IC Consequences and OOC Acceptance

[sao]

I do think that people hate being wrong more than they hate losing the character because they didn’t think the character was wrong - they, the player, were wrong, if the character’s opinion was wrong, so that’s a loss to them, the person, rather than the character.

I’m a woman with anxiety issues so I have to train myself not to apologize when I’m not wrong - I feel like it puts me in different perspective than some players who don’t share that trait.

[SpaceKhomeini]

I usually operate under the assumption that the character I’m helming is largely an idiot and does idiot things that will result in idiotic self-owns.

Sometimes I forget that I haven’t communicated this loudly enough with everyone around me and they get kind of cagey when I do stupid shit IC.

[Faraday]

Some players will roll with things - I love that. But I’ve had some players quit over what I considered natural (non character-ending) consequences of their PCs’ actions, and others throw gigantic fits over the smallest of setbacks.

PC death is my personal hot-button because it ends the story and makes you start over from scratch. That’s not fun for me, so I don’t play (or run) games like that.

@SpaceKhomeini said in IC Consequences and OOC Acceptance:

I usually operate under the assumption that the character I’m helming is largely an idiot and does idiot things that will result in idiotic self-owns.

Sometimes I forget that I haven’t communicated this loudly enough with everyone around me and they get kind of cagey when I do stupid shit IC.

The fact that this needs to be communicated at all is kind of emblematic of the core issue. Most players in my experience don’t want their character to come off looking bad (in their opinion) because they think it makes them look bad. There’s such an over-investment in IC success, glory, and coolness that if someone is actively trying to embrace natural consequences or have their character do something stupid, it’s looked upon with suspicion or disdain.

[Pavel]

@Faraday said in IC Consequences and OOC Acceptance:

There’s such an over-investment in IC success, glory, and coolness that if someone is actively trying to embrace natural consequences or have their character do something stupid, it’s looked upon with suspicion or disdain.

This is a bit of a side-tangent, but I’d be curious to know whether this behaviour is solely intrinsic or if it has somehow ‘evolved’ through a trend of over-rewarding success, glory, and/or coolness rather than simply playing an interesting person.

Not curious enough to actually work out a study or anything, I’m not a masochist.

[MisterBoring]

@Pavel said in IC Consequences and OOC Acceptance:

And, honestly, if they choose to depart for that reason I can’t fault them.

I can’t fault people for that either, with the exception of cases where they throw a total tantrum on their way out and drag the game.

[Pavel]

@MisterBoring said in IC Consequences and OOC Acceptance:

@Pavel said in IC Consequences and OOC Acceptance:

And, honestly, if they choose to depart for that reason I can’t fault them.

I can’t fault people for that either, with the exception of cases where they throw a total tantrum on their way out and drag the game.

Oh, absolutely agree. I want to heavily advocate for the idea of leaving being totally fine if you’re unhappy. Feel free to express why, of course, but if it’s just a difference of opinion or whathaveyou, then try and be diplomatic about it.

[Faraday]

@Pavel said in IC Consequences and OOC Acceptance:

This is a bit of a side-tangent, but I’d be curious to know whether this behaviour is solely intrinsic or if it has somehow ‘evolved’ through a trend of over-rewarding success, glory, and/or coolness rather than simply playing an interesting person.

I have no hard data obviously, but in my experience, the behavior has always been there.

I think a lot of it stems from MU roots in RPGs, which have always been geared around success, glory, and/or coolness. Both extrinsically in terms of how you get stuff in the game (XP, loot, levels, etc.) and intrinsically in what society tends to value in storytelling and what most players find fun.

If your PC has to take on a team of assassins, most players are going to want to be John Wick rather than The Dead Body. I think that’s only natural.

One difference is that in a TTRPG, you know the GM (probably) isn’t just there to screw you over and you’ll (probably) still get to be Big Darn Heroes in the end. This can make players more tolerant to setbacks. But even in TT I’ve seen players get bent out of shape when things didn’t go their way.

I think that behavior is partly tied to whether one falls on the game/story continuum, and how much enmeshment there is between PC and player. These are also factors in TT.

[mietze]

I think this is one of those things that is highly dependent on the situation, even more than the individual.

I think IF people feel oocly that they are seen and getting to contribute, and are having fun, there’s a lot more that they’re willing to bend for and roll with.

I think the tricky issue with NPCs in particular is that it can be really easy for that part to be lost, and for some people that does trigger a desire to poke the bear just TO be seen. I don’t know about any of the specific situations people are referencing here (I don’t think). But I have absolutely seen on several games people sitting through scenes that are largely NPCs roleplaying/talking primarily to each other and pretty much ignoring other people and forcing everyone else into audience role OR showing up to PC run events to blow them up without checking in with the person running the scene, and an ICly they get reactions from the spectators that clearly the staff running the NPCs didn’t expect, or they feel are disruptive. Both types of behavior were really super common on the WoD games in which I was largely raised. So sometimes I wonder when I see someone really stepping on that edge if they aren’t reacting to the perception of ‘oh well, might as well have my kind of fun since there’s nothing I can do here.’ Almost like the reverse behavior of the PC who comes to scenes exclusively to pose at the NPCs and dodges all other PCs’ poses to them like some kind of ninja.

When a PC is finally penalized for negative interactions with NPCs, if it’s in that context of feeling like they aren’t part of things enough anyway to feel concern or attachment (either because of something they’ve internalized or misunderstood or they’ve just hit their limit feeling like they’re spectating because that is in fact what they have to do) then they’re much less accepting OOCly of consequences. The people who are just in it to be as obnoxious as possible in my observation/experience really don’t care about losing their pc or whatever, they’ll just walk but be as obnoxious as they can be on their way out.

But I think most of the time MOST people are actually fine with consequence. But also even some of those people might have just had a bad day or something else going on where they were not in that moment able to make something fun out of an unexpected major setback or failure. (I don’t qualify poking the bear out of boredom as unexpected.)

[KDraygo]

@Faraday said in IC Consequences and OOC Acceptance:

Some players will roll with things - I love that. But I’ve had some players quit over what I considered natural (non character-ending) consequences of their PCs’ actions, and others throw gigantic fits over the smallest of setbacks.

PC death is my personal hot-button because it ends the story and makes you start over from scratch. That’s not fun for me, so I don’t play (or run) games like that.

@SpaceKhomeini said in IC Consequences and OOC Acceptance:

I usually operate under the assumption that the character I’m helming is largely an idiot and does idiot things that will result in idiotic self-owns.

Sometimes I forget that I haven’t communicated this loudly enough with everyone around me and they get kind of cagey when I do stupid shit IC.

The fact that this needs to be communicated at all is kind of emblematic of the core issue. Most players in my experience don’t want their character to come off looking bad (in their opinion) because they think it makes them look bad. There’s such an over-investment in IC success, glory, and coolness that if someone is actively trying to embrace natural consequences or have their character do something stupid, it’s looked upon with suspicion or disdain.

I believe it’s not only the player not wanting to come off looking bad, which is part of it, but there are some who already have a concrete roadmap planned out for their character. Their character progression is like Lockheed Martin’s stock, the only way is up. In their mind, they already have an expectation that after one event, their character’s coolness and popularity is at this level, then after another event, they will attain a higher level, etc.

This means, if they perform an action that they feel is perfectly fine and cool, and the GM in that scene throws an unexpected wrench which may sidetrack, delay, or even mar their roadmap, then their character is ruined. They’re out. They do not want to go through the effort to take this new, uncertain Path B, because it was not part of their original plan. They play for the ‘W’, they don’t play for the collaborative story telling.

[MisterBoring]

@KDraygo said in IC Consequences and OOC Acceptance:

Their character progression is like Lockheed Martin’s stock, the only way is up.

The antithesis of this, the player who’s character progression is meant to repeatedly bounce off of rock bottom, is possibly every GM’s unicorn.

[Wizz]

@MisterBoring

it is? why is that your unicorn?

[Pavel]

@MisterBoring My unicorn is everyone being available at the same time on a consistent basis…

[MisterBoring]

@Wizz

I tend to enjoy reading and watching those types of stories, where a character is handed short term defeat after short term defeat only to finally bring things around in the very end and win when it really pays off to do so.

@Pavel

That’s so rare that’s not even a unicorn though. That’s like seeing a unicorn get struck by lightning on the day it won the Powerball.

[mietze]

I like reading those types of stories too, but the problem is on a MUSH, a lot of times you’re not going to see things to that completion. Between staff turn and burnover and all that (nobody’s fault) or things losing steam realistically most people know that you can’t expect the big payoff. You’ve got to just kind of enjoy the moment and the fun with people you enjoy RPing with while it lasts.

Don’t get me wrong I LOVE failure. Pretty much most of my favorite mush memories are scenes that were heavily influenced by me bombing many MANY rolls. The scene my awesome statted combat dude did not succeed on a single roll while the nerds he was escorting passed every single roll in the combat. My admittedly kind of dumb jock pc failing like six perception type checks in a row and making a fool of herself. Catastropic failure roll on my healer which meant she was able to save someone in a heroic way but did it wrong so it looked like everything was fine and then her work ruptured and took him out during a critical battle scene.

But I have seen people I really have empathy for who by luck like never get to succeed, never get to shine, because there’s not room in the moment for the GM to play along. Ect.

I agree that good sportsmanship is very important. Few things are as unfun for me as having a STed scene that is mostly cluttered with people OOC getting angry or fretting about how bad their rolls are or how they don’t contribute anything, ect so that the actual poses are ecliped by the volume of the ooc. But honestly I can’t help but feel strong empathy for folks who feel a little disappointed that pretty much they flubbed everything, or for various reasons don’t get as much attention (not necessarily from staff, but even just being without a solid group to do things with and amuse each other too).

[Pavel]

@MisterBoring said in IC Consequences and OOC Acceptance:

where a character is handed short term defeat after short term defeat only to finally bring things around in the very end and win

That’s great in theory, but can’t often be guaranteed. More likely is that it will be short-term defeat after short-term defeat after short-term defeat… and that’s it.

Why would I want to play that when that’s just my reality?

It can be fun to read, for sure, but it’s often not fun to play.

[Pyrephox]

Amusingly, I remember one character I played where it felt like everyone was convinced that he was in control and had this Machiavellian plotting going on–and he never accomplished one single thing I wanted for him.

He was just determined not to let it show, so every time something failed, he just pivoted to grab what he could and acted like that was The Plan all along.

It was honestly somewhat frustrating OOC, because I wasn’t getting what I wanted from the game or his ‘arc’, and at the same time, because people assumed I was, they kept treating him like he was a big enemy who had to be kept in his place or else he’d take over everything.

All he ever wanted was to kill some monsters so that he felt like less of one and to have a human crime friend.

[SpaceKhomeini]

@mietze said in IC Consequences and OOC Acceptance:

I like reading those types of stories too, but the problem is on a MUSH, a lot of times you’re not going to see things to that completion. Between staff turn and burnover and all that (nobody’s fault) or things losing steam realistically most people know that you can’t expect the big payoff. You’ve got to just kind of enjoy the moment and the fun with people you enjoy RPing with while it lasts.

Ain’t that the truth?

I don’t know why I of all people need to be occasionally reminded of this, but…

I do.

[Faraday]

@Pavel said in IC Consequences and OOC Acceptance:

It can be fun to read, for sure, but it’s often not fun to play.

It’s fun to read because there’s usually some kind of payoff in the end. As others have mentioned, that’s often (usually?) just not the case in MUs. Even if a MU ends up running for years, there’s no guarantees of that from one week to the next. Too many of them end up like TV shows cancelled before their time with plot threads that went nowhere. It’s hard to blame people for not wanting to play the long game.

And also let’s not forget… it’s a game. I think there’s an understandable gap between the kinds of media we might passively enjoy as a book or movie vs. the kind we want to actively participate in through a first-person type experience.

[Pavel]

@Faraday said in IC Consequences and OOC Acceptance:

the kind we want to actively participate in through a first-person type experience

I’d even go so far as to say that we’re not simply ‘actively participating’ in it, we’re creating it. It’s easy to equate MUs to video games, and if that’s the analogy people want to use, then we’re not just the players, we’re the writers, designers, and producers too.

[Gashlycrumb]

@Pavel said in IC Consequences and OOC Acceptance:

That’s great in theory, but can’t often be guaranteed. More likely is that it will be short-term defeat after short-term defeat after short-term defeat… and that’s it.

Why would I want to play that when that’s just my reality?

Yes.

Caveat being that if the IC defeat involved an excellent scene or two and was great fun and maybe has a sauce of hooks for future Doin’ Awesome RPG Shit, it’s an OOC victory and it’s reasonable for the GM to expect it to be taken as one.

But boring and opportunity restricting failures will make people whinge, or go away, or both. One Classic form of MU fuckery is the deal where the cool kids get to fart hypnotic purple fire in the Mall of America and it’s all good, but every time Abelard farts fire in the Distant Mountains somebody observes and the Grand Poot-bah tells him he needs to be more discrete or they’ll force him to take the Bean-O and lose his fire-farting powers forever.