MU Peeves Thread

tsar

Honestly, I have not spent the intervening time stressing about it or plotting heinous acts of revenge,

lol oh thank god, what a relief.

TBH me finding out at all was a total fluke of someone mentioning it in my presence and I was like what?

And yeah, you’re totally okay using this forum for its purposes. I can completely understand logging onto places and feeling like the other players don’t really notice that I’m there or I’m just existing around the outskirts. I think it happens to pretty much everyone at some point, and it almost always sucks.

If you see me out in the wild sometime, drop me a page! Maybe we can get a scene in!

Pavel

Enemies to besties, 40,000 words, slow burn…

ETA: After seeing the date of the original post is 2023… very slow burn.

SockMonkey

@tsar This whole entire development has just been encouraging. I think it says a lot that you were willing to acknowledge Pacha’s emotions and experience even though you were unaware of it happening and also that it wasn’t the motivation of your actions.

It also says a lot about @Pacha for being able to acknowledge your position in the situation. While also not allowing these interactions to create a negative viewpoint.

So kudos to both of you!

At the end of the day we’re all human with our own lives and struggles. We don’t know how our actions (or the actions of those associated with us too) can be interpreted by others. We also can’t know the motive of others actions who we interact with. MUSH is behind a screen and most times we don’t know the person on the other side.

We may become friends over time and we may meet some of these people, but for the most part we remain strangers who share a love of escaping our reality through adventure. Yet, somehow our interactions with these people can still impact us and others in ways we can’t anticipate.

I’ve viewed others as being part of a ‘clique’ before. Either shutting out people or monopolizing rp and I admit I’ve let myself either be offended or get self conscious about it. Likewise, I’ve found out down the road that I have been viewed as part of a clique, monopolizing rp, or having some sort of fan following.

I know on my end none of that was my intention. Which made me realize. If I know it wasn’t my intention isn’t it possible that I’m misreading others actions the same mine were misread? I’ve given a lot more grace to myself and others as a result and overall it’s made rp a lot more fun. It’s also ironically helped me create healthier boundaries as well.

Sorry for the long ramble, but this took me down an encouraging thought trail and yeah tl;dr basically:

a man applauds in front of a sign that says

Ashkuri

Effort is required to make any hobby fun. Art, music, dog training, knitting, being good at Call of Duty, gardening…

And building a MUSH
And being a player on a MUSH

You get out of it what you put into it. Effort.

Pavel

@Ashkuri I definitely agree, and I’d like to expand upon your thought without overriding or “correcting” you.

I want to add that while it takes work to make any hobby fun, if it’s consistently more work than fun, then it might be time to reassess. Obviously, there are going to be instances where you’re doing a lot of work, particularly in the setup phase, but you should eventually get more fun out of it than a feeling of work.

MisterBoring

@Pavel said in MU Peeves Thread:

I want to add that while it takes work to make any hobby fun, if it’s consistently more work than fun, then it might be time to reassess.

Agreed. The moment it becomes more work than fun is the moment it’s an unpaid internship, and those are largely gross.

Yam

@Ashkuri

MisterBoring

@Yam If we all had a dollar for every time this happened, we’d all be oligarchs.

Cobalt

Self peeve: Find fun game I enjoy. Immediately hit with fatigue that makes thinking hard.

Gashlycrumb

@Yam

Once we all had anxiety, or we had emotional/mental fatigue from being the person who did the who-where-aboutwhat? scene-organising labour too often.

Now we can top those legit reasons off with the fact that some get away with treating asking for RP as a violation of boundaries and a bannable offense. So yeah, who’s asking these days?

Yam

@Gashlycrumb This sounds like you have stories about people getting banned for asking for RP.

hellfrog

@Gashlycrumb yeah I’ve never really seen that happen as stated! What’s up?

Gashlycrumb

@hellfrog I am pretty sure the statement is that they’re harrassing people. I think it’s upthread, about me doing this. The other person I know who was banned seemingly for asking for RP wasn’t told why, just got blocked off the game shortly after asking for RP. Old news now, But anyway, the ‘what if I get in trouble for bothering people?’ fear is legit. Kinda like the ‘how often is too often to +request or poke about a request?’ anxieties.