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    • IoleRaeI
      IoleRae
      last edited by

      Something else to throw into the consideration mix, as someone who absolutely has drawn lines and gone to my own corner, is that in some cases this is the only route available (that a traumatized person can see) to actually retain the relationship long term.

      Sometimes you need a break from a person so that you can calm down, reorient, and then re-engage from a place of compassion and understanding, rather than reaction. Sometimes the only decent thing that’s possible even knowing this is what’s going on is a strangled, ‘please leave me alone’.

      I have had at least two of my ‘do not engage with this person’ requests respected that turned into calming down long term and being able to come back to the table and at least behave in civil fashion.

      It’s a tool. It’s a tool that absolutely gets misused and can often be problematic, but unfortunately, the only way to guarantee that the people who actually NEED it actually get it is to ensure that everyone gets it, because making a traumatized person justify themselves is actively damaging.

      Thus, this is one of those cases where you just have to assume positive intent, and then come down like the hammer of god on anybody who abuses it (baiting somebody who has a no contact request against you, for example).

      the entity previously known as Sunny

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      • SolsticeS
        Solstice @IoleRae
        last edited by

        @IoleRae said in MU Peeves Thread:

        Thus, this is one of those cases where you just have to assume positive intent, and then come down like the hammer of god on anybody who abuses it (baiting somebody who has a no contact request against you, for example).

        bartok kick

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        • tsarT
          tsar
          last edited by

          I can’t decide if this is a peeve or not but there’s someone in r/muds who posts about wanting to be a cannibal on a game to feel part of the game and doesn’t care if it’s the game’s lore or not but can someone point him to a game where it’s allowed???

          Ahhhhhhhhh
          Hhhhhhhh
          Aaahhhh

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          • helveticaH
            helvetica @tsar
            last edited by

            @tsar y’all need to learn how to let a man eat

            Street Cred

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            • BloodAngelB
              BloodAngel @tsar
              last edited by

              @tsar hannibal

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              • crawfishC
                crawfish @helvetica
                last edited by

                @helvetica hey. women eat too, ok?

                I draw things! http://www.mahaldoodles.com

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                • SolsticeS
                  Solstice @crawfish
                  last edited by

                  @crawfish

                  santa clarita

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                  • HerjaH
                    Herja
                    last edited by

                    Yall need Jesus

                    lol lmao

                    It's me, hi, I'm the problem it's me

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                    • NarsonN
                      Narson
                      last edited by

                      https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d4O1A-mmBWw

                      When someone shows you who they are, over and over again? Believe them.

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                      • SolsticeS
                        Solstice @Herja
                        last edited by Solstice

                        @Herja

                        No God

                        “No God.”

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                        • KarmaBumK
                          KarmaBum @tsar
                          last edited by

                          @tsar said in MU Peeves Thread:

                          can someone point him to a game where it’s allowed???

                          I’m working on a thing!

                          But I’m not sure I want this guy to be a part of it.

                          On Dragon Wings · https://pern.gaslightswitch.com · pern.gaslightswitch.com port 4201

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                          • tsarT
                            tsar @KarmaBum
                            last edited by

                            @KarmaBum he just needs to do it to belong

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                            • P
                              Pyrephox Administrators
                              last edited by

                              Nothing makes me feel welcome like when the host offers me a meal…

                              …of their own flesh.

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                              • crawfishC
                                crawfish @Pyrephox
                                last edited by

                                @Pyrephox There is
                                physical pain
                                in me
                                restraining myself

                                FROM ALLLLLL the things I wanna reply with

                                @Herja help

                                I draw things! http://www.mahaldoodles.com

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                                • HerjaH
                                  Herja @crawfish
                                  last edited by

                                  @crawfish I’m not sure anyone in this hobby needs Jesus more than you.

                                  lol lmao

                                  It's me, hi, I'm the problem it's me

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                                    dvoraen @Herja
                                    last edited by

                                    @Herja said in MU Peeves Thread:

                                    @crawfish I’m not sure anyone in this hobby needs Jesus more than you.

                                    this

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                                    • crawfishC
                                      crawfish @Herja
                                      last edited by crawfish

                                      @Herja HOW DARE YOU OUT ME

                                      ETA: Because everyone knows I’m pure and innocent and something something yeah I can’t even finish writing

                                      I draw things! http://www.mahaldoodles.com

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                                      • IoleRaeI
                                        IoleRae
                                        last edited by

                                        lulz

                                        the entity previously known as Sunny

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                                          dvoraen @crawfish
                                          last edited by

                                          @crawfish said in MU Peeves Thread:

                                          @Herja HOW DARE YOU OUT ME

                                          ETA: Because everyone knows I’m pure and innocent and something something yeah I can’t even finish writing

                                          As one Twitch streamer I occasionally watch says in her “who am I” moments (when she gets raided, and such): “Hi! I’m <name>… and I cuss a lot. So if you have small children and want to stay pure in the eyes of the Lord, I wouldn’t. fucking. be here!”

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                                          • JumpscareJ
                                            Jumpscare
                                            last edited by

                                            I don’t really have a problem with cannibalism, as long as it’s done in good taste.

                                            Game-runner of Silent Heaven, a small-town horror MU.
                                            https://silentheaven.org

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