MU Peeves Thread

Roz

I’m ngl, I find the game of Cock Chicken that goes on in TS with a new person to be kind of endearingly delightful? That is: people just figuring out together where their scene partner’s comfort is, AKA “do I need to use euphemisms or can I just call a cock a cock.”

I actually have TSed with folks I don’t know plenty. In a lot of those instances, the other person has gone OOC when the direction of the scene became clear (but before real hot and heavy stuff had started) to check in about any issues with particular language or terms. I’m not bothered by that at all, although I don’t usually initiate it myself.

I AM bothered if it’s asked more like… “Hey, stranger, what are you into so I can tailor things to what you’re into.” That’s when it gets a bit weird.

crawfish

@Roz There is always one c-word I get clearance for because not everyone likes it.

Tez

@crawfish cuddle

farfalla

@crawfish this is really the question I always want to know hahaha

mietze

I actually never even thought about asking about word choices though. It did not even occur to me that it might be triggering, it was just more of an internal fretting that I might stumble across in a bad sex poses post or something (but I think that would also kind of like that if nobody knew it was me).

And I did have one scene with a friend where we tried to have the worst written pull out all the horribad euphemisms and mechanics and try to one up each other TS and we were both laughing so hard we were crying and it was very fun.

farfalla

@Tez wow tez, keep it sfw

Tez

@farfalla said in MU Peeves Thread:

@Tez wow tez, keep it sfw

I’m a bad, bad tez.

shit-piss-love

Duke Whisky

All this is doing is reminding me of some of the my first ever poses now with a limited MUD system to pose.

you thrust at Saywan’s groin

KarmaBum

@Roz What’s YOUR preference on this? Does it make it better for you if they OOC and draw the lines? Or do you miss out on the fun game of Can I Use Both C-Words Or Just One of Them?

(I was going to call you a big old skanky “tinyslut” but Siri auto-corrected it to “tiny slug” and it made me LOL so much that I wanted to leave it in the post but then it made zero sense. So I just put it here instead.)

Testament

@Tez

lewd

Roz

@KarmaBum said in MU Peeves Thread:

@Roz What’s YOUR preference on this? Does it make it better for you if they OOC and draw the lines? Or do you miss out on the fun game of Can I Use Both C-Words Or Just One of Them?

Oh, I mean, I find the game of chicken to be funny in that it’s generally two people just trying to be considerate to each other and then finally realizing it’s fine to use explicit language, but I don’t mind either way. I guess when all is said and done I have a minor preference for just letting things progress IC without going OOC? But this is the very important point: I don’t have triggers here. I might have squicks or whatnot, but they are not things most people are gonna just trip over. So it makes sense that I’m not worried about others checking in with me in that way, BUT I absolutely don’t mind when they do! Because to me it’s just an indicator or someone wanting to be considerate about boundaries, which is a good way to be.

(I was going to call you a big old skanky “tinyslut” but Siri auto-corrected it to “tiny slug” and it made me LOL so much that I wanted to leave it in the post but then it made zero sense. So I just put it here instead.)

I will claim both monikers PROUDLY

Wizz

As someone who prefers to have the option of open and honest OOC communication if needed during intimate scenes instead of before or after, I gotta say I that while I frankly can’t really grok the opposite position, I appreciate everyone who has taken the time here to say that it breaks immersion in an unacceptably uncomfortable way and I will definitely take that into consideration if and when I dip my toes back into the hobby.

I am sure most people who feel this way do make this clear already with the people they choose to TS with, but that discomfort is something I have to admit I didn’t have an awareness of and I’d definitely want to know upfront.

tsar

Confession: I will never stop sending @KarmaBum pictures of carnival fun houses mid-scene.

sao

I have definitely played TS word chicken with RPers I knew pretty well. Just because I’ve known someone for years doesn’t mean I know their TS prefs! It doesn’t always come up!

KarmaBum

@tsar next time i would prefer if you would ask me if it is ok to use the word carnival tyvm

Omen

@Wizz said in MU Peeves Thread:

As someone who prefers to have the option of open and honest OOC communication if needed during intimate scenes instead of before or after, I gotta say I that while I frankly can’t really grok the opposite position, I appreciate everyone who has taken the time here to say that it breaks immersion in an unacceptably uncomfortable way and I will definitely take that into consideration if and when I dip my toes back into the hobby.

I am sure most people who feel this way do make this clear already with the people they choose to TS with, but that discomfort is something I have to admit I didn’t have an awareness of and I’d definitely want to know upfront.

I feel this. I know that I have initiated some of these OOC conversations, and realize reading these examples of boundaries that I may have inadvertently been one of the people who bordered on making a mistake. It’s hard not to feel a bit self-conscious thinking back on it now. I appreciate this conversation a lot so that I can be more aware of it in the future!

Nynrose

@L-B-Heuschkel Unfortunately my memory of LegendMUD is very hazy around all of that - and I played around those times as Lark/Lirra! But wow.

farfalla

@Omen I have never had a problem with people checking in OOC! I don’t, and I don’t need it because I don’t have anything I want to avoid, but I appreciate it as a ‘this person is being kind and considerate’ gesture. If this is what makes you comfortable you should keep doing it! Then, if the other person doesn’t like it, you can stop and acknowledge that your play styles don’t match up for that type of scene, nbd.

KarmaBum

@Wizz It’s really worth noting: if you and I are about to pretend-plow, you probably already know me well enough to know that I’m not going to RP the deets with you.

Which is I guess my prevailing point. These conversations need to happen beforehand.

And, really, it’s true for any emotionally intense scene. Playing those emotions credibly involves a measure of vulnerability for me. I’m not going to be willing to love/hate/murder/fuck/backstab/bromance your PC if I don’t kinda already trust you OOC enough not to take it somewhere I don’t want to go.