Real Life Struggles/Support/Vent
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Fidget Spinners.
My husband got really into his when they became a fad until his boss told him to knock it off.
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I got one of these from work as I need to shuffle around in my seat during meetings. It is like a bunch of macaroni tubed up. You can pop it apart and click it together, doesn’t make much noise, but mostly you can roll it around.
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This is my favorite fidgit as a teacher!! They can be hard for little fingers to pop apart, and since that is really the only sound they make it doesn’t bother mw.
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@junipersky Yeah and having broken enough pen lids bending it during a meeting…
It has been a DELIGHT to use. Sadly this one has lost it’s “crunch” when you twist it since I twist it a lot.
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The pregnant mama we were going to take in today has gone missing. We were under the impression the woman surrendering her had her in a safe place.
She did not. The poor cat was just wandering about. She put out traps last night but mama never appeared.
She lives a few hours away and has told us not to bother coming to help her search.
I’m really afraid mama had the babies. If we trap her now there is the chance we won’t find the babies and they will starve to death.
I’m so worried about this poor cat I have never met.
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Why is it so difficult for my college kids to like–stop putting empty boxes/containers back into the fridge/freezer/pantry. I don’t remember doing this as a teen, but maybe I did and just forgot about it. I worry that when they are all graduated and out on their own totally that I will get a call in the middle of the night as they lay starving on the floor because they didn’t buy food because in their pantry/freezer/fridge it looked like it was beautifully stocked but alas, everything is empty.
I decided to eat the last fudgesicle and put the empty box back though. Just to see how long it takes for anyone to comment, but I think my money is on the husband or the eight year old.
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@mietze said in Real Life Struggles/Support/Vent:
I decided to eat the last fudgesicle and put the empty box back though.
I can’t tell how devastated I am just IMAGINING this. Brutal. Just brutal.
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@Tez Now I need to decide if the husband/Eight is going to say something to me first OR if one night in the next week I’ll be woken up at 2 AM by the big kids arguing about who it was that ate the last fudgesicle.
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So people are shitty. Shelter director just got done telling me about how the state inspectors came to the shelter this last week to inspect after an anonymous report was posted. It accused us of never cleaning, having FIV+ kittes in gen pop, cats with black stuff pouring out their ears. – basically like we were cat hording situation.
None of it was even remotely true. The inspector was impressed. The only thing she mentioned was to make sure all the fosters resign the forms for the current calendar year.
The nerve of that person. We are fairly sure it is someone who got denied a cat and were taking revenge.
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@junipersky said in Real Life Struggles/Support/Vent:
The nerve of that person. We are fairly sure it is someone who got denied a cat and were taking revenge.
Thus proving how right you were to do so, so at least someone that petty and shitty didn’t get one of your animals.
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Round two of adult kid testing positive, yay back to setting up containment zones.
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@mietze it feels so weird upvoting that but you know I mean oh noooo
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@sao Kind of makes one wish for perhaps not a ‘downvote’ button, but maybe a ‘oh no’ or ‘that sucks’ button.
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So, my dog has been living with my parents the last couple years because when I moved back to the area during covid, I moved in with a friend in their apartment that doesn’t allow dogs (and a 90lb husky is kind of hard to hide). We were supposed to be moving somewhere that would allow dogs. That was two years ago.
My dad regularly sends me texts to guilt me about my dog, who I already hate not having for this long, and the last time was a couple days ago, where he tells me that my dog is making him depressed, adding that I should rehome him since I already haven’t had him for several years. That thought kills me, but I CAN see his point. He can’t see my regular panic attacks about this, and he probably wouldn’t believe me if I told him about them.
I don’t know what to do. Housing is obviously out of control and my friend is too stressed out by work to move, so it’d just be me. Even if I could find an apartment that allowed a giant husky (they’re a restricted breed most places), a 1 bedroom is like $1k a month and you have to make 3x that to get approved, which I do not. I COULD but it would be a fast track to burnout and dark thoughts. I’d also have to buy a more reliable car in the near future.
What’s more frustrating is that if I could afford a house (with the right zoning), I could just open up shop there (I’m a reluctant dog groomer) and probably be fine. But I can’t afford that, either.
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Growing up in the 80s/90s with ADHD was hell.
https://unrollthread.com/t/1534592771792572418/
edit: i doubt it’s much better now
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Depends on the area. I have a child who is clearly adhd, but unofficially diagnosed because there is a 9+ month waiting list for pediatric neuropsych evaluations appointment setting (which means waiting 1-4 months after that for the appointment) in my area unless its an emergency. He is impacted enough though that he is getting services via the public schools (and this should show how impactful to himself and classroom environment it is since the bar for that also is extremely high also in our area due to shortages).
However I would say there is a high degree of awareness than there was went i was growing up in the 70s/80s !and when I first started working with children in the 90s. Its not enough of course but its night and day. I knew to seek private OT for my kid and while that had a 6 month waiting list we were able to get him in. Theres a lot of parent and teacher support even in ECE that there simply was not when I was working on my bachelors in family and child development and entering the ECE field 30 years ago. I volunteered 25+ hours a week in my older kiddos school program that has a lot of neurodivergent kids in it and while I did see more awareness there it still wasn’t on the level I see now with my youngest who is in a neighborhood school.
However, I mean–my district and area isn’t the best but its not the absolute crappiest and I personally feel the awareness is aided by the change in demographics which include a lot of now-parents who had to cope/grow up with no understanding as kids with adhd or on the spectrum or whatever but were able to push through but want something way better for tgeir kids.
I don’t know that it makes anything “easier” per se, but at least as a parent i see lots more people looking with a lot more empathy and awareness.
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That’s actually very heartening to hear. We have our first kid on the way and with being ADHD/somewhere on the spectrum I know it’s a high chance they’ll be saddled with something too.
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My elder brother’s main aide has covid. Mom told youngest sister (who lives with her) but told her not to tell the rest of us. Obviously youngest sister ignored that (FOR GOOD FUCKING REASON WE ARE IN THIS TOGETHER MOTHER) and we know now.
Brother doesn’t seem to think this is a problem and I have a tiny terrible thought that he WANTS to get Covid. He has such diminished lung capacity that he is likely he works die from it.
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@junipersky said in Real Life Struggles/Support/Vent:
told her not to tell the rest of us. Obviously youngest sister ignored that (FOR GOOD FUCKING REASON WE ARE IN THIS TOGETHER MOTHER) and we know now.
This is such a hard place to be as a sibling, I feel you. I don’t know exactly why a lot of parents do this aside from some misplaced desire to protect their children maybe, and wouldn’t hazard to speak for your mom, but with ours it certainly has felt more than a little bit infantalizing especially as we all move into our late twenties and thirties.
Really hope the aide can recover without spreading it and things work out.
