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Bannings
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Conveniently leaving off the “threatening” descriptor from “I just sent DMs to somebody I didn’t know had me blocked on multiple platforms” is my favorite part. Also, naming you an abuser isn’t implying you’re a rapist. It’s naming you an abuser. Because you fucking sent me threatening DMs here when I had you blocked on multiple other platforms. Which is abusive. Which makes you an abuser.
Asshat.
There is NO PLANET on which telling someone who has you blocked “talk to me or I will spread lies about you” is anything except abusive. And frankly, that you leveled an ultimatum like that to begin with (the demand to engage with you) belies that you didn’t know you were blocked. Otherwise, you wouldn’t have needed a fucking ultimatum.
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The thing is that I used to think hobos was basically a harmless guy that just wasn’t a good fit for Arx. That’s it. There was no conspiracy or even dislike there. I was frustrated because I was the one, during the initial incident, that declined to ban him the first time because I didn’t think he was a terrible guy but that was it. I was only frustrated because I was really hoping that he would get it after the first warning.
Seeing how he has acted since that ban just makes me sad. Either I was entirely deluded about him (most likely scenario) or the company he is currently keeping is teaching him some really nasty, toxic habits.
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My second favorite part is that every single person who asks questions or offers criticism there is OBVIOUSLY sent over there by the people here to stir up trouble.
I don’t think they could say any more clearly that they don’t actually want anyone there that also happens to be here. At least if you’re going to do anything at all besides lick their assholes.
eta: Posting public lies about people who can read them but are unable to respond or participate is exactly poking the bear, you motherfucking disingenuous assholes.
the entity previously known as Sunny
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eta: Posting public lies about people who can read them is exactly poking the bear, you motherfucking disingenuous assholes.
Right? Like, ‘oh we are just here talking about books and RP and YOU GUYS are being the troublemakers’. Except… there is someone there maligning an entire staff of a game (a couple of which are banned and cannot counter the lies being told) and they only seem to speak up when someone that isn’t in their ‘clique’ speaks up about anything.
lol lmao
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man, it brings me back to the time where I hadn’t been on a MU* or RPed in like, half a year, and Ghost tagged me out of nowhere to accuse me of being part of the clique.
good times, good times.
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@Herja Don’t forget the clumsy ban threats used to enforce things and encourage the group think, going alongside the rather unpleasant othering of the former posters (‘culled’ was one of the terms I saw wasn’t it? Part time amateur social eugenicists at play)
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The fact of the matter is, the overarching narrative there right now isn’t wrong. There was a schism, and it is generally positive for the hobby to have it split off.
The thing is though, who left was not a single clique.
It was everyone EXCEPT for a single clique.
There’s like 5 very distinct “social groups” inhabiting this place, and we’ve already seen scuffles between them that were dealt with immediately and generally amiably. There’s a last holdout of a second social group over there that hasn’t left yet, but given every time one of them speaks up the dominant group there accuses them of being “BMD”, I suspect they’ll be joining us sooner (rather than later).
Look at who is claiming that place as a “safe space, now”. Stalkers, harassers, abusers, gaslighters, and the people who enable them. Whoopdie do.
They can look at what they’ve built and be happy with it. I’d be mortified to have built an exclusive club for the worst people the hobby has to offer, but hey. Different strokes for different folks I guess.
the entity previously known as Sunny
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@IoleRae It deeply upsets my Libra desire for justice.
lol lmao
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I really resent that simply saying,
“Hey, no, actually, these people you’re trying to make a case for were actually quite awful, and here’s why: …”
Got me the BMD agenda argument.
Like holy shit, did I poll you guys first in my sleep? Do we have a super sekrit Discord server I’m in without knowing it? Do you have me at knifepoint? Am I sleeper agent? Did someone activate me!? If so, I at least want someone to play “Relax” by Frankie Goes to Hollywood.
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I am fucking furious at what they did to something I loved. But there’s nothing to be done with that anger except to feel it, vent it, and then move past it. I believe that I am in the “venting” stage of that right now; I am no longer seeing white, so there’s that. If I thought it would matter I would be over there screaming at the top of my lungs, “GIVE IT BACK TO ME RIGHT NOW YOU AWFUL, TERRIBLE PEOPLE.”
the entity previously known as Sunny
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@IoleRae I keep thinking I am over it and that it has no power to piss me off anymore and then I see more bullshit just get annoyed all over again. A lot of this is that I have a hard time with perceived injustice and I don’t understand how none of those people can SEE what they are doing and how fucked up it is. I probably just need to stop engaging because you are right. I’m not getting unbanned to defend the people that I care about and it’s not like they would listen anyway.
My BRAIN knows this. My heart on the other hand…
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idk, guys. i have everyone i’d want now on this board.
honestly, seeing everyone come together to help out herja healed any last bit of anger for me? weirdly? so thank you, everyone who helped and said nice words and herja herself for putting her trust in us.
now i’m just chilling
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There is no room in the hobby for people like Spider or Cullen. There is no room in the hobby for people like pMonique, Ghost, or Hobos. It’s all the same behavior. If you’re setting up an environment that encourages them – actively enables them!!!, by shutting down people who tell people about it! – you might want to take a moment to evaluate that and what that says about you.
I do not think that the MSB admin sent hobos over here to threaten me, or had anything at all to do with that. I don’t hold them responsible for that. I do hold them responsible for not letting someone correct the record when he started lying about it there, and instead actually encouraging and enabling him. ESPECIALLY given that exactly what happened happened in the light of day. It is publicly available, and everyone can see it.
POINTING OUT SOMEBODY’S ABUSIVE BEHAVIOR IS NOT BULLYING.
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I really need to stop going back there to find out what y’all are talking about in these conversations.
Most of those two threads came off to me like people who complain about how America needs more civility in its discourse, where “civility” is code for “never protesting when someone hurts you because that might make people who support hurting you (or just lack the spine to stand up against people who hurt you) feel uncomfortable.”
“How can we heal the community,” moans man who refuses to listen to the complaints of anyone he disagrees with and immediately dismisses them as being part of a clique of people he can’t identify but whose villainous intentions he knows without question. He offers this question in an echo chamber where the people he needs to address literally cannot respond to him, because he has no interest in an answer to the question, just in appearing to be a put-upon peacemaker who is rejected by those unreasonable whisper-campaigning bitches in The Clique.
It’s enough to put my off my dinner. Fuck.
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Having been through a very large forum schism in the past that had some mirrors here (admin goes on banning spree and gets rid of some prolific posters, people leave in protest, some celebrate, new board starts) I can say that time really is the only thing that heals it. While it might feel like the posters here got kicked out of their “home” I bet you in a couple months or so you’re going to be like ‘wow I cannot believe I ever posted there’ and then later cringe at the fact that your posts there are still searchable, what were you thinking, oh god why.
But mostly even if you rail at injustice anywhere (I’m like that too!) it’s just not worth your time. Which won’t matter till it burns out of your system just like any bad relationship in your life. Sometimes one of my friends will drop that they still post at the old board and I’ll be surprised and like ‘ugh, why’ but honestly if those people are posting over there, I don’t have to deal with them and that’s a-ok with me.
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@Solstice You didn’t know you’re apart of MKUltra?
On a more serious note, there is nothing of value anyone is going to get by going back to MSB and reading garbage you can’t reply to. As someone who’s default setting is usually angry, it’s not going to do any good. Easier said than done, but the further in your rear view it is, the better it’ll eventually become.
If hobos and VK want to hang onto their hate and keep feeding their victim complex, that’s their hill to die on. And it’s all they’ll know because the concept of 'letting shit go is likely a foreign idea.
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It was everyone EXCEPT for a single clique.
Half the people in this thread were on my ignore list on MSB because all you talk about is Arx - and because some of you are a little SJW for my tastes, ngl.
But nothing brings people together like a common enemy, and goddamn if Derp doesn’t make it easy to dislike him.
I would WAY rather be in the Mean Girls Clique than the Rape Apologist Club.
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When the goalposts move so drastically to either side, it’s a lot easier to realize that the people you once thought were a bit too extreme are now much closer than you previously thought.
A shift in perspective can certainly do that!
@Testament said in Bannings:
@Solstice You didn’t know you’re apart of MKUltra?
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“How can we heal the community,” moans man who refuses to listen to the complaints of anyone he disagrees with and immediately dismisses them as being part of a clique of people he can’t identify but whose villainous intentions he knows without question. He offers this question in an echo chamber where the people he needs to address literally cannot respond to him, because he has no interest in an answer to the question, just in appearing to be a put-upon peacemaker who is rejected by those unreasonable whisper-campaigning bitches in The Clique.
I think he heard MSB was a RP forum and got confused about where the RP was actually supposed to take place.
