Asking for RP

Roz

@farfalla said in Asking for RP:

My characters suddenly have somewhere to be all the time. Oops, gotta get back to work bye!

Collectively - does this actually work? It’s a convenient IC excuse to get out of a scene, but in my experience people still get bent out of shape if you stop RPing with them and go RP with someone else instead. Like: “Oh so I’m not good enough to hold your attention?” (never so directly of course)

I don’t think that “this works without upsetting or offending anyone” is really a bar we can hold to on MU*s. As you said, there are always people who will get bent out of shape at the idea that someone doesn’t want to RP with them. I unfortunately don’t think that’s avoidable. If I exit a scene because I’m not having fun and someone wants to get offended at it – that’s not a me problem. And it doesn’t mean that exiting a scene when you’re not having fun is bad.

Sometimes, if people get bent out of shape, the answer is to just let them and walk away.

Livia

@Roz Sometimes its not even ‘not having fun’ but just ‘less fun’ because a scene has reached a very natural stopping point, but some need/expectation to ‘keep on RPing because I’ll still be around’ just causes people to linger.

I’m generally a fan of just letting a scene come to an end rather than force it to continue for the sake of more playing – even if afterwards I’m sometimes like, hmm, I want to keep playing, maybe I shouldn’t have left!

Testament

I notice this far less when there’s usually an unspoken agreement between the players that the point of the scene has come to a close.

I understand that doesn’t always happen, but a good deal of players seem to be cognizant of it.

Third Eye

Yeah, I have been in many very fun and diverting 1.5 hour or even 1 hour scenes that became kinda tedious 3 hour scenes. I do just leave when I’m done now, though I def feel self-conscious about searching for other RP right away. It’s no shade to anyone, pick-up RP just runs its course eventually.

farfalla

@Faraday It works in the sense that I’m no longer in the scene, which is my goal. As @Roz said, if someone gets mad about that it’s not really my problem. But no one has ever expressed any negativity to me about it. Maybe they’re all checking @Roz 's poll to see how to avoid me forever, idk!

shit-piss-love

I just do the same thing I do in real life and say I have somewhere to be. Sometimes that’s even true!

Roz

Man I just pose out and go “Thanks for the RP!”

Faraday

@Roz said in Asking for RP:

I don’t think that “this works without upsetting or offending anyone” is really a bar we can hold to on MU*s. As you said, there are always people who will get bent out of shape at the idea that someone doesn’t want to RP with them. I unfortunately don’t think that’s avoidable.

Well there’s a difference between “this behavior may annoy someone” and “this behavior is likely to annoy almost everyone”. The latter has been more my experience but YMMV.

Pavel

@Faraday said in Asking for RP:

@Pavel said in Asking for RP:

I’ve just started playing somewhat energetic characters who announce when they’re bored and leave to do other things. Lifesaver.

@farfalla said in Asking for RP:

My characters suddenly have somewhere to be all the time. Oops, gotta get back to work bye!

Collectively - does this actually work? It’s a convenient IC excuse to get out of a scene, but in my experience people still get bent out of shape if you stop RPing with them and go RP with someone else instead. Like: “Oh so I’m not good enough to hold your attention?” (never so directly of course)

Eeeeh… I’m picky enough with my RP partners lately that I feel comfortable enough communicating with them OOC about it. So mine is probably not the best example to use. And due to that pickiness I don’t get as much RP as I might like.

But I have my boundaries, and I’m starting to stick to them.

Pan

It’s impossible to play on a Mu* anymore for me. Asking for RP and finding RP is such a chore and then when it’s found it’s usually some weird slice-of-life stuff that people want to play, which in a lot of cases isn’t what I’m looking for.

So it’s a constant circle of building PCs, getting amped, trying to find something to do, and failing and just realizing hours/days/weeks/months/whatever of my life has been wasted.