MU Peeves Thread
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@bear_necessities said in MU Peeves Thread:
@GF gonna just say that there’s countless pages here about people having brain weasels, feeling like they are bothering people, or are nervous/anxious to reach out.
This is where I am with it. The only difference between me and that guy is I just think “I must be bothering them” instead of saying it aloud, because saying it aloud is manipulative whether intentional or unintentional. I don’t get the sense of bad faith from this person, or feel a need to accept a long-term responsibility to socialize them, but I do want to find a way to explain how off-putting that behavior is so maybe they can work on it or, if not work on it, at least leave me out of it.
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@GF Well in terms of explanation, I find it easiest to put yourself in his shoes: Figure how would you want someone to broach the subject, and then do that.
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@GF I get it, I really do, and I hope it is unintentional. I think we’d all be better off if people just said how they feel about stuff. “I wasn’t at my computer but to be honest with you, pages like this make me uncomfortable. I still want to talk to you, but there will be times when I can’t immediately respond so I’d appreciate it if you gave me some grace instead of thinking you are bothering me.” That person may very much decide never to page you again but at least you’ve drawn your line in the sand.
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@GF Having been on the receiving end of this behavior multiple times, I think it’s very important to draw your line in the sand from the beginning. Trust your gut about your red flags and decide where you want that line to be and be honest. That’s the best thing you can do, for both yourself and this other person. It’s good to set boundaries and let other people know them, especially if you only have so many spoons in a day to spend on things.
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Losing players and not knowing why. Like, it’d be nice to just know if it’s personal, if the game isn’t jiving, if if if if if…
Also, the MU player trauma that makes them not talk to staff. Holy shit. It is really hard to convince people you want to help them out and aren’t annoyed or mad that they misunderstood or misinterpreted a scene set or something like that. Players will 100% delete a 500-word pose to write a “standing in the background” pose just to not incur some imaginary wrath.
Some people have been treated like shit and it shows, fuck.
In Occam I trust.
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Banning all talk of RL violence on a public channel is an inappropriate kneejerk reaction, right? Right.
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@Cobalt I guess it depends on the context. Without knowing anything about the situation, I’m guessing someone was talking about an incident that made the news which affects them personally and was forbidden from doing so because talking about things that affect you violates a prohibition against politics?
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@GF said in MU Peeves Thread:
@Cobalt I guess it depends on the context. Without knowing anything about the situation, I’m guessing someone was talking about an incident that made the news which affects them personally and was forbidden from doing so because talking about things that affect you violates a prohibition against politics?
No, actually. Testosterone leaden non sequiturs.
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@Coin said in MU Peeves Thread:
Losing players and not knowing why.
This time of year is a common time to lose players. It’s getting warmer outside. Between now and April is when people remember the joy of touching grass and ditch some of their internet interests.
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@Cobalt I hate it when grunt grunt sweat dudes swing their dicks around.
I am/was tek. If this means something to you, do as you see fit with this knowledge.
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@Jumpscare said in MU Peeves Thread:
@Coin said in MU Peeves Thread:
Losing players and not knowing why.
This time of year is a common time to lose players. It’s getting warmer outside. Between now and April is when people remember the joy of touching grass and ditch some of their internet interests.
Nah, I think it has more to do with their friends dragging them away to play elsewhere.
In Occam I trust.
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@Coin said in MU Peeves Thread:
@Jumpscare said in MU Peeves Thread:
@Coin said in MU Peeves Thread:
Losing players and not knowing why.
This time of year is a common time to lose players. It’s getting warmer outside. Between now and April is when people remember the joy of touching grass and ditch some of their internet interests.
Nah, I think it has more to do with their friends dragging them away to play elsewhere.
A lot of high-hype video games are coming out around this time of year, which also might play into it.
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@Bessarion said in MU Peeves Thread:
@Cobalt I hate it when grunt grunt sweat dudes swing their dicks around.
Speak for yourself, honey.
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@Coin A few new games have come along in the past month or two that are pulling in people. A lotta people who were just kinda “still logging in” to old stomping grounds may be enjoying the new variety.
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@Coin said in MU Peeves Thread:
Losing players and not knowing why. Like, it’d be nice to just know if it’s personal, if the game isn’t jiving, if if if if if…
Also, the MU player trauma that makes them not talk to staff. Holy shit. It is really hard to convince people you want to help them out and aren’t annoyed or mad that they misunderstood or misinterpreted a scene set or something like that. Players will 100% delete a 500-word pose to write a “standing in the background” pose just to not incur some imaginary wrath.
Some people have been treated like shit and it shows, fuck.
I feel like I may in fact be one of those people, at times.
I can also point to a handful of experiences in the past that trained me this way but again I think it all just goes back to “If I don’t know you I don’t really want to fuck with you.”
I woke up feeling so good, I think I’d better call in sick/ I need a personal trainer to help me hold my drink
I plan to be spontaneous next time we meet/I’m putting off procrastinating until next week
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It’s annoying when I’ve just quit my longest standing MU and want to join and be involved with others, but the investment is difficult to build up and my mental state derails me half the time. There are so many new and awesome games out right now, that I want to support, while I’m simultaneously trying to work on my own and torn as to where to focus my attention, so I end up getting way less done than I’d like. Just kind of feeling like a flake rn.
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@Artemis said in MU Peeves Thread:
Just kind of feeling like a flake rn.
My pal, that’s all of us most of the time. You’re absolutely not alone, and anyone who chides you for it is both an imbecile and a hypocrit.
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@Pavel I appreciate you.
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