Brand MU Day
    • Categories
    • Recent
    • Tags
    • Popular
    • Users
    • Groups
    • Register
    • Login

    Bannings

    Scheduled Pinned Locked Moved Rough and Rowdy
    1.6k Posts 73 Posters 549.1k Views
    Loading More Posts
    • Oldest to Newest
    • Newest to Oldest
    • Most Votes
    Reply
    • Reply as topic
    Log in to reply
    This topic has been deleted. Only users with topic management privileges can see it.
    • Third EyeT
      Third Eye @IoleRae
      last edited by

      @IoleRae
      Nobody with half a brain cell would believe him, considering the source, but I’m sorry that happened to you it was very gross.

      I want something else to get me through this
      Semi-charmed kinda life, baby, baby
      I want something else, I'm not listening when you say good-bye

      She/Her or They/Them

      1 Reply Last reply Reply Quote 7
      • MegM
        Meg @hobos
        last edited by

        @hobos hey, I am sorry. I believe you were trying to be nice and just phrased things badly. But in the future, including ‘fairly damning’ in your opening message when you are talking to someone who has openly said that said person has lied about her and harassed her is pretty rough.

        If you wanted to lead with what she had told you about Sunny/lolaRae, that may have gone over better. Like, ‘hey, this is what VK told me in regards to you, this is the logs she showed me. Would you be willing to discuss this?’. Or, idk.

        helveticaH 1 Reply Last reply Reply Quote 3
        • saoS
          sao @IoleRae
          last edited by

          @IoleRae thank you for putting that shit on blast. Nasty behavior like that should absolutely be called out publicly.

          I don’t know how twisted up you have to be to think that sleazy intimation like that is “nice”.

          let it be a challenge to you

          1 Reply Last reply Reply Quote 6
          • helveticaH
            helvetica @Meg
            last edited by

            @Meg said in Bannings:

            @hobos hey, I am sorry. I believe you were trying to be nice and just phrased things badly. But in the future, including ‘fairly damning’ in your opening message when you are talking to someone who has openly said that said person has lied about her and harassed her is pretty rough.

            If you wanted to lead with what she had told you about Sunny/lolaRae, that may have gone over better. Like, ‘hey, this is what VK told me in regards to you, this is the logs she showed me. Would you be willing to discuss this?’. Or, idk.

            Hard no. I don’t believe that this was a genuine attempt to gain insight. This was a revictimization and low-key a threat to reveal “damning information” to everyone else.

            Street Cred

            IoleRaeI MegM 2 Replies Last reply Reply Quote 11
            • IoleRaeI
              IoleRae @helvetica
              last edited by IoleRae

              @helvetica said in Bannings:

              @Meg said in Bannings:

              @hobos hey, I am sorry. I believe you were trying to be nice and just phrased things badly. But in the future, including ‘fairly damning’ in your opening message when you are talking to someone who has openly said that said person has lied about her and harassed her is pretty rough.

              If you wanted to lead with what she had told you about Sunny/lolaRae, that may have gone over better. Like, ‘hey, this is what VK told me in regards to you, this is the logs she showed me. Would you be willing to discuss this?’. Or, idk.

              Hard no. I don’t believe that this was a genuine attempt to gain insight. This was a revictimization and low-key a threat to reveal “damning information” to everyone else.

              thank you. A lot. Like, I do not have words for how much I appreciate you saying this. Where everybody can see it.

              the entity previously known as Sunny

              1 Reply Last reply Reply Quote 12
              • MegM
                Meg @helvetica
                last edited by

                @helvetica maybe. Idk. Like, I don’t think the behavior was ok, but I am willing to believe in a good faith basis.

                saoS IoleRaeI 2 Replies Last reply Reply Quote 1
                • saoS
                  sao @Meg
                  last edited by

                  @Meg your kindness speaks well of you, but I think in this case it is misguided. This person has been too disingenuous too many times for me to join you in the benefit of the doubt.

                  However, I applaud your compassionate and generous nature. I wish there were more of you in the world.

                  let it be a challenge to you

                  1 Reply Last reply Reply Quote 5
                  • H
                    hobos
                    last edited by

                    Wow. I was really shaken by that reaction. After a little thought I decided to come back and say one last thing…

                    I was not threatening you, Sunny. I was explaining why I didn’t just ask you in front of everybody in this thread. Everyone keeps saying VK is lying to me, and you yourself said you were dismayed by how many people believed untruths about you, so I was giving the courtesy of a chance to tell your side of the story. I didn’t want to say what I’d heard up front because yes the thought crossed my mind that you might find it traumatizing, which I even mentioned as a reason you might not want to reply? There was a time I really respected, admired, and appreciated you. I’m sorry you felt threatened. That is all.

                    Had no idea you were so upset, or that you had blocked me elsewhere, and I have no intention of continuing this further.

                    TezT helveticaH BloodAngelB IoleRaeI hellfrogH 6 Replies Last reply Reply Quote 1
                    • TezT
                      Tez Administrators @hobos
                      last edited by

                      @hobos Thank you for not continuing this further.

                      she/they

                      1 Reply Last reply Reply Quote 1
                      • helveticaH
                        helvetica @hobos
                        last edited by helvetica

                        @hobos said in Bannings:

                        Wow. I was really shaken by that reaction. After a little thought I decided to come back and say one last thing…

                        I was not threatening you, Sunny. I was explaining why I didn’t just ask you in front of everybody in this thread. Everyone keeps saying VK is lying to me, and you yourself said you were dismayed by how many people believed untruths about you, so I was giving the courtesy of a chance to tell your side of the story. I didn’t want to say what I’d heard up front because yes the thought crossed my mind that you might find it traumatizing, which I even mentioned as a reason you might not want to reply? There was a time I really respected, admired, and appreciated you. I’m sorry you felt threatened. That is all.

                        Had no idea you were so upset, or that you had blocked me elsewhere, and I have no intention of continuing this further.

                        buh bye

                        THEN STOP CONTINUING IT FURTHER

                        Street Cred

                        1 Reply Last reply Reply Quote 6
                        • IoleRaeI
                          IoleRae @Meg
                          last edited by

                          @Meg

                          I think if he’d led with logs I’d have felt more threatened because such things would have to have been faked. I have him blocked on multiple platforms, but had not yet blocked him here.

                          the entity previously known as Sunny

                          MegM 1 Reply Last reply Reply Quote 8
                          • BloodAngelB
                            BloodAngel @hobos
                            last edited by

                            @hobos last word

                            1 Reply Last reply Reply Quote 0
                            • MegM
                              Meg @IoleRae
                              last edited by Meg

                              @IoleRae that’s fair. I am just trying to see it from his side of like, how to approach a delicate situation like this. Of trying to get the other side of the story when you have been publicly on one side of it.

                              It would be rough, and there wouldn’t be a lot of ‘good’ ways to do it. I guess in the end, there wouldn’t be a way to get the other side? But I know a lot of us are here because we like hearing all sides of a story, openly.

                              ETA: just saw the call for frog choke memes. Consider this dropped by me too.

                              Frog choke

                              helveticaH EvilgraysonE 2 Replies Last reply Reply Quote 3
                              • TezT
                                Tez Administrators
                                last edited by

                                If @IoleRae has anything to say here, by all means, you have every right – but otherwise, I’d ask THE REST OF US to return to frog choke memes.

                                she/they

                                1 Reply Last reply Reply Quote 4
                                • IoleRaeI
                                  IoleRae @hobos
                                  last edited by IoleRae

                                  @hobos said in Bannings:

                                  Wow. I was really shaken by that reaction. After a little thought I decided to come back and say one last thing…

                                  I was not threatening you, Sunny. I was explaining why I didn’t just ask you in front of everybody in this thread. Everyone keeps saying VK is lying to me, and you yourself said you were dismayed by how many people believed untruths about you, so I was giving the courtesy of a chance to tell your side of the story. I didn’t want to say what I’d heard up front because yes the thought crossed my mind that you might find it traumatizing, which I even mentioned as a reason you might not want to reply? There was a time I really respected, admired, and appreciated you. I’m sorry you felt threatened. That is all.

                                  Had no idea you were so upset, or that you had blocked me elsewhere, and I have no intention of continuing this further.

                                  But I did tell my side of the story before you ever PMd me. SHE LIED. NONE OF IT WAS TRUE. what on earth could I possibly have said besides “what she told you is untrue”. Hearing whatever nastiness she said about me is productive how? Especially given I was very recently talking about how all of that was traumatic?

                                  What benefit do you think there is to me to hearing somebody’s lies about me, and what on earth did you expect me to say? You believe her. It’s a lie. There isn’t a “side” to tell because the things she’s telling you didn’t happen at all.

                                  I don’t believe you that you don’t know I have you blocked.

                                  @Meg

                                  I get it, but there isn’t like a side. I didn’t DO anything.

                                  the entity previously known as Sunny

                                  1 Reply Last reply Reply Quote 12
                                  • HerjaH
                                    Herja
                                    last edited by Herja

                                    “I am so surprised by the strong reactions that I deliberately came here to stir up!”

                                    This is why I think this guy is disingenuous AT BEST and an outright manipulator most likely.

                                    lol lmao

                                    It's me, hi, I'm the problem it's me

                                    1 Reply Last reply Reply Quote 12
                                    • helveticaH
                                      helvetica @Meg
                                      last edited by

                                      @Meg said in Bannings:

                                      @IoleRae that’s fair. I am just trying to see it from his side of like, how to approach a delicate situation like this. Of trying to get the other side of the story when you have been publicly on one side of it.

                                      It would be rough, and there wouldn’t be a lot of ‘good’ ways to do it. I guess in the end, there wouldn’t be a way to get the other side? But I know a lot of us are here because we like hearing all sides of a story, openly.

                                      ETA: just saw the call for frog choke routines. Consider this dropped by me too.

                                      Frog choke

                                      only upvoting this for the choking

                                      Street Cred

                                      TezT 1 Reply Last reply Reply Quote 6
                                      • hellfrogH
                                        hellfrog @hobos
                                        last edited by

                                        Yeah, I’m definitely here for some frog choking right now.

                                        fr fr
                                        (she/her)

                                        1 Reply Last reply Reply Quote 8
                                        • TezT
                                          Tez Administrators @helvetica
                                          last edited by

                                          @helvetica said in Bannings:

                                          @Meg said in Bannings:

                                          Frog choke

                                          only upvoting this for the choking

                                          same tbh. the fucking SPECIFICITY of that gif.

                                          she/they

                                          hellfrogH 1 Reply Last reply Reply Quote 6
                                          • hellfrogH
                                            hellfrog @Tez
                                            last edited by

                                            @Tez I’m confused but I love it.

                                            fr fr
                                            (she/her)

                                            MegM 1 Reply Last reply Reply Quote 2
                                            • First post
                                              Last post