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please. i am begging people. when new to a game, take a week to get a sense of the culture and if it’s a good fit for you before you do shit that sucks up everyone’s attention and energy, and make sure you even understand the basics of how the game runs and why before you make a thousand suggestions about how to change it.

I submitted my first short story to Amazon. It’s cheesy erotica, but… I already have my second ready to edit, I have my community pages built out, and the hard work of just doing the first one is done.

I’m really fucking excited for this.

After deciding to unblock Ghost and see what all he’s written since he’s been unbanned, I stand by what I said: the man’s a slimy piece of shit, more importantly, one who gets off on drama and tries to stir it up. More of his time is spent insulting people than anything else, and yeah, any community that wants him, I don’t want to be part of. His is the most obvious fucking weaseling I’ve ever seen, but WE’RE the bullies, clearly.

Yeah. Everything still stands. Hope he reads this!

It’s days like today I remember a lot of the community has social skills as their dump stats.

Honestly, the point of “let people come and see on their own if people are talking shit about them rather than jumping through hoops” is really solid to me, and fits with the motions for transparency. It will make it feel less like a secret club and more of an open part of the community.

i feel like trying to language police a hobby full of erotic writers and social outcasts is, uh, a choice.

i sure wish the type of character i like to play didn’t tend to attract so many creepers.

don’t page people about how excited you are for a TS scene that may have just been a false promise and my character keeping yours on the hook, ffs. even if there was a chance the moment you brought it ooc that went out the window.

generally just don’t page people you don’t know about TS.

Feeling like I get to flex a little with the kind of character I love to play, in my preferred genre, finally having the mental capacity to actually feel like I can both RP and be creative at the same time, and starting a storyline I’m getting really excited about.

I really missed RP. It feels so good to be back.

So we’re getting our first images from the James Webb Telescope, and they’re beyond stunning.

I know these are all over the internet right now, but in case anybody hadn’t seen them… well.

I just woke up (west coast shit) and I still have feelings I’m trying to process about this, so, sorry for bumping this again but I’m literally not sure where else to put it.

I was pretty emotionally fine through most of that. Legitimately trying to offer advice. Honestly, the bannings weren’t even my major concern – it’s accountability and improvement, the two points I listed, in whatever form they take. I think that’s what’s been missing, and seeing people falling right into the same toxic shit they’d been doing before was what prompted me to even post over there in the first place. I’d been good about keeping my distance. I wasn’t going to get into any kind of major debate, but then I was asked to give something.

I took it on good faith. What I posted yesterday on MSB amounted to hours of stress and thought, emotional labor that I really was putting out for the good of the board. I knew they wouldn’t be popular thoughts with the crowd there, but they were genuine ones. I kept my criticism laser-focused on staff actions, and the one time someone felt caught in the crossfire, I apologized.

And I was pretty okay, though I think my exhaustion was starting to show, when I was called a bully doing mean girl shit for that. I didn’t think I was going to change anything immediately, but maybe I could give them some things to think about and chew on.

The blatant attempt at manipulation and gaslighting (actual gaslighting, as in, trying to make me question my whole reality, not the colloquial way it’s been used as lying) at the end, though? That wounded me, I’m not going to lie. Partially because it was so clumsy and, honestly, how did they think that was going to work on me? But mostly because it was coming from the one person who looked like they were really trying to engage. That was some cold, evil shit.

6/24/24: Updated. Not putting current character out there too publicly at the moment, very rarely RP these days. Doing some writing, let me know if you want to connect about that.

FORMER CHARACTERS
Silent Heaven: Jessica
Arx: Bliss, Eamon, Renfry
The Celestra: Toucan
The Network: Sarah
Ravencroft Academy: Cel
Haven: Nahid, Emilie

@Roz james somerton plays MU’s now?

@hobos said in Bannings:

But I understand why she felt the need. And why she felt the need, to me, is a far more egregious breach of decency as it comes with a particular power dynamic and a particular sort of exploitative abuse.

There really was no need and that’s sort of the issue here. She could have chosen not to violate the NCO, she could have chosen to not manipulate people to the degree she did, she could have chosen to just… not do any of this. She chose to. She chose to do things which actively harm people. No one forced her to, it was her choice, and many of those people whom she has directly harmed or indirectly harmed don’t forgive her for it, particularly as this is representative of a long pattern of toxic behavior from this player.

If that made her feel unwelcome, then may I introduce you to the phrase, “Oh no, not the consequences of my own actions!”

@hobos Nobody who is hurt by someone has to accept their apology, especially when it’s a repeat of years of the same behavior. Especially when it only looks like they apologized because they got caught.

It can take years of work and positive action and rebuilding trust in order to accept someone back in, and frankly, even then it’s always going to be on tenuous ground because a repeat, even a minor one, can collapse the whole thing. (See, in fact, the discussions around Macha here.)

That simply hasn’t happened.

@Runescryer The thing is, you proudly touted that you “HAD RECEIPTS” and made a big deal out of it, and then when you brought it out, what it looked like was you going “this character was mean to my character so this guy is a creep :(”

Frankly, I don’t think anybody looks good here, this is some of the most asinine drama to hit, but you were the one who went immediately “THIS MIGHT BE DWOPP” and stirred up that possibility. The person wasn’t. You jumped to one of the worst possible conclusions because … you didn’t like a potential way the story might go, because of a private scene?

and lord, we all know what I think of Lithium. I fully expect ZG had their reasons for the bans, and that they were based off of patterns of behavior. But you made a very specific accusation and then your evidence sucked.

@Runescryer

You made it clear that you thought the person you were talking about was DWOPP. Just because you never named Lithium doesn’t mean that it wasn’t Lithium you were talking about.

ETA: also the fucking irony that this drama was over the possibility of spreading a rumor.

This is shocking behavior that to a lot of us has, unfortunately, become pretty commonplace. This player is unwell, and has been a massive thorn in the side of Haven’s community for over a decade. Engaging and spurring it on only makes it worse, unfortunately, I’ve seen this repeated literally dozens of times.

Haven is practically dead, it isn’t surprising seeing her moving on to new games. My genuine advice is don’t provoke her, handle her quietly when this happens, and move on.

Anything else, the only result will be more and more escalation.

also, i’m not going to greet everyone, because i don’t like some people and it’s as simple as that.

oh, hey look, it’s Merek, the least surprising thing about all this.

I’m still pretty shocked Derp made up a multiparagraph theory wholecloth and tried so hard to sell it. Why? What was the benefit of that kind of speculation? I realize I’m speculating here, myself, but he’s more than welcome to come here and provide the answers.

Maybe if he’s hesitating or resistant he should ask himself why and why someone he’s just accused in a pretty egregiously slut shamey way might not be willing to do the same thing.

We’re all storytellers and we just can’t seem to fucking stop making up stories about people instead of characters. This whole situation feels like two grossly manipulative people dragging everyone else in, at this point.

This thread is good, though, as gross as some of the discussion has gotten. I know a few more people I definitely don’t want involved in anything I do.

ETA: Also if any of you are reading over there and haven’t put Ghost on ignore yet who still can, honestly, do so, I missed none of the conversation without his input.