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MU Peeves Thread
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@Testament said in MU Peeves Thread:
Why can’t I relax and be creative instead of being stressed and creative?
Interestingly some research (Byron et al., 2010) has found that a certain level of a certain kind of stress can increase creativity - especially when the evaluatory nature of the stress is not linked to the creative exploit itself. Wedding stress being evaluated on the benefits of the wedding, rather than the output of your GMing.
Now, however, I would say that you’re changing the orientation of the evaluator onto your GMing output, thereby maintaining the stress but decreasing creative output (Ghafoor & Haar, 2021).
ETA: All this to say, it’s not your fault and anyone who says otherwise needs to STFU, including yourself.
References:
Byron, K., Khazanchi, S., & Nazarian, D. (2010). The relationship between stressors and creativity: A meta-analysis examining competing theoretical models. Journal of Applied Psychology, 95(1), 201–212. https://doi.org/10.1037/a0017868Ghafoor, A., & Haar, J. (2021). Does job stress enhance employee creativity? Exploring the role of psychological capital. Personnel Review, (Ahead of Print). https://doi.org/10.1108/pr-08-2019-0443
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Yo, your game is fine, it’ll be there when you’re in the proper headspace.
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Just expressing a sigh of frustration at dancing around publicly asking for RP on a game when there are one or two people I just cannot fucking stand (not going to be spilling any tea here, sorry, my beefs are my own business) who seem to be omnipresent when I do so, and worse, tied up with a number of people I want to play with.
After a while it just gets fatiguing and this feels like was somewhat easier in the days of big games and lots of them (I fully welcome all accusations of rose-tinted glasses though har har).
Ok, back to Fat Bear Week.
I woke up feeling so good, I think I’d better call in sick/ I need a personal trainer to help me hold my drink
I plan to be spontaneous next time we meet/I’m putting off procrastinating until next week
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@SpaceKhomeini Having to avoid somebody is a pain in the backside, particularly when they are a super charming, very popular player with great people skills – and an asshole but people never see that until it’s too late.
At which point you start to realise that your circle comprises a lot of other people they’ve been an asshole to.
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I wish we could let go of this expectation of ‘constant content’ in the community. I think this is why a lot of very creative, talented people either try staffing and burn out or refuse to even dip a toe in because it becomes something of a grind to feel like you always must be doing ‘something’ creatively. Most creatives just don’t work that way, especially those of us that are neurodivergent. The well needs time to refill sometimes.
I love creating stories. I happily give up time doing other hobby activities to do so because I love this hobby so much, but, man, is it discouraging that any lull in activity is seen as a problem versus just a natural part of the ebb and flow of creative activity. Sometimes, I am going to GM four scenes in a week. Sometimes, I am going to take a couple of weeks to do other activities, either game related or not, to let my idea well refill. I just wish we could normalize that a little more.
This isn’t really spurred on by any specific thing that happened so much as thoughts after reading some articles regarding Twitch streaming and burnout and thinking about how often burn out happens in the MUSH community, too. I also acknowledge that I am probably preaching to the choir here.
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@Herja If I ran a MU or ever took on a staff role I’d mandate a policy of 4 months for staff roleplay runners. Do some stuff, have fun, have an end in sight. Have a break of a few months and do it again.
I hate planning scenes in advance because guaranteed I won’t feel like running anything on the night.
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@oknow I think that encouraging staff take breaks when needed and not making them feel like that is a problem or need any ‘excuse’ for it is a good thing, but I think there is also a component that requires setting player expectations that a MU is not a 24/7 entertainment service, especially when you pay nothing but the internet bill to access it. I definitely don’t think that making MUs a paid service is the answer because I don’t think adding capitalism to anything actually improves it.
lol lmao
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Planning a scene in advance is one of those things that’s like a necessary evil. As soon as scheduling gets involved my ADHD also gets involved and that’s the best way to turn something fun into a chore, but also you can’t just always do stuff on the spur of the moment, especially when there’s a lot of players across all timezones.
But also, it is VERY true that GMs as constant story generation is a truly exhausting proposition that no GMs can or should have to do. I know patience is hard but like. There’s no RP emergency. Ever. And the GM is every bit as human as the player and their boundaries should be respected. I wish I knew how to like, reduce the seeming priority of every RP thing under the sun.
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@Herja I think it’s taken almost as a sign of disinterest from the game-runners which isn’t at all how it should be. Sometimes, I just need a break. Sometimes I don’t have any ideas. Sometimes I just want to play my own game for awhile! It doesn’t mean that I want to shut the whole thing down and be done with it.
I don’t know what the solution is, just that it makes it really hard to run a game if I know that once I need a break, people are just going to fade away and not log in anymore.
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@bear_necessities Yes, this exactly. I am always thinking about my game and working through story arcs in my head but I don’t always have the energy or the desire to GM. Sometimes, I’m just busy or need to do something else but I’m still interested! It just sucks when the need for a break, and I’m talking on a regular basis not just after I’m become so burned out that I HAVE to take a break, is taken like a game is ‘dying’ or that things are ‘slow’ like that is a bad thing and a negative indicator of the game’s health.
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Every time I see that sort of entitlement it makes me cringe.
I won’t thought police other people, because I think we have all been there in one form another (why is this taking so long, ect). But there are thoughts that you think or maybe vent to someone you know is okay with hearing them while also reassuring them that you know damn well you’re just needing to be a baby for a bit–but should NEVER EVER leave your lips in public, around people you don’t know, or where you are not 1000 percent sure they aren’t coming at a vulnerable time. And also, people should NEVER freaking pass on those vents EVER. It won’t bring the passer onner brownie points and like-you-better-now, it will just demoralize. When I staffed honestly it was hardest to deal with the hey guess what X said about you! omg, that’s so horrible people than with the straight up asshattery, at least for me.
I do think this sort of thing is a huge factor why in the era of games being EVEN EASIER AND MORE ACCESSIBLE to set up and run than ever before, it feels like there’s a lack. Nobody wants those kind of expectations put on them. I do worry because it often seems like a period of a lot of activity is rewarded not with expressions of how much fun that it was, or how rewarding that was, but with anger when there needs to be a refractory/recuperation period. That’s been a thing for awhile (I can think of one game that one could argue got sunk earlier than it should have been because some idiots decided to start rumors that staff was going to close the game so why bother doing anything since they weren’t doing anything–when all staff had done was post that there was going to be a break in activity for a specified period of time. People got crazy flailmageddon publicly and privately, and instead of getting the brain break that was reasonable and even a heads up given, instead the staff got a lot of asshattery and abuse and moping instead.
I think it should be okay for activity lulls. I think it’s good if players slow down then too, because i’ve noticed people get super mean to each other if players try to keep up hectic activity during that time and resentment and panic just builds and builds. I’m not sure what the solution is other than to just talk about it now and then as a thing that happens. Activity doesn’t equate interest. Either because the person is a little spent, or because RL crops up (i keep getting my ass beat down by that personally right now) or whatever. I think about the games I’m on and the stories I’m in daily, it’s a source of joy. I wish it didn’t also come with the anxiety more often than it should of “but am I doing enough.” I do think that it’s probably mostly a personality thing, but I do think that there’s a strong culture thing too with a lot of mushes.
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If you want something you think I have, please at least try to have a little finesse instead of suddenly kissing my ass out of nowhere. It’s only polite.
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@Snackness You gonna give me them cookies, tho?
lol lmao
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@Snackness said in MU Peeves Thread:
If you want something you think I have, please at least try to have a little finesse instead of suddenly kissing my ass out of nowhere. It’s only polite.
Right? Where are the manners?
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*sidles up next to @Snackness *
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@Herja Well…yes. You too, @Cornpopped.
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@mietze I think talking about it openly is good because I generally try to believe that most people are not intentionally acting entitled. It’s just a difference in mindset. If you have someone who spends a lot of time on a game, they might feel like a lull in activity is a bad thing where a less active player might feel relief that they aren’t trying to keep up with the more active players that are pushing story along very quickly. I would like to think that once people are aware that they are being unkind and a little unfair to others, they might take some time to reassess.
Staff putting up strong boundaries is also good and being willing to let people walk away if they want to, as much as that sucks. I also know that part is not so easy for smaller games where losing a small handful of players can really wreck the entire thing. Losing a few players on Arx doesn’t create as much of a vacuum as losing a few players on a game where there are only 20 consistent log-ins. Still, setting up boundaries and enforcing them helps. As much as I am tempted to remain logged in 24/7 on the game because of FOMO, I also have created the expectation that if you find me on /who, then I am available for questions, pages, etc. I had to create a line there to force myself to take time and let my brain rest while also being available to players because I never want anyone to feel like they are a bother for reaching out to me.
I think also normalizing playing multiple games for players that need more activity than one game staff can fulfill would help as well. Or even staff encouraging players to check out other games during lulls. It’s not a competition and if a very active player can get their need for story and engagement met by playing on a couple of games rather than devoting all that energy to one, I think the entire community benefits.
lol lmao
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@Herja said in MU Peeves Thread:
I think also normalizing playing multiple games for players that need more activity than one game staff can fulfill would help as well.
I wish there were actually enough games for people to be playing multiple ones
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@bear_necessities Yeah, same.
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@mietze said in MU Peeves Thread:
I think it should be okay for activity lulls.
I agree with everything you said, especially the bit about entitlement, but I also think it should be okay to not be okay with activity lulls. If a given player can’t maintain a scene’s given energy during a lull, then that sucks for everyone but isn’t necessarily a moral failure; and I hope that person finds someone they can RP with at the speed their creative process requires them to hold.
