almost offensive. It does not feel natural to me.
I’m not a member of that minority. I definitely don’t have the breadth of knowledge to even guess as to whether the player is a member of that minority. I have very vague vibes that make me uncomfortable, and because I’m not directly affected by the portrayal I’m unwilling to get others involved.
“But Rinel then why are you talking about it here—” Because this is venting and it’s a situation where I feel guilty for any action I do or do not take and I want to vent about it.
I think you’re doing the thing I do where you try to make sure you don’t offend people by mixing in humor, but what ends up happening is people can’t easily tell what you’re joking about and what you’re not joking about, and so misunderstandings happen, and so you try to use more humor to defuse the situation, and then more misunderstandings happen, and now oh gosh things are getting out of hand
Anyway, I can understand why you’re annoyed at piecemeal changes to rules being made, and I can believe that you weren’t trying to toe the line. But what staff told you seems fairly obvious, and so an accidental misunderstanding on your part could definitely be seen as intentional.
Communication sucks.
My stance on MJ is that if you use it, you should make an effort to commission more artists in order to offset the harm you’re contributing to. The ability to pump out “good enough” images is a huge problem for artists, and it’s going to make art the exclusive domain of the wealthy again.
Thankfully, for now, midjourney et al are fucking terrible unless you want a human in an extremely boring pose, but given the rapidity of their development I doubt it will stay that way.
Anyway, yeah, I’m ok with placeholder art for characters via MJ (though I think @Faraday’s absolutist stance against it is more coherent and principled), but if you’re playing that character for more than a month or two it’s time to start looking for commissions, imho.
@Testament said in Real Life Struggles/Support/Vent:
I don’t know if ADHD falls into some kind of spectrum or not.
It is part of an extremely broad category of executive dysfunction. I don’t want to say spectrum in particular, because that sort of indicates that things like ADHD are on one side and things like OCD on the other. Some people have both.
Ask me how I know.
Though our understanding of psychiatry is not really advanced enough for us to do much more than diagnose people based on syndromes–we can’t point exactly to where something is going on in the brain and say “ah, well, that’s why your executive function is wonky.”
@DrQuinn said in Silent Heaven: Small-town Horror RPG:
-I basically can’t play it due to the whole ‘idle out on grid and bad things happen’ bit. I have kids and I work and so I have constant sudden interruptions even if I have carved out some time to play. And yes, sometimes (too often) those things are so sudden that I don’t even have time to hit the pause button (that I am glad was installed). I have been EXTREMELY lucky that most people are cool and seem to understand that part sucks and have returned me to the hotel room each and every time, but it instills an anxiousness in me OOCly that I really, really dislike. It takes me out of the game. It bleeds into RL in a way I really hate because after dealing with an emergency or any sudden, stressful situation I have to be like oh fuck, I need to run to log into this game and hope something hasn’t happened that I’d need to deal with IC while I was RLing and sit there and hit the buttons and wait to get back to the hotel so I can just sign off.
Having played a bit more, I wanted to come back to this, because it’s starting to really get to me. Ending a scene and logging off can become a 15-20 minute affair as I navigate the rooms to get back to the hotel. It makes it increasingly difficult to justify logging on and finding roleplay when I can’t simply dip out after a little bit. I understand the benefits of it, but it’s an unfortunate roadblock for me. I’d be willing to take a substantial hit to my character, whether in terms of money or skills or anything, to be able to log out wherever.
(I realize you CAN log out wherever but then it feels like an imposition on the kindness of others, just like Quinn said, and that’s even worse.)
@Kestrel said in How dangerous is VASpider?:
It’s not fun to be stalked/harassed by a mob of racist/queerphobic weirdos online, even if you feel no shame in your identity. Also the kinds of people who would do this needn’t actually say anything about you that’s remotely true in order for it to be potentially damaging, or at the very least upsetting.
Yeah, I know.
Spoiled for gallows humor about the LGBT experience:
(This is somewhat liberatory if you embrace it, but it’s still rather bleak)
@Meg said in Elysium /MUSH:
@Jumpscare you could not pay me enough money.
You could pay me enough money. I’ll write filth for enough money. Just in case any freaky billionaires are watching.
Back on topic, my favorite not-horrific part of this trainwreck is the flouncing away from the planet where baby goddess mysteriously gained her powers. Fuck you, Earth! You were mean to me about my predilection for preying upon children, so I’m going to go make a new reality!
I suppose that’s possibly better than forcibly converting Earth to this person’s fetishes and paraphilias, though the creation of the Eternal Fuck-Torment Nexus is still, uh…
I just hope this person keeps all this shit online and with consenting adults.
Ugh. Y’all are right.
I just feel like a fucking cop.
@Smile said in MU Peeves Thread:
@Rinel This isn’t advice about what to do. But to be honest, someone /can/ be a part of a minority group and still play a PC from that group offensively.
That’s true, but it feels inappropriate for me to police that, you know?
ETA: @mietze, for sure the only thing that it would even occur to me to do would be to involve staff. For right now, though, I think I’m going to sit and wait.
I’m being very vague on purpose here, and I’m not going to elaborate.
I play on a game where someone is playing a minority character. The way they are playing that character strikes me as not quite right. It feels stereotyped and almost offensive. It does not feel natural to me.
I’m not a member of that minority. I definitely don’t have the breadth of knowledge to even guess as to whether the player is a member of that minority. I have very vague vibes that make me uncomfortable, and because I’m not directly affected by the portrayal I’m unwilling to get others involved.
“But Rinel then why are you talking about it here—” Because this is venting and it’s a situation where I feel guilty for any action I do or do not take and I want to vent about it.
@MisterBoring said in City of Glass - Discussion:
I have never… ever… drawn as complete a blank as I have for a played by for my character here compared to anywhere I’ve ever played before.
Like, ugh.
I would advise going on pinterest, finding art, and using that. The obsession with living actors is weird to me. I’ve done it, and it seems like way more trouble than it’s worth. If something doesn’t fall in my lap in about ten minutes of searching, it’s artstation and pinterest time.