@Herja I think that’s probably a good method for keeping yourself healthy and happy, but I also think it’s a little sad in that it requires a start position that people only wish to engage in a transactional manner. I don’t mean this to be judgmental or that you need to change or anything, I just read this and it brought me down a bit. You clearly state that it some and not all, so I’m not trying to make this a defining thing for you, but I just wanted to respond in general.
I have definitely been, and really still am, one of those people that bounced, more than I’ve ever stuck, and it has never been because I did not enjoy particular people I RP’d with or that I was only hoping for something from them (once again knowing you don’t mean everyone).
I almost always bounced from a MU for reasons to do with my own inability to find a sticking point. With things like discord and the like now, it’s easier to stay connected to people even when you don’t stick, but despite us probably never having played together, I’m sure there were others like me who enjoyed their IC connections with you despite failing as RP partners.
I lost the point somewhere, probably didn’t have one, other than maybe generally feeling it’s too bad that setting that expectation is the safer bet.