@InkyTheGhost said in Numetal/Retromux:
Blossom’s player is not the creepy stalker. She is kind, extremely loyal, unafraid to speak her mind, and one of the best writers I’ve RP’d with in decades of playing on MU*s.
She is a great writer, great enough that I often threw away red flags when I received them. She has a lot of good qualities; she also sent things to my house that I found uncomfortable, would page me when I was in scenes angrily if I wasn’t in scenes with her instead, tried to dictate who I could and couldn’t RP with, and got very cold whenever I disagreed with her about anything. She was highly OOCly motivated and had trouble telling the difference between IC/OOC more often than I thought was appropriate.
Two things can be true at the same time. I don’t think Blossom as a person is inherently evil at all, but I choose to cut contact once because her interactions with me were getting obsessive, forgave her for the reasons you stated and with help from Sundance on Liberation, and have since cut contact again for other reasons.
My feelings about Blossom player are conflicted because we were friends for a long time, but the reason I brought her up was because she was the one who begged me to come to Retro, who is closely connected to Sephiroth (she plays his Giovanni mom on that game for those who don’t know), and who has gotten lots of staff favoritism IMO, plus has a strong friendship with Chaos. So it is relevant, she was deeply involved in several of these situations.
To be clear, I don’t think she’s the reason why Retro is a bad game. But I do feel that Retro being a bad game is the reason why she is there. Because the game has very loose controls, or they happen too late, it creates a negative feedback loop which attracts a certain kind of player and encourages or excuses their behavior when it does happen. I think the MU youngins are calling what she does ‘harem-building’ these days, we just called it a clique. She gathers players who agree with her IC/OOC around her, building a small community that goes outside of the game, and those who act out of lockstep OOC or IC have a tendency to be ostracized OOC and IC until they conform. I don’t think she does it for nefarious means, but because she can’t be assed to RP with people she doesn’t like–which, fair enough. I also don’t think it creates a healthy community in a MUSH either, since it’s a shared space that suffers from getting cliqued out even further than it already is by definition. It’s a gray area, innocent at first, but it tends to spiral out of control if left unchecked for too long and I see it unfolding again on Retro.
These cliques tend to have staffers from their ranks who join and change the narrative to suit their own, get mad when something doesn’t go their way at some point, then we see a mass exodus of players/staffers and games die or take a while to recover–best case scenario, the group disbands and bad feelings all around which leads to future drama. Best example of this is the Reach with VASpider, but other examples exist–at least one of which Blossom-player was the faction head of, at a game where I staffed like 10-15 years ago. 
Anyway, thought I’d take a minute and explain my reasoning for what I said in my OP. I don’t hate the player, or you, or really anyone in the situation except maybe Eddie. In general, I’m just happy to be away from the game and those people and I’m sure the feeling is mutual and that’s cool. You were always a blast to RP with though, and the least problematic person ever. So kudos to you for that lol.
