@Kestrel That’s not at all what I said.

ETA: But, of course, also important to remember.

It feels even worse, for me, when someone oversteps something that I didn’t know was a boundary until after they stepped over. So you feel, in a way, violated but you also know that you can’t really be angry at them—you didn’t know, they didn’t know.

@Aria said:

Am I even real, you guys?

It’s complicated; every client is different, etc, etc., caveat, caveat…

Therapy, at its core, is helping someone to make a change.

Often, what a client thinks they need or want to change isn’t at all what they need to change, and it’s part of a therapist’s job to help a client explore those unseen avenues.

Admittedly, my scope is typically working with survivors of domestic abuse—there’s something delightfully fulfilling about being a Safe Male Figure in someone’s life for, perhaps, the first time. But the intention is the same: Help a client uncover maladaptive or dangerous behaviours, thought patterns, etc, and then with time help them overcome the need for such strategies, untangle the core of their particular problems while also helping them mitigate the impact of their, for lack of a better term, symptoms.

If all a therapist does is validate and ego-boost, they’ve failed both the client and themselves. That’s an emotional fluffer, not a therapeutic partner.

@Gashlycrumb said:

Also because you are probably at least somewhat aware that therapy generally does not teach abusers not to be abusive. It teaches them to use concepts and terminology from therapy to be better at abuse and victim-blaming. The therapist’s job is to improve their client’s, in this case the abuser’s, well-being. The therapist isn’t working for you or everybody else around this guy. So “I will reach out to my therapist about this” is pretty much the opposite of addressing the problem. Really it goes, “I will talk to my therapist, who will almost certainly give me reasons I am not really in the wrong here and help me more effectively reverse our roles so you’re wrong and what I did is no big deal.”

Yeah, that’s fuckin horrible, incompetent, and unethical therapy. Sadly common, but that’s not how it’s meant to be.

@hellfrog It’s like dating. Show an interest in the other person/people, have a sense of humour, and be open to trying new things at least once.

Giphy works.

Tenor links may not work, so you might have to have or build your own gif collection. Mebbe.

@MisterBoring But one can still add gifs with the image link button. Less handy dandy more clunky monkey, but it’s an option!

@MisterBoring Either that or the game just produces the generic “Huh?” ‘I don’t understand’ message until you type it out.

Tempted, now, to write some passive-aggressive code snippet that looks for the words ‘how do I’ on a game’s Help or Newbie channel and just pages with “have you tried fuckin’ lookin’ it up, champ?”

ETA: I’ll be nice and make it only send for characters created 30+ days ago.

One of the main considerations would be exactly what one is making OOCly interactive. Bingo is an excellent idea, as that requires nothing but luck of the draw. I’d veer away from anything that requires skill or talent; my character might be an expert poker player, for instance, but I can’t tell a royal flush from a toilet hand.

Another idea would be to harken back to the 1980s video game scene and include/manufacture the so-called “feelies”—an in character news letter, an actually written (or typed, but with a fancy font) letter from a contact, or similar. Less interactive, but still a neat little novelty that some folks in the TTRPG space use quite effectively.

@Roz said in MU Peeves Thread:

begging people to at least try a single keyword search in the extensive documentation of the thing they’re always asking about

As an extension to this, when giving help please link/direct people to the help documentation rather than/as well as providing the answer.

I wish my dreams were like that. Mine always involve having to fight entropy with my third-form science teacher Mr. Wilson.

@Wizz said in MU Peeves Thread:

isn’t the, uh…point of TS that it’s still collaborative writing, tho?

I think in cases where you’re going to be such a nutter about it (like above) it’s likely less about the collaboration and more about the power trip. But still that would require another person, yes.

@Roz said in MU Peeves Thread:

this is a weird rule for a game to have

I suppose it might make sense on a game where new characters explicitly can’t have known each other previously… but I imagine it’s more likely a case of a staffer with more than a few bad experiences crying “enough is enough.”

@Third-Eye said in MU Peeves Thread:

Gdoc porn with a friend

The last thing I want is Google giving me an AI summary of my TS.

That’s just such a dumb lie, too.

Obviously lying to get TS (or anything, but TS is particularly violating) is bad, but like… just wait two weeks my dude, it’s not hard.

@helvetica Aye, my read of it was similar and so was my reaction. It was less “I don’t believe you” and more “… more details please, spill all of the tea.”

@Rathenhope said in MU Peeves Thread:

@Tez GDPR compliance. TS can only be between EU member states.

Outside of the EU it’s just sparkling cybersex.