@Jumpscare said in Bailey Fork:
@bailey I think another one of the takeaways that might help you is to lay off the sexual comments about other characters. It sounds like they aren’t appreciated.
Yeah. Certainly sound advice. It’s not really something that I do particularly often, honestly, but easy enough to just avoid entirely so there is no misunderstanding at all.
In this particular case, what SockMonkey is referring to was a socially awkward alien character making general confused comments about humans in an attempt by me as a player to be funny, and not in any way suggestive of trying to get any sort of activity out of it for myself, but the point remains that uncomfortable things are uncomfortable.
I’d gotten a pretty decent amount of feedback for others on that scene in question that it was funny and that the humor was landing as intended, but if I had known at the time that it was causing anyone discomfort I’d have stopped immediately.
To be clear, what I was told some time later by SM (not by SM, but by SM’s player) was to stop ICly talking about the character’s sexual activities ICly because SM didn’t want to deal with the IC consequences of the character’s IC sexual activity, and none of what was mentioned above was mentioned to me at the time as the reason for the discomfort (and it had all been literally one scene several weeks prior that had never come up again), and I earnestly feel horrified that that was the impression that was conveyed. I very much did not intend for that, and will be rather careful going forward if I RP elsewhere knowing that’s what got conveyed. That is certainly something very real and very uncomfortable, and would have made far more sense to me as something objectionable; I also understand why the player would have felt less comfortable mentioning those.
I’d like to think that I could learn from my mistakes, so I do appreciate the feedback.