@Faraday said in Empire Discussion Thread:
Look, I’m not excusing rudeness here, but let’s be realistic. These are open public internet games with people who don’t always know each other well, and text-only chat. Text lacks tone. People don’t always word things right. Even the best players can have moments where they get frustrated or impatient.
i think this is a huge point. let’s not pretend we’re all angels who always have the best tone.
hell, one of the first games i was on, the staffers had to sit me down, metaphorically, and explain that my tone was coming off rude. did i know? no. i came from a different internet culture and honestly hadn’t put much thought into my text tone until that point.
if they had banned me instead of at least trying to give a warning, we wouldn’t be friends now, i wouldn’t have attended one of their weddings, and i’d probably have quickly dropped out of the hobby, because it was my second MUSH and the first one had it’s own thing with people being rude to ME, so.
so i’m not saying you can’t ban people, or that you have to put up with rudeness, or that you can’t have a small quiet game.
but there’s also good moments to be had in offering some patience in that position too.