@mietze I feel this so hard while on cancer meds. I can only do 5 minutes at a time, but I have strawberries coming up!! And a few onions planted during “semi cold” season. And potatoes!!
It’s a start but not a finish by any means.
@mietze I feel this so hard while on cancer meds. I can only do 5 minutes at a time, but I have strawberries coming up!! And a few onions planted during “semi cold” season. And potatoes!!
It’s a start but not a finish by any means.
If it’s not cancer treatment stealing away my energy, it’s chemo brain stealing my mind away from me. I’m good. I’m fine. I’m ok. But honestly, I want to be able to join an game again without feeling guilty that I’d be letting folk down if I just didn’t have the energy to play or GM. Hoping to get back to that some time this year. Maybe. Hopefully.
Current:
NONE
Past:
Arx - Lou, Quenia
Spirit Lake - Maureen
Ithir - Alexandria, Darinel
Games of Way, Way Past - Too Many Characters To Remember:
LegendMUD
Dimensions MUD
Tales of Ta’veren
AngealMOO II
Cuendillar
Tartarus
Firan
I’ve currently taken a break from gaming because in November I was told that I have stage 1A cancer, so I’ve been focusing on RL and myself for the time being. I tried out one game, very, very briefly, and didn’t feel I could give it any time or energy with the medical stuff going on. HOWEVER, I finished my last chemo treatment today so that’s some good news. I still have about 3-4 months to go with surgery and another surgery recovery, and who knows after that. Maybe I’m done with chemo, maybe they want another round.
The important part is I’m hanging in there and around, and once I have the energy to do something other than be a couch potato I’ll join the gaming and GMing world again.
I got to GM some rascally giant squirrels and killer plants this past month, after almost a year of a GMing dry spell due to rising health issues. Was very glad that I got to do this. I have missed creating stories for people.
This last year has been one medical disaster after another. It started back in April with having issues with dehydration, then in August I was diagnosed with 15 cm cyst on my left ovary concerning for cancer. In October I had a hysterectomy to remove those cysts and get anything concerning out and was told I was cancer free. But at the end November, I was told that I have stage 1A Fallopian Tube Cancer - which they found after they biopsied that part some time after my surgery since that’s not the area they were looking in - and I’m starting chemo next week.
I was already struggling financially with all the medical bills from the emergency room visits and surgery that were piling up; the chemo is going to compound that. To top it off, I’m starting chemo right before Christmas so I’m going to be very immunocompromised and won’t get to see family, again, this year after having COVID at Christmas last year.
I am so, so, so, very tired of year after year of ALL THE BAD THINGS happening.
I’ve been struggling financially for a long time now to the point where I wasn’t sure I was going to be able to pay all of my bills plus gas to get to and from work or buy groceries this week. This is all due to vet bills and car troubles that have piled up over the last year or two. I was informed today that I’m getting a 10% raise and it goes into the next pay check, which is hugely helpful.
My Jeep has been in and out of the shop at least 8 times this year for cylinders misfiring. It’s been to 2 different shops that can’t figure out the issue. It’s gone at a 3rd shop and that shop owner knows my dad, so has just expressed he’s willing to help me out to get the Jeep fixed both in parts and labor and also getting it paid. This is a huge relief.
@junipersky said in Real Life Struggles/Support/Vent:
I feel like I need to keep up with her energy but it is so hard to be around people right now.
Everyone grieves differently. There is no right or wrong way to do it. Just make sure whatever way you grieve, it suits you. Be kind and gentle on yourself during this process, because, really, you are finding /your/ new normal for yourself after your brother’s passing. That’s not going to be the same as your sister’s new normal.
I say this as someone who lost my mother at age 22 in 1996, where it took nearly 20 years for me to heal, and then my husband in 2019, where it took me 3 years for me to finally feel like I could get back out into the world actively outside of work again; part of that was compounded by the pandemic, but most of it was the grief spirals I’d find myself in. Take the time you need.
@dvoraen said in TV series, news, recommendations:
Shadow and Bone S2 is out on Netflix.
aaaaaaaah
I have earned the “Binged” achievement for this already.
Starting a Thrax Civil War plot in November and having nearly weekly gaming sessions to complete 6 separate scenarios, until it finds its way to completion.
I had a lot of fun doing my first long term plot on the game. There were a few scheduling bumps in the road due to RL and other factors, but there was also so much laughter and fun to be had, and so, so much story to tell.
I loved every minute of it.
@junipersky said in RL Peeves:
My anti-anxiety drugs can be shipped a-okay!
BUT HOLY SHIT HOW DARE I WANT BIRTH CONTROL PERSCRIBED TO ME AS A PAIN CONTROL METHOD OMG OMG OMG. I HAD BETTER GO SHOW MY PHOTO ID TO A REAL PERSON BECAUSE I MIGHT BE DOING SOMETHING ILLEGAL.
Seriously.
Birth control.
It’s getting super crazy stupid out there.
@Testament The lungs filling with fluid is what did my Fussy-cat in on April 1, 2022. I did the same procedure you did to give her a fighting chance, but also had to put her down on the same day, to do the humane thing. I feel for you and am so sorry for your loss. She’s in my daily routine to tell my dogs goodbye when I leave for work, telling her, my husband, and my dog who all passed that I love them all and miss them all very much.
@GF Having been on the receiving end of this behavior multiple times, I think it’s very important to draw your line in the sand from the beginning. Trust your gut about your red flags and decide where you want that line to be and be honest. That’s the best thing you can do, for both yourself and this other person. It’s good to set boundaries and let other people know them, especially if you only have so many spoons in a day to spend on things.
Annie Wersching, dead at 45 from cancer. She played in Star Trek: Enterprise, Star Trek: Picard (The Borg Queen), Timeless, 24, The Vampire Diaries, Runaways, and The Rookie
@RightMeow I am definitely feeling that way about a player. So it’s not just you or just in your head.
Their apology wasn’t really an apology. I think this article coves it nicely.
I think that claiming a perpetual license on other people’s work to do whatever they want to with it, even if it is derivative, without giving royalties or credit back to the creators is absurd and is a dangerous path to go down that stomps all over the smaller creators who do things for the love of the game. It alienates their core groups of players who’ve been game designing and promoting the game over these last few decades; without them, D&D would not be so popular.
To counter my RP Peeve… a RL Happy.
The day before Christmas, during the cold snap, my HVAC was having issues. It wouldn’t go above 59 and nothing I did brought it up. I also got Covid this weekend. I called the installation company that also does the service for help after making sure the Covid issue wasn’t going to be an issue on their website (it was) and if they could come out. I didn’t have an active service plan in place but I had been working on it prior to the issue cropping up. We just hadn’t finalized the details. They refused to come out. I bought a space heater and fretted out the week that they were closed because they were out for the entirety of Christmas week. I fretted all week long, thinking I’d have to sacrifice the rest of my bonus and an arm and a leg to the HVAC gods to get it fixed.
I know, I know, this all sounds bad so far… The space heater got the house through the cold snap and the heater worked when the temps warmed up. I got the service agreement in place and a service scheduled for last Friday. As it turns out, the issue with the heater wasn’t anything mechanical. When they changed out the thermostat a year and a half ago, they had wired it wrong. So, not only did I get my HVAC serviced, but the fix to the heater issue was free of charge since, while it was out of warranty, it was their fault to begin with since they were the ones to wire it up.
So, what might have been a financial disaster for me, ended up being a nice start to 2023 instead. And, behind that, I got news that one of my close friends with Stage 4 cancer has exceptionally good numbers leading into her debulking surgery and she might actually be looking at a long, long life if all goes well with that and the chemo following it.
More of that please.
Asking a character if they would be willing to do an event IC, only to get an @mail telling you that they have this OTHER event they want to do instead of the one you ICly asked them to do because they are sure more players would be more interested in that event.
A couple of months later, schedule a similar event you asked about previously without going through them after they already indicated they were not interested in scheduling those types of events because you want to kick off some plots you also scheduled, only to get an @mail about stepping on their IC job.
. . . .
@Arkandel I am glad you fond your cat