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RL Peeves
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I AM SO TIRED OF TRYING TO BE IN 2 PLACES AT ONCE
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This isn’t a true peeve since I think it’s really funny.
A friend of mine from my early vampire WoD mush days pinged me to tell me she heard a diaper subscription service ad for a company called Coterie and momentarily had to think for a moment as to whether that was the adult kind or the kid kind. So very old. -
Dunno what I did wrong, but the spaghetti sauce is sour. Maybe it’s from not using sausage grease as the base.
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@GF A good spaghetti sauce doesn’t /need/ sausage, but when my dishes go wrong the first culprits I usually shakedown are salt and fat, whether too much or not enough. These form the basis for a lot of how flavors are brought out in food. If it isn’t those, I start eyeballing how hot and for how long I’ve cooked it.
I would recommend separating a small portion into a cup and blending in a little baking soda to see if it can neutralize some of the sourness, if that doesn’t work, sometimes just a touch of sweetness can do the same thing if the sodium content is already where it needs to be.
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@BurnNotice Yeah. I made it the same way I always do except I used olive oil to saute the onions instead of sausage fat, because I’m just not in the mood for such a heavy, greasy meat; and I didn’t add carrots because I’m out.
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Adulthood sucks.
I should clarify: My job is fine, I love my supervisor and my team, (of course, this is real life, so upper management is predictably lame) but I’m bored, inflation is gobbling up my salary, and with mandates to be in the office more, my free time is evaporating out from under me.
I miss college, frontloading all of my classes into a single (very long) day of the week, and then having six days to poke at homework but mostly RP and playing MMOs to an unhealthy degree. This isn’t even rose-colored glasses, that was a fucking blast.
I guess I don’t see what the “logical next step” is in life anymore given the housing market has just rocketed out of the fucking solar system, and that feeling of being unmoored from life’s checkpoint system outside of a nebulous ‘retire some day and try not to die until you can enjoy it’ is very fucking dull. It just makes me resent every day I go into work, as it feels like a time-thief.
I just want to hang out with a few buddies and camp a Fungi Tunic, damn it. I need that regen for my alts.
Tch.
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@GF i had this last night and it was delicious: https://www.chicagotribune.com/dining/chi-the-april-15-sandwich-hopleafs-cb-j-20110414-story.html
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@Meg I’d never eat that but I’m also insanely curious where the hell I’d even get fig jam.
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As a service worker, my peeve today is bitchy customers who usually tip well withholding tips from the person doing the job because they’re mad about something that wasn’t that person’s fault.
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@Floof Honestly, I think tipping in general is bullshit. I’d happily pay an extra 20% on my bill if it meant servers get a guaranteed wage not dependent on the whims of each individual customer.
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Someone burned down a playground outside the local library. I tutor there on Fridays for a former co-worker’s daughter. Hearing their 4 year old ask, “Why is the playground burnded?” Was really sad.
No one has any idea how it happened. Half the community is sure it was the unhoused that live in the park (library = bathrooms and water) and the other half think it was some unparented hooligan teenager. (please not my sarcasm here as I roll my eyes at the prejudice that goes into both those guesses…)
Regardless, it is sad and definitely didn’t bring out community closer.
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@junipersky said in RL Peeves:
Someone burned down a playground outside the local library. I tutor there on Fridays for a former co-worker’s daughter. Hearing their 4 year old ask, “Why is the playground burnded?” Was really sad.
No one has any idea how it happened. Half the community is sure it was the unhoused that live in the park (library = bathrooms and water) and the other half think it was some unparented hooligan teenager. (please not my sarcasm here as I roll my eyes at the prejudice that goes into both those guesses…)
Regardless, it is sad and definitely didn’t bring out community closer.
Oh no, that’s really terrible
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My house is slowly going to turn into House Covid. Eldest (adult kiddo) tested positive yesterday with symptoms, Eldest’s visiting partner tested positive this morning. Luckily we can kind of set them up to isolate (and they’ve not had extensive on top of everyone else contact with other folks in the household because they’ve been running around outdoors), but I’m girding myself for slow roll throughout the other 5 people also living here. I’m reasonably confident I might escape it again because my 2nd booster is so recent.
Which means also I am not going anywhere really for at least the next 5+ days and am going to be bored out of my mind but also slow now that FINALLY I have kicked the Not Covid illness that has had me running very much on empty for 6 weeks. Which means if we play together or we chat, well…I might be bugging you or chattering at you more than usual, feel free to tell me to go away, lol.
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My husband got all his Avalanche Stanley Cup Winner gear but my shirt is on backorder and I feel that is just sexist.
(I’m kidding.)
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@mietze I feel this. My boys all tested positive in May. They went down like dominos one right after the other. My mom who came to watch my youngest for 20 minutes on day 0 also tested positive. I was the only one who didn’t test positive. We were very lucky everyone had a mild case with my youngest having it the worst since he was the only one not vaccinated. I took the approach that once it was here we all had it and tried to keep things as calm and peaceful as possible. The house also smelled of Vicks, lavender and eucalyptus for what seemed like ever
Wishing everyone a speedy recovery 
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I’ve had Covid twice.
The first time was when we weren’t sure it had hit the country yet (it had) and I worked delivery. The whole hub got it but we didn’t know what it was. Had a fever so high I was hallucinating for 3 days straight before it broke.
Second time was in January of this year, just in time so that I couldn’t go to the Las Vegas Open for WH40K that I’d spent literally thousands of dollars on.
Not happy.
That time I’d had my shots so it was like, some mild coughing. Not bad at all…
But I missed biggest pro WH40K event near me
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This is a wedding planning peeve. Realistically, I know a lot of this is on me and my unwillingness to see past previous transgressions, especially when it involves my family, specifically my mother(because I’m an unapologetic mamma’s boy, fite me).
So first there was the issue of one of my aunt and uncle. I’m not what I’d call fans of them. I don’t hate them, I don’t really have an issue with them. I’m just not really close to them. There’s also underlying resentment due to…family opinions. Some of it is political in nature, some isn’t Regardless, I haven’t always been a fan of them due to how they’ve treated their sister(being my mother). And yet she still tells me to invite them. At first I said no, but when she mentioned that it’d mean a lot to my grandmother(who’s in her 90s)and really, isn’t a person who requests anything. Because she specifically requested this, I kind of can’t say to it. Fine, they’ll get invites, but I’m going to complain the entire time.
What caused me to have a ten minute rant on the phone two days ago was the fact that mom was trying to make the case for my step-dad’s eldest daughter. Now, for some context, I hate this woman. This is deep-seeded resentment that goes back about 20 years. She is selfish, left her kid’s dad and her kids for a different dude(and proceeded to this a number of other times through the years). Has consistently asked both my mom and step-dad for money. Changed her career three different times in order to go back to school each time. Constantly was extremely disrespectful towards my mother, while at the same staying out of my eyesight because of the time I dressed her down in front of the family for almost killing one of my brother’s kids by having her dogs around, and my brother’s kid being highly allergic to dogs(this resulted in an ER visit).
This has gone on for 20 years, and two days ago, my fiance says I need to call my mother because she hoping I would invite this person. I admit, I was not the finest in that conversation, which my statement was more or less “Why the fuck would I invite a woman who has treated you like shit for years to my wedding?”
And my mother, damnit, she’s too kind, too forgiving, too generous, she says “Well, she’s been a lot better lately. She’s been a lot more helpful and respectful lately.” My response was “Okay, so what’s her angle. What does she want this time.”
I realize the hypocrisy here. That I’ve worked hard to make myself a better person, but my own bias doesn’t allow me to see that possibility in other people. I know that, and I know my resentment and anger is clouding my judgement on this. My mother pointed out that, “You invited your step-dad’s other two daughters. It’s going to be a thing if you don’t invite her as well.” I asked a single question, “Has she apologized to you? For the way she’s treated you? Has she apologized to her dad?”
I know I’m being overprotective of my mom. I know. And I know she’s her own adult and she doesn’t need me to protect her. I also know that I don’t always think clearly when it comes to certain people in my life. I’m still chewing it over, but I feel like I’m going to have to swallow my own pride on this one and give this utter tire fire of a human being an invite.
And tell our day-of coordinator that I don’t want her near me. It’s sometimes really dumb the things you do to keep the peace within your own extended family.
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My RL and MU* peeve right now is feeling a loss of any capacity to trust anyone at all.
BMD seems like a very chill, welcoming space. I have no reason at all to feel uncomfortable here. Absolutely no one has been unkind, entirely the opposite. I would like to like it here.
But currently, I still feel like I can’t talk. And again, I acknowledge that no one at all is making me feel this way except me. I find myself second guessing before every post, typing things up and then deleting unsent, etc. I’ve been doing it on MSB these past few weeks and I’m still doing it here, out of a gut level concern that maybe this community isn’t better, maybe the same patterns will play out all over again that I keep seeing over and over in these spaces and IRL in general. People seem safe and then they’re not, anything I say can and will be used against me, and then things I really, deeply care about will be threatened because of it.
There are things I really wish I could say, express and talk about, but I can’t. Because I won’t be believed, because I’m too unlikely of a person, because the way I talk to people is sometimes unintentionally condescending and it will be easier to assume the worst. Because I fear that people don’t see the things I see exactly as they are, and I’ll look crazy if I spell it out. So I keep my mouth shut and grit my teeth. I used to be so outspoken when I was younger, but now I’m a coward. It has quite frankly never gotten me very far, I instead feel punished for speaking the truth, and there’s a limited amount of punishment a person can take. Sometimes I deserve to not care, to not get involved, to not speak up, to just have fun, and to be selfish, and not be expected to carve up pieces of myself for a collective pot. It’s tiring.
I’m immensely relieved when someone else speaks up and points out the exact thing I’d noticed but didn’t want to say. So now it’s not coming from me, this respectable and reputable person with less skin in the game and less reason to be disbelieved saw it too. I want to say thank you every time, but I usually don’t even do that.
Not a subtweet about any recent specific event. There are surely some recent events it applies to, but it’s an everything post. This is how I’ve felt increasingly for the last few years, and it’s getting worse.
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@Kestrel Girl, I get it. I vacillate between extreme obsequiousness and an absolute inability to give a fuck if anyone doesn’t like being called out. When I’m in the former state, everything feels like a survival calculation–how much will I be punished if I say what I think instead of what will make them feel good about themselves–and in those times, silence doesn’t just feel like the easier option. It feels like the only one that won’t get me attacked, and since some fuckhead definitely will be coming for me today regardless of what I do or say to pacify him, why not minimize the amount of conflict coming for me? I don’t have the strength to run a gauntlet every day.
So you are not alone, and you deserve permission to do what’s safe for you.
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@Kestrel I’m sorry. I hope it gets better. It takes time to get over things. FORTUNATELY, this is hardly urgent, and you can take all the time you need. But still: I hope it is sooner rather than later.
