Posts made by mietze

@catzilla i understand. It’s just that when I see those mistakes I think wow they’re not very good at writing rp hooks before they have a chance to rp the character/maybe they don’t have a sense of them yet. So maybe I’m just willing to give them more benefit of the doubt than some. I’ve seen a lot of looks great on wiki pcs that were very difficult to RP with in practice because either they were rigid about their vision and unable to really RP with anyone or they were selfish in scenes or were only willing to sit back and let others come up with things for them to react to, ect.

People who suck at writing interesting rp hooks can be all those things too. But I just don’t really think rp hooks have much of an impact especially in the beginning stages. Esp as required by CG. I’ve even played on mostly all roster games where rp hooks were rather tepid or limited to profession/very basic and not very interesting stuff. So really you had to just kind of give people a chance. Maybe it’s that experience and figuring why the hell just not give someone a chance, they’re likely not going to be worse than a control freak/rping mostly with themselves sort of player, my views have softened over the years.

Sometimes I think its a fine line. When I invest in a merit that is appearance based i will reference it in play when I feel its appropriate and it is kind of fun when other people do too. I’m sure that may annoy people too but its valid I feel and I try to be careful about not using directives but more like “aesthetically pleasing to many standards” or specific features ect.

I dont know i would put that in an RP hook but mostly because I tend to feel that it seems like an unwitting inviitation for certain types of pests to target (not saying it is an actual invitation or it would be their fault but just all those years of experience and observation make me have a flexible bump of worry especially if its also combined with certain other factors).

But I’m also coming from the perspective of seeing RP hooks as a way to either build a background contact/previous off screen experience to have a reason for play or suggestions on what kind of scenes would be easy to spin up with that PC. And looks are tricky because positive or negative if thats supposed to be a draw for interaction then it fizzles if the other pc is used to seeing monsters/other things even more fantastical or isn’t attracted to in the sense of hmmm id like to try and know this person their other features.

I tend to always be willing to give people a chance for at least a scene or two. Some people just aren’t good at coming up with rp hooks but they’re fine in RP! Other people are actually great at rp hooks but then you feel like they are rping AT you and not even bothering to read what you wrote. Which to me personally is far far more annoying. So I’ve found it a not great indicator of qualify. And they’re outdated very very quickly esp for new pcs.

my school (out for the summer for the academic year program but with toddlers through 6th graders still in care for ‘summer camp’) just had to shut down and is now consolidating the programs to one campus with a higher staff visible presence and two weeks of police patrolling because a threat was called in. it is not considered high risk because a lot of schools have been hit with it and it did not come from a local source.

but still.

we did have a suspicious person show up lingering around the day before yesterday that I saw with my own eyes. He was escorted off property by our staff and that was later moved along further by police.

that is kind of what even early childhood educators have to deal with now.

@Pyrephox while i appreciate the spirit behind pretty much everyone who decides to get into animal rescue volunteering, there are some truly unhinged and weird people/orgs out there.

Like fuck me, i thought doing PTA leadership at the regional level was bad (having to referee arguments within the local PTA/deal with legal issues like embezzlement and threats, ect) but my eyes were opened that it can be a lot worse!

Some of the invasive questions and expectations while clearly coming from a place of trauma/past problems…I think I’d be more worried about people who tolerated that stuff than people who noped out!

I really like reading descs, but prefer it to be on a wiki too. Just because I got trained out of the habit of look <name> after being on a few places where someone looking at someone else was broadcast not just to those people but the ENTIRE ROOM.

As someone with cognitive deficits that pretty much require I’m going to have to reference back frequently that was extremely stressful. I feel ashamed sometimes of how many times I have to backreference things by relooking them up even between poses, and having it broadcast was…meh. And spammy and annoying to everyone else. So I love that many places now integrate both image and desc into their wiki, it’s a godsend for someone like me, as are people who note any unusual stuff in their page (yes my bit name is X but I only introduce myself as Y, here is my rank on places where rank/titles are important, ect)

I also really like it when people incorporate their desc or change of clothing in poses. I know that irritates a lot of people but for me it helps with visualization. I’ve got the opposite problem in that while I enjoy visual images it’s almost always more about the mood, and I actually tend to think of that with others too–I don’t visualize them exactly like their images on their pages either. I think that’s why the AI images don’t jar me terribly unless they’re unintentionally funny, because to me, PB/art/AI to my brain has always been a suggestion.

In the same way the written desc on the character object is a suggestion too. People can look so different with change of expression, and they’re dynamic, not static. This is why people incorporating aspects of their descs or whatever is really enjoyable to me in RP because it is really cool (to me) and helps create that mental picture for me when I’m RPing with someone.

I tend to get a little down when it seems like nobody is paying attention to that, but I know that’s a me thing.

@Jennkryst this is the typical pattern for this guy, he did it for years on MSB.

@bear_necessities maybe it’s just a matter of reading enough of it that you develop a sixth sense. I’m not there yet to be honest. The only time I’ve got pings has been over a bunch of room descriptions that seemed just really off compared to how that person RPed (lots of You feel X when you see in the room descs when they NEVER did that sort of thing in RP, or example. Or when I saw a bunch of things obviously generated at the same time that also appeared together, (like a bunch of room descs hitting the grid at once with a weird similarity that was hard to put a finger on that i probably wouldn’t have noticed just slowly discovering those rooms organically via play/looking for scene locations, ect.

@STD if you tend to have male PCs or they have names that are more gender neutral, you most likely won’t hear from jill

Holy shitballs, i have to say about almost a week in that the cgm is amazing and is already helping me a lot in trying to figure out how I can stay on top of things. I don’t want to get into too big of a detail because most people don’t want to hear it, but if you’re considering one either for medical reasons or I can certainly see why there’s going to be an otc one soon for people who want to use it for health reasons, I’m happy to talk about it with folks via PM or whatever. I’m really glad that my doctor was cooperative and that it’s frankly even more helpful than I thought it would be.

@RightMeow if i’m not sure what to do/where to go regardless of if i’m the asker or askee, often times i just admit that. it doesn’t happen often for me as i’m good at brainstorming, but sometimes i do ask people if there’s anything they would want in particular just because, well, if i don’t know them or they don’t have asps or prefs or anything set i mean i can fling a lot of ideas out there but having someone say no i don’t like that again and again is kind of a bummer too so it never hurts to ask.

but i think it’s also okay to say “this is a little awkward but i hadn’t gotten to that stage yet because i was fretting about asking, so let me think about that for a minute, is there anything that YOU don’t want other than the no-brainers?”

i think anyone that is so hung up on people asking them in exactly the right way the first time upon meeting that they will never scene with you ever again probably isn’t a loss for you. in fact, steering clear of folks like that might be the recipe for happiness on the game so you don’t have to play walk on eggshells. most people aren’t like that. maybe they’ll have a brief moment of annoyance, or laughter because accepting used up all their momentary energy so they need to think too, but they’ll get over it. if they cannot then it would have been only a matter of time before you got yourself disinvited from sceneing with their august person anyway.

I got approved for a cgm so I feel so cyberpunk. I’m excited though I think it may help figure out some patterns and timing so I don’t feel quite so crummy a lot of the time!

Resurrecting to share something I’ve been making pretty frequently because it’s really tasty and is a quick way to get my protein even on the fly (i double batch it) or to toss into a salad or whatever if i’m having to make a lunch for work last minute). I love all things smoky/burnt-ish, plus these things are nice and chewy too (also a lovely texture for me). I thought i’d share! the partner and kids tend to steal these too when they’re right out of the oven. Plus it’s easy and takes minutes to prep and just 20 minutes to bake.

Tofu Crumbles

About 400g Tofu (firm or extra firm, pressed so excess water is removed, I don’t bother pressing if it’s fresh/not packaged in water)
2 tsp paprika
1/4 tsp turmeric
1/2 tsp garlic powder
1 tbsp nutritional yeast
1 tsp sea salt
2 tsp liquid smoke
1 Tbsp oil of choice (i prefer avocado or sunflower for this one), or oil spray of choice.

Preheat oven to 400F

Combine all dry spices in small bowl and mix well.

Crumble the tofu into a large mixing bowl, crumb sizes should be chunky breadcrumb (stuffing?) sized but i like to have some bigger chunks in there too and the teeny ones get all nice and crunchy so it’s fine.

Put the spice mix in with the tofu and toss until everything is coated evenly. then pour in liquid smoke and toss again.

Spray a baking tray well with the oil spray or spread the oil in the pan. Put pan in the oven at temp for a couple of minutes until it starts to smoke a bit (around 5 minutes but if you’re using spray might wanna watch this closely).

Pull out tray and dump the crumbles on it, spread them evenly and return to oven for 20 minutes, stir about halfway through.

Once they’re done if you let them cool for about 5-10 minutes they get even crispier! I think they’re great over the next few days (store in fridge) but they don’t really last at my house more than one extra day.

I never have problems coming up with scenarios, I think folks that rp with me will confirm that, but on games I have alts on its not unheard of me to offer either alt based on player pref since I don’t know which one of theirs they might be wanting to either rp because its easier or they are trying to get more time on them and don’t have as much opportunity or that some people’s pcs just are more limited than mine so they’d prefer one over the other.

As someone who is rarely proactively asked to RP and has to do a lot of the asking/arranging if I want to RP it sucks to worry that people are going to judge me for that or they won’t give me a chance because I offered to be flexible but otoh I don’t really have a choice but to brush it off and keep asking if I want to be able to RP.

As an asker there are plenty of people who accept and then don’t know what they want too. Oh anything is good/no not that my pc wouldn’t go there. Its a fine line to dance as an asker because I’m sure those folks get judgy if you don’t come up with the right guess too. When two players agree to rp im not sure I think either one owes the other a greater set up responsibility esp if there wasn’t a specific scene invite. It’s good to touch base to make sure its something that works for both which can be hard for randos so you may have to ask would you prefer the vampire alt or the werelobster?

If I have a strong pref for something specific I solicit that on chan (I’m going to set a scene in X, would anyone like to join me?) But absent that i like to see who I get, look at any aspirations and then might ask them if they have any prefs. I dont think everyone does that but I don’t see it being really abnormal either.

@Aria wait what there’s a fake nipple in there or like a patch for your own? i could have FOUR nipples, in theory?!?

@Pavel that’s my thought as well, to be clear. the best they can.

no matter how hard one tries to be “fair” though there are always going to be people saying it’s not good enough. maybe it wasn’t for them, but there’s only so much a staff person can do.

they can’t know someone’s interested in something unless they speak up at something they see (or like, respond to inquiry). if someone doesn’t understand something they’re not going to know that without being told. i’m not really sure how staff is supposed to make sure that nobody gets the spotlight “too much” for any given person’s taste because a lot of time it’s the people who show up/make inquiries. people don’t like to hear that (and i do get the grumpiness over it, i’ve felt that in the past pretty often even though intellectually i understood that i wasn’t turning in requests or communicating with staff, so what did i expect), but i would say in a soft majority of cases i think that’s true.

i also think that’s where the “if you don’t trust leave” stuff comes from too. when you get to the point of having a ton of resentment, it’s not salvageable on the game a lot of the time. it’s stressful for everyone to deal with when someone feels that way AND desperately wants to hook into the metaplot/larger game. Sandboxing with friends can be enjoyable if you can turn off the desire to be part of the bigger picture.

maybe it’s just me being in my stuff, but it seems like it’s probably pretty hard to be a staffer now. i know i’ve been shocked lately to see habitual no shows across games, and a passivity that i mean sure some people did years ago too, but it does feel more common now to me, and i’m only seeing things playerside.

i’m not really sure what staff is supposed to do, though.

“fair” is a pretty tricky thing to get right, and people feel what they feel (and sometimes what they feel isn’t something that is anyone else’s fault).

that feeling of relief when 2 people respond to your kid’s birthday party invite (was sweating that it’d just be family on saturday, though the college kids are all coming home for it) in the positive.

i think in general kid parties seem to have never really recovered post-covid, but also kaiju is so adhd and goes to a very small neighborhood school (same kids in same class since school reopened) so everyone had to deal with the adhd behavior (though he’d doing so awesome now) and my parent heart always wonders if that’s why no invites to him (my other 3 were all quirky in their ways, but at this age like every weekend there was something. But like the two moms that texted me back were like “hey they’re so excited, this is the first birthday party of the year” so also relief in maybe it’s not just us.

sometimes it just takes time. it’s really only been in the last year that i can deal with really going after stuff in requests (follow up on ic news posts, ect) or asking about stuff, even though i’ve been friends with the staffers for years some of them.

the thing is i’ve always seen this as my problem to solve (also why I don’t tend to assume too much about people doing a lot of stuff visibly, i always assume they don’t have my hangups for asking to be involved.

i am well liked on the games i play, by staff and others. they’re happy to engage and hear from me. this has been the case for longer than this year, but i think it just takes time for some people to really find a place where they can settle and let go of some of the anxiety/guardedness. i’ve staffed so i should know better about not worrying about bothering people, but i just think some of us are like that. i’m really enjoying the times i’m able to overcome it though.

The realities of dealing with illness and a chronic condition are hitting pretty hard. Trying to keep my chin up, I’ve certainly navigated even more stress in my life but im pretty tired and airplane crud sucks and not even in a fun way. I am used to being able to power through just about anything. I feel pretty gross and annoyed to not be able to anymore.

@helvetica ohhhhhhh ok. I can’t believe I didn’t get that! Duh!